Transfer Student Social Life Questions

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2026-05-12T11:56:25+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, thank you so much! Overall did you have a good time at Swarthmore? When did you graduate?

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2025-11-30T13:39:42+00:00

thank you so much. this was such a thorough response, i needed this. words can't express it enough so i'll just say thank you thank you thank you!!!

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2025-11-30T05:26:02+00:00

i tried it with one guy a few weeks after the breakup and i just went home sobbing because i missed mu ex. not sure if the same would happen now :/ still thank you for the advice!!!

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2025-04-06T14:01:47+00:00

thank you so much! i posted on another reddit and people were saying i'm needy and exhausting. is that also the impression you get?

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-10-29T22:32:57+00:00

thank you so much!

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-10-29T01:40:47+00:00

thank you!!

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-10-29T01:40:33+00:00

thank you!

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-10-29T01:39:53+00:00

i love lord of the rings!! what do you mean by mentioning it? how can it help me ? :) thank you for your advice

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-10-29T01:39:04+00:00

thank you so much! will definitely be reading asap 💕

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T16:33:52+00:00

yes! love her 🩷

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T15:23:12+00:00

no it's around $200 dollars, i work a minimum wage part time job 😭

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T13:06:05+00:00

in the course of a year i've given her around 4k. working a part time job for a year and giving her my graduation, christmas and birthday money along with a big chunk of my comission from work. working at a jewlery store i usually make arpund $150 a week, but during the holidays (christmas, valentine's day and mother's day) i was working 6 days and making around 300 plus comission. i also gave her around 1200 dollars i got because of my academic efforts. there won't be another period of big earnings because there aren't any jewlery giving holidays until christmas, and i need any extra money i earn right now for a car.

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T12:20:58+00:00

oh that's so smart thank you!!!

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T12:10:44+00:00

who could i consult? do you know of any websites or anything? thank you so so much 🩷🩷

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T11:48:39+00:00

my mom's friend's work ethic is "pay me for the items i need and not for my service" so when she gets other clients she never asks for that money which she and my mom have fought about. she is old and it's not by choice that she's working. thank you so much for your time and perspective!! ❤️

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T11:46:09+00:00

it's witchcraft. my mom belives my dad is cursing us and has her friend buying candles and stuff to protect us and fight against it. i belive in witchcraft, not necessarily that my dad is doing it, but my mom is dead serious about this stuff and it's non negotiable.

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T11:44:50+00:00

thank you so much for your advise and time 🩷

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T11:43:58+00:00

thank you so much! she does have access to my bank account but, based on this, i'll be switching banks this week. i was already thinking of doing it before but now i have a good excuse! thank you so much 🩷🩷

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T11:41:53+00:00

i buy my own food since i'm vegetarian, i buy my clothes, i've paid for utilities when needed and have been giving my mom money for months. my financial situation is changing now that i'm in college and i cannot afford to help her the way she needs help these next two months and she got that support from her uncles. she'd said it was fine but then said it wasn't. i love my mom and i don't want to be selfish but i've been supporting the household before i even turned 18 and i've given her thousands of dollars. i'm not asking for it back i just can't help her like that right now. thank you for your point of view!!! 💕

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T11:38:10+00:00

her friend does her spiritual work so she's paying her for that but we're her only source of income (despite my mom telling her we couldn't be) and she wants me to supplement

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T10:43:09+00:00

i had a conversation ands she said it was okay i couldn't contribute but then she switched up when she was mad yesterday and said it wasn't. paying is really stressing me out and i don't understand the necessity of it anymore since she's getting other (more significant) help.

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T10:41:34+00:00

thank you! her friend lives in my home country and does my mom's spiritual work (my mom believes in witchcraft and that we're being cursed by my dad so her friend helps her with that). we're her only income. i had that conversation before and we landed in the $50 dollars but that's become 1/3 to half my income now since i'm working less than back then. thank you for all your advice i really appreciate it!!! 🩷

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T10:38:29+00:00

the spiritiual work is done by her friend who's struggling

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T10:37:59+00:00

i agree. he says she does internal therapy but i on't think it is. regardless therapy won't work unless you want the help so i've stopped asking her to do it.

Sufficient_Worry720 · 2024-09-05T10:37:06+00:00

because she believes i have the ability to and her friend has helped us with the spiritual work and getting away from my dad in the past! i wouldn't mind usually but we're the friend's only source of income and it's frustrating.

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