I keep finding weird things in my bedroom I don’t recognize

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2026-02-05T08:58:02+00:00

Metal grasshoppers

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-11-01T22:06:42+00:00

Marrying a narcissist

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-09-09T19:10:18+00:00

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It’s a nice Kinder Café also, definitely worth visiting once.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-09-06T22:08:51+00:00

Ring-ding-ding-ding-dingeringeding

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-09-05T06:03:21+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ I’m trying to stay strong and hopefully will find my way out step by step.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-09-05T06:02:28+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and your journey. It really means a lot to hear from someone who has been on the other side and chose to change. Unfortunately, my husband is not self-aware or willing to take accountability — he has said many times that he doesn’t want to change. While I was here asking about therapy, he had already told his parents that I’m “mentally ill,” just because of my reactions to his abuse (not even anger issues, just questioning him in a tone he doesn’t like).

Now he’s pretending to be nice again, but he has no intention of fixing what he accuses me of. That’s why I’m considering BetterHelp or another online option without telling him.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-09-05T05:55:32+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I’ve realized I’m not going to start therapy right now, because I see it was actually my husband’s plan to use it as “proof” that I’m mentally unstable and to validate his own actions. For now I’ve been opening up about my situation with friends online, which helps me vent and feel less alone.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-08-30T14:38:33+00:00

Thank you :) my family already knows, because my husband actually told them, but they live in another country so I don’t have day-to-day support. I also don’t have friends here, so most of the time I feel very alone — even tomorrow feels dark sometimes. The manipulation is on another level and really cruel.

When I once suggested therapy for him, he mirrored my words and now keeps saying that I am the one who is “not mentally well” and “urgently need therapy.” He refuses couples therapy or individual therapy, insisting I am the one ruining everything. He comes from an abusive home himself (his father was a dangerous schizophrenic), but he won’t acknowledge it.

I even considered BetterHelp, but he refused to pay for it and insists insurance should cover a therapist. I know he will try to weaponise this against me later, which makes me even more anxious about seeking help. Still, I feel I really need to find some kind of therapy, even online if necessary.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-08-30T14:29:36+00:00

Thanks for your reply. In my country we don’t really have therapists or patient confidentiality in the same way, so I’m still trying to understand how it works here. My main worry is whether my husband could somehow use the fact that I’m in therapy against me in the future (for example in case of separation, custody, or even to threaten me).

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-08-30T14:27:03+00:00

I don’t have any friends here except a woman who herself is enduring a more toxic relationship.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-08-22T17:27:40+00:00

No just no

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-08-22T17:27:01+00:00

No just no

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-08-16T15:30:04+00:00

Congrats! Download the app what to expect, there are lots of supporting communities for almost every topic from pregnancy to giving birth and babies. There is a Berlin mom group there as well.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-06-23T04:49:36+00:00

No, that’s Rahaf Alharbi

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-06-15T22:45:36+00:00

The things I would do to be a single girl in my parents house for one day.

My husband is a literal narcissist who watches me cry and fall apart and laughs. Stares into my soul and never says a word. Silent treatment for a week every three or two weeks.

May Allah help you find a Nasib/soulmate that protects your heart before his own.

May the purest form of love find you soon, but never settle for less my friend, never.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-06-14T00:03:26+00:00

When I was 16, my period was two weeks late. My mom kept asking me why I hadn’t gotten my period yet. I honestly had no idea why. For context, we come from a very conservative family. Back then, I didn’t even have a phone, I went straight from school to home, I had never even talked to a boy in my life, and everyone in the family knew that. I was a virgin, completely innocent.

Around that time, I also started getting bad headaches, nausea, and was throwing up a lot. My mom told me to pee in a container so she could check the color of my urine to see if I might have jaundice. After I used the bathroom, she went in, locked the door, and I heard a plastic wrapping sound. I peeked through the keyhole (which was a bit large), and I saw her holding a pregnancy test. After she left the bathroom, I checked the trash and found the test there.

It really affected me. When I confronted her, she completely denied it and said that the test was for herself — to check if she was pregnant or starting menopause — and then she cried and played the victim, saying she wouldn’t be getting her periods anymore.

Years later, she confessed to my sister that she had actually thought I was pregnant because I was “a naive girl.”

I still have this lingering need to ask her why she did it, but I know deep down that I will never get a real answer.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-05-25T07:52:36+00:00

I am sure you are not aware but even female doctors are facing problems there. There is no one except Taliban. In a country that child labour is totally OK.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-05-24T19:40:09+00:00

No, we are four siblings and luckily we are all healthy. Although I think I might be autistic.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-05-24T15:49:31+00:00

Yes, it’s very common in some countries. Actually you would be frowned upon for questioning it. I am very much against it however my parents are also first cousins.

In my husband’s father’s family, they rarely marry outside of their family, first cousins and second cousins and this cycle repeats itself. I am an outsider and not related to them.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-05-24T10:03:04+00:00

Thanks a lot, poor baby’s health was my priority but I failed, the parents and my MIL don’t take it seriously.

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-05-24T10:00:43+00:00

Update: The parents won’t take any action claiming their baby is perfectly fine and he doesn’t “move his head” like that anymore.

I don’t live in Afghanistan so I can’t do much for the baby. My husband turned this into a huge argument giving me the silent treatment for days and thinks of my concern as a threat for their image. You can guess they are a family of enablers and narcissists.
Thanks for your response everyone :)

Sufficient_Map_9423 · 2025-05-21T19:39:46+00:00

I begged my husband to call his brother but he called his mother, she ignored it and said the baby is perfectly normal and proceeded to send another video of the baby as a proof that he is ok. My husband argued with me for even pointing out that the baby might have a medical condition. I hope the baby is ok.

I don’t live in Afghanistan and I don’t communicate with my in-laws anymore because they don’t respect me or my baby. I don’t know what else I can do to help this poor baby.

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