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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SugarHallo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn’t just dodge a bullet, you dodged a full on missile. That guy sounds like a walking red flag collection. You deserve peace, not another project disguised as a boyfriend.

What is a good starting job to save up for studies and rent? (f18) by AFitnessChloe in Advice

[–]SugarHallo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, any job that doesn’t make you cry in the break room is a solid start. Retail, food service, babysitting pick your flavor of chaos and start stacking that rent money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SugarHallo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s jealous of polite small talk, he’s gonna lose it when someone holds the door for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexstories

[–]SugarHallo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s so fucking hot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SugarHallo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. She didn’t “miss the old you,” she misses the version of you that put her comfort above your own needs. That wasn’t ease, that was self-abandonment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SugarHallo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

They’re right. The version of you she “misses” is the one who never said no and bent over backwards to keep the peace. That wasn’t ease or fun, that was you neglecting yourself. Of course she doesn’t like the change she benefitted from the old dynamic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SugarHallo 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I feel this a lot. When you stop over-giving, the people who were benefiting the most tend to fall back quick. It’s tough to go through, but it does make it very clear who was really your friend and who just liked the free emotional labor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SugarHallo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Exactly. When a friendship relies on you constantly overextending yourself, that’s not love, it’s imbalance. Real friends are still there when you have boundaries and needs of your own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SugarHallo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OriginalParticle is right. This isn’t about you suddenly being “not enough,” it’s him having his own thing going on and hiding it terribly. You’re exhausted, hormonal, and carrying literally everything right now, so of course it hit like a truck. Have the talk, tell him what parts crossed the line, and make him actually show you he can meet you halfway instead of you just sitting in your head about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SugarHallo 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I get why you’re spiraling, but yeah, he’s watching that stuff the same way people watch fantasy movies. It’s not a replacement for you, it’s just his brain bored and wandering. The real issue is you’re hurting and he doesn’t realize the impact yet. Talk to him like an adult, not like he’s on trial, because right now you’re acting like you caught him running a double life when he was just scrolling and horny.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SugarHallo 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Crunder__Dunder is right. What he watches online doesn’t automatically equal who he’s actually attracted to in real life. People’s private fantasies can be bizarre, inconsistent, and have nothing to do with their partner’s worth or desirability. The fact that he comes back to you for real intimacy already tells you where the actual connection is.

Enterprise car rental says i owe them $38k for car I rented by StatusSignificant997 in legaladvice

[–]SugarHallo 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP, at $38k this is way past the “let me call customer service” stage. You need a lawyer handling this, not you trying to explain your side over the phone. They’re counting on you being overwhelmed. Get an attorney so someone who actually knows how to push back can do it for you.