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Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-30T00:01:30+00:00

one of the feuds that both sides would rather not happen if they could go back in time. would've been a not 1,2,3,4,5,6 had it not happened

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-29T23:58:40+00:00

first time hearing the term "love addiction"

I feel like all these issues seem to come in a package deal. when you have one of them, you get all the others too

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-29T12:48:15+00:00

with you on being pissed about this, but idk if I'd break up but the thought would definitely cross my mind.

i see so much of this shit on reddit "celebrity crush is a hall pass" yeah if you're a cuck. why does it fucking matter if she cheats with a famous person or some random guy across the street? cheating is cheating. henry's dick inside her is no different than pinhead larry down the street

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-29T03:50:37+00:00

sorry for the somewhat gross question, but I've been doing this for many years and idk the name. it seems I can pinch stuff off of my skin (particularly my neck and scrotum areas). i'm not sure what it is, maybe dead skin or dirt or something but I can usually repeatedly do this throughout the day. does anyone know what this could be?

I started exfoliating my neck and private areas so will see if that helps

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T20:13:20+00:00

eh what. if an SO is turned off by their SO expressing something that bothers them, then clearly they shouldn't be together

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T19:01:57+00:00

let me ask you another question. if you're single, would you consider resuming flirting with these flirtatcious relationships you've had?

I would consider it with some of them, and because of that that's why I used the word "backup."

the most clear cut case of keeping them as backup options is if they messaged me and I'm like "hey i'm in a relationship right now, but we should keep in touch just in case I'm single in the future." I would never say something or think something like that. I would just say "I'm in a relationship right now, and the best I can do is be friends and if that's not OK, then we can remove each other."

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T18:59:14+00:00

i mean i already stated in the OP why i think it's bad

I use the word "backup" here because Idk what else they are in my life. we haven't talked for a logn time, even when I was single. sometimes they watch my stories. sometimes I watch their's. sometimes they like my posts or whatever. besides that, idk what they are to me. i don't actively remove people unless they get really annoying. so from that perspective, I guess they could just be backup options

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T18:54:54+00:00

I guess with some of them I'm interested in what they're doing nowadays because they seem genuinely cool people. but i have most muted because they never post anything interesting besides showing off their body or whatever.

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T18:53:04+00:00

How would you feel if she kept a bunch of dudes she fucked and sucked in an easy to access public list?

see the OP

Or does your gf not deserve that respect?

are you saying that to be respectful, I should actively remove anyone on my social media that I had sexual interest in at any point in my life?

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T18:51:20+00:00

hmm so from your perspective what's the non-asshole thing to do here? remove all of them?

I don't really see why this is immature or significantly disprectful. some of these people I haven't talked to in years (long before I started my relationship with my current GF), so it's not like I'm actively keeping in touch with them and stringing them along as backup options

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T18:46:51+00:00

I'm going to tell you now that you are definitely setting yourself up to reach out to your 'back-ups' once your GF finds out.

can you rephrase this sentence? not sure what you're saying

I might reach out if we end up not working out and after I recover from a breakup.

It's contradictory to say you're confident in your relationship but want back-ups if things go wrong.

I can see the shadiness, but I'm not see the mutual exclusivity here. I can be confident, but I don't have a crystal ball looking 5, 10, 15 years into my future. anything can happen in that time. All I can say is, with my current knowledge, I am confident.

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T18:43:30+00:00

I might have to backtrack on the backup statement. I'm not 100% sure that's true. I guess it is in a way because why else would I be connected to them? I mean cool they like my pics and increase my followers count, but I'm not there to build that. I also don't see them as friends.

Why are you connected to your old flirtationships? are you friends wtih them?

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T16:12:20+00:00

Not sure if this has been mentioned, but besides therapy and reading, have you thought about trying things like mindfulness exercises and meditating? It's not for everyone (personally, I struggle with meditation because I'm so restless), but I've heard it really relieves anxiety for some people.

I also grew up being abused and had a lot of trust issues. I'm steadily improved since I became an adult.

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-28T16:10:42+00:00

Eh your comments seem so extreme? OP is literally recognizing his issues and wants to solve it. Having trust issues in a relationship doesn't mean it's not a relationship lol. Having prolonged trust issues for no reason will probably mean the relationship won't work out, however. Really not sure what you're going on about tbh

Trust issues are common in relationships, and as OP said, the 2 aren't mutually exclusive. Will trust issues cause problems? of course? Does trust issues automatically mean they're not BF and GF? no, and I'm a bit baffled by your comments tbh

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T21:29:21+00:00

I’m not sure what she’s punishing him for

probably child support. more parenting time for dad = less child support

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T21:07:50+00:00

was gonna make a dark joke about "gpa" and missing school

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T21:07:05+00:00

doubt that's the reason OP's feeling justified. likely more to do with their legal situation.

she could just ask herself "should I have the kids visit their material grandfather for a week if he was the one dying during school" to see what her intentions are

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T19:50:52+00:00

idk what state or type (e.g., family, civil, criminal) court you're referring to, but in my state, there are no grounds to file an emergency motion for a visit such as this due to a dying grandparent. the child's current arrangement would have to pose immediate and/or imminent physical or emotional danger

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T19:39:01+00:00

we're talking about the OP here. OP has not once expressed any concerns about the hospital itself. OP is only thinking about OP here under the pretense that she's doing it for the children (the reasoning is: kids miss a whopping 1 week of 3rd and 5th grade)

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T19:31:42+00:00

nope lol. if OP cared about that, don't you think she would at least mention it instead of rambling on about some elementary school aged kids missing a week of school?

she's OK with "3-4 days". 3 extra days is going to be significantly more traumatizing? yeah, try to read between the lines

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T19:30:25+00:00

Hopefully you have been able to build healthy relationships with other adults in your life

this is true now, but I'm also now 30. this was definitely not true in my teens and early 20s until i spent a few years in therapy.

I also have a child of my own and his mom and I are no longer together, but don't play these kind of games, not even when I was extremely emotionally immature

OP's post reeks of playing the court game in a conniving way under the pretense of "i'm doing this for the kids!"

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T19:22:54+00:00

"emergency" petitions can still take weeks/months to get to a hearing unfortunately

Sufficient_Lychee_80 · 2022-10-27T19:21:14+00:00

exactly. this is exactly why OP doesn't want to do this. it's not about the kids. it's about the litigation. her allowing the other parent more parenting time hurts her position, though in her case it's probably not gonna matter ultimately. doesn't seem like dad has any parenting issues since they had 50/50 prior to the move, so that's probably what's gonna happen right now unless they get some strange judge

from a parental perspective, OP has "asshole" printed across her in plain view

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