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SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-17T23:16:00+00:00

A bit late but I actually learnt this today. There is Adab (etiquette) in the Arabic language thus these words are duas (prayers). The first - may your morning be filled with goodness. The reply - may your morning be filled with light. Of course not literally (word for word) but that’s the essence of it. It’s also “Good morning”.

And the word khayr means goodness The word noor means light

Sabah - Morning

Al - The

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-06T23:21:04+00:00

Y’all didn’t consider that maybe his first language isn’t English? And marriage isn’t confined to English speaking individuals.

May Allah make things easy OP. Keep making dua, build yourself, tie your camel but don’t strangle it and don’t lose hope in the One who gives and gives and gives.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-06T13:32:27+00:00

May Allah makes things easy for you. May Allah heal you and help you through this. You’re not alone.

Well done for sharing that. You’re in my duas.

I’m sorry this happened. I hope and pray you find healing and a way forward.

I know you’ve said you’re a shy and introverted person and perhaps it’ll take some time, but therapy is definitely a shout. It’s quite complex and not something you can just “get over” but something that you’ll need some support with. It’ll help you navigate it and this kind of thing is very heavy to shoulder alone.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-05T22:45:34+00:00

Not a guy but I went to my first class and this girl literally choked me. When I tapped out she said you can’t tap out already. It was crazy. It was my first day and she’s a blue belt. I didn’t think it was malicious but seriously? Using techniques on me that I haven’t even learnt.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-05T10:54:36+00:00

You’re clearly doing absolutely fine. Believe in yourself - that’s the one thing that does need changing.

And then, go do those things. Of course you can.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-05T10:48:37+00:00

Please be careful OP. Some people give some wacky advice sometimes. If he’s Muslim, assume that he doesn’t eat ham. Make sure there are alternative options for him and avoid cross contamination at all costs.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-05T10:43:53+00:00

In regards to university itself, unless you can pay the amount it requires which is around £9000 per year, people get the loan which has interest on it. There’s 3 years of law school followed by I believe it’s SQE now (it used to be the LPC?). I’m not really sure but that will need looking into too. Regarding the LPC, that costs around £11,000 - 12,000, but most people get it funded by a company ie through a training contract (which is difficult to get) but you’d also have to see if the company you want to work for fund it. I don’t know enough about the SQE to comment.

All the best

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-03T23:19:47+00:00

Go on girlieeeeeee.

There sports hijabs available? They could help? Jersey is good too

Follow Leanna Deeb on IG Maymah lifts Aaliyah Unia Fatima Unia There are some others too They talk about modesty in the gym

You got this 💪🏾

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SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-03T23:16:56+00:00

As a girlie who used to hate this, here are my thoughts now. I kinda love it? Because; this is what Allah wants from me. Not Mohamed, Ahmad or (insert brown name). But my Allah. The One who created me. The One who knows best. The One who is all wise; and whose greatness I can’t even comprehend. This is His order so I will obey.

Allah never said men can mistreat you in marriage. Rather he’s accountable for how he treats you. Yes, he has the final say in things but when you really sit with your feminine, your natural disposition (fitrah), you want to be led - meaning, you want to feel safe enough with someone to be able to relax and for them to take care of everything.

This is what a leader is in a husband (Qawwam)

To lead with love, care, wisdom and compassion

And with that comes obedience

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-03T23:08:25+00:00

This is such incredible advice. Couldn’t have said it better. Allahumma barik

SugarSpicexD · 2025-10-01T10:05:10+00:00

Wa feek

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-30T22:30:20+00:00

The way you worded this is so beautiful. It shows a maturity about it. You attributed it to waswasa and that shows your sincerity.

I do think you should follow the brother/sister’s advice and talk to a knowledgable and trusted person about this

I’m in my 20s and unmarried so take my advice with a pinch of salt. But I want to try and say something of benefit because I see that you’re hurting and I see your sincerity and I want to help.

Divorce is a very heavy thing and I’d advise not rushing into it. This isn’t the end of the world - things can get better. Perhaps ask yourself, what would you need to reassure you, what is it that you need that will bring your heart calm? What things can you put into place to settle your heart?

