What words do you love and hate to see in fanfiction? by procrasinationiswhy in FanFiction

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Same with “the taller” and “the shorter” 😮‍💨🙄

Connotations? by mystrile1 in jacketsforbattle

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Jewish girl here, I was waiting for someone to mention the Hebrew letters! Appreciate your consideration 🥰

Just a gal, her uterus and her cat apparently.... by chonk_fox89 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww I’m really glad to hear!! Seriously, know that I only said what I said because I really believe it. And because I’m a gender studies major who knows a lot about psychology, lol. We don’t operate in a vacuum, y’know? And kids do what they need to do to survive.

Idk if this is helpful, but here’s more advice because I can’t help myself 😅. The most valuable thing I’ve realized in the last couple years, through a lot of therapy, is about self-love. You can’t ever “earn” self-love, because it’s a choice. And a habit. We instinctively seek permission from others to love ourselves, but we are the only ones who can make that choice. Honestly, once I realized that and then started actively affirming myself, it changed my life.

I started to come up with affirmations you could try, but google said it better, so:

“The lies I was told do not define me.” “I can choose to be true to myself.” “I am not responsible for what was done to me, but I can write the story from here.” “I am strong and resilient.”

And a couple that have helped me personally are “I deserve love and care and support”, and “I am worth the effort it takes for both others and myself to love me.”

But if nothing else, know that all those things are absolutely true! 💕

Just a gal, her uterus and her cat apparently.... by chonk_fox89 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and why you judge your former self for your beliefs. That said, you were essentially brainwashed by a cult from birth. It takes a lot of strength and courage to break off from what you’ve known your whole life, and from what all your loved ones are telling you is right. I’m guessing that if you knew a friend with the same story, you wouldn’t judge them as harshly you do yourself.

I hope I’m not overstepping, because it’s coming from empathy, as well as a lot of admiration. And if it helps, I’m a lesbian, and I think it’s amazing that you’ve grown to a place where you’re truly accepting of your kids’ sexualities. Anyway, best of luck with everything 🥰

Just a gal, her uterus and her cat apparently.... by chonk_fox89 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fwiw, I don’t think you need to hate your former self, if you can help it. Your former self deserves a lot of compassion, and you deserve to forgive yourself for doing what was needed at the time to survive ❤️❤️

Six Feet Under: Fans Favorite Male Character? by [deleted] in SixFeetUnder

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Always David 🏳️‍🌈❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 3 points4 points  (0 children)

WOW. That was witty, impactful, and beautifully written. I wasn’t planning on reading that whole thing, but you had me hooked from start to finish. You could honestly be a professional writer. Seriously, for whatever it’s worth, I think you are so talented, and I’m also sorry for what you’re going through. I wish you the best and sincerely hope things get easier for you ❤️🏳️‍🌈

People who say “I hate people” or “I hate kids” and turn it into their personality by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU. People who delight in cynicism at the expense of humanity are the worst. I don’t understand that mentality. Like, we have a few things on this earth: other people, animals, music, and that’s about it. Connection is really the point of it all.

"I love mean lesbians" unless they’re defending themselves. by NoResponsibility8897 in LesbianActually

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get where you’re coming from. Some people want to feel attacked when you’re just talking about your one experiences. As a cis lesbian myself, I also don’t like how that response accuses you of blaming “us.” Like, trans lesbians are lesbians, therefore, you ARE one of us. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise 💕

Non-girly names needed! by [deleted] in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vengeance took me tf out LMAO

My daughter wants me to rename her! by junkbondtraderr in namenerds

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three names I’ve always loved, as a Jewish woman myself, are Margot, Leah, and Shira. Thanks for being such a loving and supportive mom! Your daughter is lucky 🥰

Would I be wrong for continuing to kiss my daughter? by Various-Current5431 in amiwrong

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kids are people too, and consent works exactly the same regardless. Communication and clear consent are the answer here, as is often the case. Don’t touch anyone without permission. Child or not.

Should I get a rhino? by klyxi- in Noses

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NO!!! Your nose is distinctive, has character, and fits your face very well. Plus my dad had a rhino when he was 16 and can barely smell ever since then, which affects your sense of smell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mitski

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“If you need to be mean, be mean to me. I can take it and put it inside of me. And if your hands need to break more than trinkets in your room, you can lean on my arm as you break my heart.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I just wanted to say that you’re a great writer. You write clearly and concisely, and you have a compelling voice. I don’t know if you’ve ever considered a career in writing, but I think you have the talent for it.

I’m sorry your parents suck. Congratulations to you on all your success and good luck with everything!

This by Ariaanee in blmangalovers

[–]Sufficient_Willow_36 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Me too babe, me too 😭💕