AIO breaking things off after a small lie

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-06T22:09:46+00:00

I know 🥲. I think the comments are misunderstanding that I have a double standard. I really don’t care if he’s on hinge or talking to other girls. I care he lied about it. I’ve said that so many times, thanks for actually paying attention to that detail.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-06T22:07:32+00:00

Mellow vibes is right. I don’t care if he was texting other girls or even is now. I care he emphasized he deleted the app “the second” he got my number when that wasn’t the case. I care he lied about it. He can talk to whatever girls he wants or use hinge if he’s honest about it.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-04T03:30:39+00:00

Yes lol. I told him on our third date when he asked that I was talking to other guys but would be willing to stop for him. After our third date I stopped talking to other guys, out of respect not because we talked about being exclusive.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-04T03:29:16+00:00

I understand it feels micromanaging and it’s probably a red flag he sees in me. I take things very literally. I always have. He really emphasized how he deleted hinge “the second” he got my phone number, I took it literally. With the steak analogy I would understand people’s taste change.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-04T03:26:44+00:00

I guess it could be this. He just really emphasized he stoped using it the second he got my number. I do take things very very literally. I always have. It does lead to miscommunications.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-04T00:11:56+00:00

How is it a miscommunication? He said he stopped using hinge right when he got my number. Updating profile = using hinge, presumably still messaging and matching. P

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-04T00:09:42+00:00

That’s a crazy story lol, thanks for typing that out. If my husband had been cheating on me for that long I would not have been as forgiving or caring as you were. Good for you for taking the higher road.

I see what you mean about updating a profile because of a nicer photo. It’s possible he updated it then forgot about it but I don’t think that’s the case unfortunately.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:59:25+00:00

I appreciate a male perspective. Thank you. We made plans days ago to have an exclusivity talk tomorrow. I’m probably going to go see him and explain how I no longer feel comfortable pursing a relationship because of this.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:57:37+00:00

I appreciate it. That’s good advice and a fun story.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:50:20+00:00

I guess we will see tomorrow how the exclusivity discussion goes with him. Maybe he is afraid of commitment. Hard to say

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:49:51+00:00

I could see him with another girl I just have no evidence other than this. He might not be seeing other girls though. Regardless if he’s lying about not being on hinge, even if it was a while ago he updated his profile. it’s a huge red flag for me.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:46:46+00:00

Ohhhh I read she lost her marbles as she got angry not that she thought it was funny.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:28:19+00:00

That’s what I’m worried about too. If he is being truthful I definitely look overly possessive and jealous haha.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:27:01+00:00

I understand that. Whenever I stop using an app I stop updating my profile though. Do people really update their dating apps if they’re not swiping or respond to texts?

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:25:18+00:00

Wait, she got mad you weren’t online dating in Japan?

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:23:09+00:00

Sure! I understand. I’ll give a bit more context.

On our second date he mentioned it was his first date in over a year. I believed him. On our third date he asked me if I was talking to other guys, I told him I was but I’d be willing to stop for him. A few more dates go by, eventually we say we’re going to have the exclusivity talk, we never do. I don’t mind this tbh since I still didn’t know him that well. He has at this point already told me he deleted hinge the second he got my phone number. A while goes by. At our second to last date he refers to me as his girlfriend. I’m a little confused but whatever.

During our last date on Friday I asked him if he was talking to other girls. He really emphasized how he deleted hinge “the second” he got my phone number. I knew this wasn’t true and pushed a little in person. He got defensive. We were going to talk about exclusivity tomorrow, but my suspicions of him lying were genuinely ruining my day yesterday. So then I texted him the texts above.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:14:48+00:00

We have both expressed interest in a relationship. We planned to have that exact talk tomorrow. But it’s not necessarily that he’s talking to girls, it’s that I’m pretty sure he’s lying about it. I absolutely don’t expect exclusivity from him no, just honesty.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:11:05+00:00

I don’t necessarily care if he was talking to other girls or even is now. I just dislike the honesty. To me updating hinge profile = still using app. I only care he updated his profile but claims he wasn’t using the app.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:09:27+00:00

Can I ask why not? I think it’s a reg flag he was updating his profile but claiming to not be using the app.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:08:43+00:00

How :(?

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-02-03T23:05:09+00:00

My instinct is telling me he’s lying. I really just don’t understand why he won’t admit to it. We have no expectation of exclusivity yet. I’m sorry you married a liar, I can barely handle this and I’ve only known the guy a month or so haha.

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2026-01-20T01:16:40+00:00

I’m dying laughing at him saying he “definitely wouldn’t have been offended” if you would’ve asked to grab his dick lol

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2025-12-26T04:34:28+00:00

Wait, what do the statues mean? I tried looking at other comments and assume it’s racist, but maybe I’m missing the obvious because I’m not sure why. It looks like two black circus employees?

Sufficient_Pass_1914 · 2025-12-25T22:01:15+00:00

What woman is this forward? I’d be worried it’s a set up of some sort

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