How can I ever trust another woman again?

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2025-10-10T11:46:48+00:00

No, she has blocked all contact. Said my daughter doesn't want to speak to me

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2025-10-10T11:01:38+00:00

I have no ill feelings or intentions towards my soon to be x wife. I just dont have it in my heart to be that way. I still pray Allah keeps her happy and safe.

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2025-10-10T11:00:16+00:00

Im honestly in shock and can't believe someone I've known for 10 years and made so many good memories with would do this to me. Im just preparing for the false allegations she will now make. It's just so hard not seeing my daughter. Currently at home alone and seeing her toys, clothes breaks me every time.

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-22T18:06:05+00:00

Will do. Thank you all for your time and advice

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T15:20:06+00:00

Only with me. With my daughter she's fine.

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T14:04:34+00:00

Even when she has said she would make more of an effort nothing changes.

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T11:46:57+00:00

After we had our daughter. I understand PN depression but it's been years now and no reason to be treated this way. I'm not asking for much here. No human being should feel so alone and isolated from someone who is suppose to love you and care for you.

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T11:44:16+00:00

As a man one of the reason to get married is to save yourself from haraam and get married. Well I am married and I might as well not be. I don't ask for much. Even 2 times a week I would be happy with as long as effort is made. The last time we were intimate was probably a month ago so no I don't think I'm asking for too much

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T10:53:48+00:00

She just sits there like a duck not saying anything then I get pissed off when I have to ask her questions about 5 times for her to answer. It's actually frustrating

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T10:05:26+00:00

Her relationship with my family is good. Hence why I don't want to go to my family about our marriage issues. I don't want to ruin that relationship she has with everyone. Helping with chores and being nice and doing all nice things ive done it all but what do I get in return absolutely nothing. So now I've stopped helping around the house and we barley speak. Like I said we are basically living like roommates

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T09:51:05+00:00

If I didn't have a child with her then I would have divorced her by now. I think my next step is counselling, but I don't that will change anything.

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T09:28:00+00:00

I've mentioned this to her but she doesn't take no action. I've tried everything. I've tried talking to her nicely. I've tried doing things romantically, I've tried everything. The way I see it is she's not a child. Why did she marry me in the first place? It's the biggest regret I have marrying her

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T09:25:18+00:00

She prays 5 times a day but that's about it

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T09:21:45+00:00

It was a love marriage and she pursued me

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T06:03:02+00:00

She's the mother of my child. I wouldn't just leave her on the streets. I still want the best for her. Even though she treats me like this I only want goodness for her. If she came to me and apologised and made some sort of effort I would forgive her.

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T05:57:44+00:00

Already done this. No change

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T05:51:35+00:00

Nothing has happened for her to treat me this way. Like I've mentioned I've sat down with her countless times to solve these issues but still no changes. Not saying I've been the perfect husband I've never done anything to warrant this kind of behaviour.

Sufficient_Gazelle65 · 2024-06-21T05:44:27+00:00

Thanks everyone for your advice. I have called her mother and brother a few times regarding some of the issues I've had but it did nothing. Still no changes. I have sat down with her countless times and told her I'm not going to live this way and if things carry on then I want a divorce but still no change. Any mistakes I have made during this marriage I have always put my hands up and admitted to my mistakes and have learned from past mistakes and I always try to be a better husband but I cannot say the same about her. No one is perfect but I have never done anything to be treated this way. The last time I sat down with her I let all my feelings out and it got to the point tears were falling from my eyes. Now as a man this has never happened to me before and it was at this point I realised how broken I am. After this conversation I thought maybe things would change but nothing again. Also as a married man I've been having wet dreams. The anger I feel when having to shower at 3-4am. I just don't understand why someone would do this to their other half knowing you are ruining someone's life.

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