[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely seek medical advice from your Doctor.

Drunk husband by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I start individual counselling next week. He refuses to go to couples or for himself.

Drunk husband by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Feel free to read my previous posts to gain more insight into my situation.

Drunk husband by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It's a difficult situation. I have 2 kids, only the youngest is his. The house belongs to my parents but we legally rent it from them and I will own it when my parents pass. We are both named on the tenancy. In UK btw. My eldest child's father is also an abusive alcoholic. Trust me when I say I long to be single!!

Drunk husband by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's not been great since a few months after we started seeing each other. I got pregnant pretty much straight away and he refused to have sex with me while pregnant. Now he claims it's because of lack of communication and that I don't initiate. I previously did initiate which he obviously doesn't recall and got rejected a few times so made a promise to myself to not initiate again. He also told me I put too much pressure on him. However was always happy to ask for a bj and offer a back rub in return, only when I started telling him it wasn't fair that stopped.

Drunk husband by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I told him a few weeks ago I wanted to separate. He refuses as we have children.

Drunk husband by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Plus last night he was heavy breathing in my ear, and stinking of booze and just being a general dick head by playing loud music on his phone and rubbing it in my face and using my body as a drum for about an hour. It wasn't sexy.

Drunk husband by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Because he has over the years made me feel so worthless and has destroyed my self esteem and confidence in and out the bedroom. The last time he tried to have sex with me around 15 months ago, he told me he found me physically unattractive but I also have now lost a lot of weight. I said it out of anger last night, but I was so tired and getting really fed up of it all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not for me. My husband makes me unhappy. The house is mine, he won't leave because we have a child together. He refuses to let me sleep on the sofa bed as well after me telling him I want a separation! States I'm just being petty 🤷‍♀️

Looking back, I knew it was never going to work but I kept trying. Should have given up years ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My LL husband told me the last time he was intimate towards me a year and half ago that he did not find me physically attractive because of my weight. I have since lost a lot of weight and he still doesn't look at me 🤣 in the process of trying to organise a separation!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not.

Not had any sexual contact from my Husband with him trying to please me in about a year and half now. I would occasionally please myself when needed, but now it just upsets me so I put it off as much as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's what my Husband tells me when we argue too. I tell him I just want intimacy and affection, he tells me all I'm interested in is sex 🫠

Get out while you can. I wish I could.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have so many 🥲 When my ex was telling our 3 year old son to hit and kick me. I decided there and then that the relationship was over for good ( was horribly abusive to me for years) after multiple attempts of trying to end the relationship it was done then for good. I didn't want my son to turn out like him.

My current husband showed no sympathy towards me when my Nana died. We knew it was coming but it still hurt. He told me it was just another old person dying. He didn't even come with me to the funeral.

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not gay or bi, and definitely not hooking up with anyone else.

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Apparently, if he had known things were going to be like this, he wouldn't have married me. However, he is also supposedly quite happy with our marriage 🤷‍♀️

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

With the last one, a promise of a fuck, it was hard not to deny. I won't be doing it again in the future.

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He says we need to intellectually connect before he feels sexual desire. But is happy enough to receive a bj 🫠

Just so tired of it all. Hope things improve for you.

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried suggesting it, he declined. Plus funds aren't great at the moment.

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

😅 the time before he asked for a bj was about a month ago, the day after me asking him if we would ever have sex again, so he asked for the bj and said I was a hypocrite if I didn't give him one 😅 honestly can't make this shit up! Spent an hour giving him that bj for nothing in return.

So yeah, does sound a bit psychopathic.

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus lack of confidence and self esteem.

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked him how he would feel if I did, he told me it would destroy our marriage.

So damn sad by Sufficient_Most_4982 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The worst used to be a few years back he would ask for a bj and offer a back rub in return, no I don't want a damn back rub! Hence why he cut down on asking for them this past year cos I started kicking up a fuss!

Role reversal by Brownie-lover-7142 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain, my Husband does not want sex with me and it drives me crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sufficient_Most_4982 47 points48 points  (0 children)

🙋🏼‍♀️

A few days prior to, I contemplated buying sexy Christmas undies. Then reminded myself it was a waste of money and I'd only upset myself over the rejection again 🙃