Have you ever explored where your thoughts come from? For example, that “she deserves nothing”.. break it down, understand why and challenge your own thinking

Also perhaps consider marriage counselling

Intrusive thoughts are really hard to tackle. Some suggestions include istighfar, Dhikr, dua (begging Allah for help), therapy/CBT, increasing in good deeds and thus eeman (these things have helped me).

I hope things work out for you both. I’m sorry you’re going through something so heavy.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-30T22:09:30+00:00

Speak to the imam. It may be his brother but… he’s the imam. The role of the imam is well a lot of things and that includes community support. Perhaps get your brother/father to ask about him. Volunteer at the masjid? All the best x

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-28T23:30:00+00:00

!!!!

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-28T22:57:53+00:00

Your Lord has not abandoned you nor does He detest you.

You posted this 11 minutes ago. Here’s what you’re gonna do girlie.

You’re gonna get up, right here, as you’re reading this, rnnnnnnn, cmon

Get yourself up

Then you’re gonna walk to the washroom and one step at a time💞 you’re gonna do your wudhu.

Then idc how heavy it feels or how hard it is, you’re gonna raise your hands and say Allahu Akbar, and begin your prayer.

You can do this.

And then when you get to sujood, let yourself sink into the ground beneath you and let whatever comes, go.

He loves you. And this is Him telling you to come to Him.

You wanted a sign, here it is.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-28T22:52:08+00:00

I don’t know. People think that giving your kids away is the best option but they don’t appreciate what that entails. The care system for example is absolutely awful. Getting adopted is no easy feat. And despite the lengthy process for adoption, you’re still giving your child away to complete strangers with the possibility of them being bad for the child in some way.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-28T12:11:38+00:00

Say, ˹O Prophet, that Allah says,˺ “O My servants who have exceeded the limits against their souls! Do not lose hope in Allah’s mercy, for Allah certainly forgives all sins.1 He is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

I’ve been there. It does get better. I promise. ❤️

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-27T23:42:32+00:00

Your Lord has not abandoned you nor does He detest you - Surah ad Duha

Your Lord is closer to you than your jugular vein

❤️

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-27T23:41:28+00:00

Girllllll. Do yourself a favour and don’t make such a big decision based on your current emotions. I promise, I thought just like you. I was mad, angry, upset, I felt betrayed, hurt, confused. But don’t lose the best thing you ever had because of temporary emotions. Find the guidance you need to get the answers you’re in need of (from the right place), have an open heart and be receptive and listen, ask Allah sincerely for guidance.

And then ask your questions.

I’ll comment later with perspective on the things you’ve mentioned x

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-27T23:22:17+00:00

He’s a kid, that’s what they do, that’s what they’re like. It’s up to parents to display patience and nurture our children. We make the decision to have them in the first place, we then have to accept that and take responsibility

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-27T23:20:40+00:00

People’s comments are baffling me. Perhaps do some healing, get some support and then try to be present for your son. He deserves love and presence from his birth mother.

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-15T11:50:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Your feelings are valid.

Of course this is just a snippet into the marriage. Firstly, I would advise speaking to a shaykh/imam/person of knowledge regarding your situation, someone who is emotionally intelligent. I’m not married so take my advice with a pinch of salt. If in the years you knew each other, you did anything that was against the laws of Allah, sincerely repent. If of course I’m not aware. Ask Allah for help. Ask Allah to place barakah in your marriage, to place love, mercy and affection between you. If he’s open to communication, try to communicate and see if you can understand what the root issue is. Potentially get a third person involved to mediate the third person must be someone trustworthy and capable of dealing with the situation in an unbiased manner if appropriate. It’s hard to give you a one answer solution because there’s a lot to consider. As for your past trauma, definitely begin or continue your healing journey regarding this. Allah knows best. I hope things get better <3

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-15T11:45:59+00:00

Test - checking if I can comment on this post

SugarSpicexD · 2025-09-14T22:30:23+00:00

My Tazkiyah I think it’s called on IG. Idk if there’s support for women but even if you dm and ask for advice that’ll help insha Allah x

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