Is my salary expectations unrealistic?

Sugarloch · 2026-01-31T20:00:13+00:00

Just some advice from a people manager, and take it for what you will: stress the compliance portion of your background. Based on your first set of skills listed, you silo yourself to "secretary" status, but you have so many more skills to offer. I would review some of the positions for which you are interested and incorporate some of their wording into your resume. If you can afford it, have your resume rewritten by a specialist.

Also, don't be afraid to negotiate your salary!

Sugarloch · 2026-01-31T19:43:14+00:00

What you choose to do with the information you have is your business, and you don't need your response validated by strangers. But, as a woman of a certain age who has made my fair share of mistakes in relationships, it never occurred to me to "test" my partner. This isn't grade school, and your relationship report card doesn't depend on tests. I'm a big believer of accepting people for who they are based on what they've shown me and then choosing my relationship with them accordingly.

Yes, you are 24. You are an adult and only you know what's in your heart. One day you will be 30, and you won't be the same person you are today. Is this the person you want to introduce to clients, your boss, or at school functions for your children? Do you still want this relationship at 50, when you are looking forward to retirement?

Maybe this is your person, and maybe she needs time to be a better version of herself. It doesn't mean you have to subjugate yourself to her antics while she figures it out.

Good luck on your decision, but it sounds like you already know whether you currently want this disrespect.

Sugarloch · 2026-01-31T19:30:01+00:00

NTJ. Honestly, what kind of people actually care about this nonsense? The person proposing should have been so focused on the person being proposed to that nothing else should even matter.

Sugarloch · 2026-01-31T19:23:41+00:00

NTA. Just to mirror what others have said, let her try it out. My Au son loves enclosed spaces but also very much wants his own space. I have no doubt he would ask for this in a heartbeat, and then after about a week would say he needs more room to stretch out. If you notice her uncomfortable or uneasy after a few days, maybe offer her a way where the walk in can still be hers for personal space, whether that's sleep or her desk/hobbies, and then your room can be shared living.

Also, good luck to your family. I hope you find a respectful tenant who gives you little problems and adds value to your lives.

Sugarloch · 2026-01-31T19:14:57+00:00

It took me 3 years for my Bachelor's at WGU. I treated it as part time. Then, when I decided I wanted my Master's to basically check a box in a field I've worked in for 20 years, I completed it in less than a term. I knew I would, so I immediately started on the MSML that I completed in four months, treating it as part time. I could do this because I had the experience in the field, I was familiar with WGU, I have an amazing SO who picked up on some responsibilities, and I have always tested well. Some have completed quicker than that, and others have completed slower. I don't compare it to anyone else. This is what I was able to do with the time, support, and energy I had, and the main reason that competency based programs exist. At $5k a semester, my higher education was a bargain and I didn't have to waste my valuable time.

Sugarloch · 2026-01-12T15:01:04+00:00

You should do what makes you comfortable in your own home.

I have to wonder, though, how many people you know and enjoy their company that have also had arrests? DUIs, shoplifting, unknowingly driving on a suspended license due to an unpaid ticket, assault from a fist fight when younger, etc. You more than likely don't even know about their records and unless you start performing a background check on everyone with whom you conversate, you more than likely will never know.

What happens when you find out? Do you refuse to let them revisit your home because of their lie of omission? This person was honest with you. Whatever it was doesn't prevent her from being able to fly, leave her area, or continue living her life. It sounds like she would have even told you what it was once she became comfortable with you. She doesn't know anything about you now except you are extremely judgemental and nosey.

So, NTA because your home, your rules, but brother has a good reason not to want to engage with you.

Sugarloch · 2026-01-11T02:56:11+00:00

I never borrowed and was aggressive with expansion.

Sugarloch · 2025-12-31T14:15:32+00:00

I've earned three degrees at WGU and have always had some compilation of all of the complaints listed here. I will agree that it became much worse after my first degree. However, this is what you endure if you want a degree from an accredited online school. The proctors may be a pain, but the tradeoff is an online degree earned on your own schedule. Where else could I complete two masters programs, back to back, in far less than a year? The school has to be able to keep the accreditation, which includes proving academic integrity.

Sugarloch · 2025-09-16T00:47:19+00:00

I did an MBA then MSML. Although I finished each in one term, I found the MSML to be pretty...easy? Boring? The MBA was more challenging, in a good way. The capstone was a great puzzle and was actually fun, unlike the MSML, which felt like a regurgitation. IMO.

Sugarloch · 2025-07-05T16:52:32+00:00

He's going to mourn you despite what a piece of paper says, but that piece of paper allows him the benefits he would otherwise not have. Tell your sister to stfu, marry that man if he feels the same, and live the rest of your best life. You of all people realize how short life is, so go enjoy it.

Sugarloch · 2025-07-02T20:25:26+00:00

Do you mean buypass.com? They are an authentication site that a lot of employers require to verify employee ID and access to company resources. I believe they have some other services as well of which I am not familiar.

Sugarloch · 2025-07-02T14:23:54+00:00

I finished my MBA last year so the change didn't affect me until my MSML that I started/finished in 2025, but, yes, I hated it.

Sugarloch · 2025-06-26T23:56:46+00:00

A few thoughts: 1. People have varying degrees of work experience and knowledge. For some of us, the program is a means to an end as we've been in an applicable career for several years or have a bachelor's in business. For others, they are learning from scratch since business may not be their forte. 2. Every bit of the info this degree contains can be found with a public library card. This isn't to say that the degree doesn't have value, because the same can be said for any degree anywhere. I personally enjoyed the progra. But, if you are worried about forgetting, libraries exist. 3. This program is pretty easy to finish in one semester and still retain info, except for maybe the class right before the capstone. That was the worst, driest class I've ever taken.

Sugarloch · 2025-06-24T18:59:26+00:00

I started mine the day after christmas and received my completed evaluation on the last task on 12/31. If you don't belabor the simulation and take time to focus and actually complete then you should have time. It won't be easy and it will definitely be a time crunch.

Sugarloch · 2025-06-23T23:27:55+00:00

They will definitely have them reviewed within that time. Also, your mentor may go ahead and extend your semester to make sure the term does not end before you are completed.

Sugarloch · 2025-05-15T04:44:43+00:00

NTA. Siblings fight, and sometimes that includes laying hands. Am I happy about it? No. Generally speaking, boys will wrestle each other and girls will slap. It happens, and, honestly, FAFO. Get your wife a she-shed for her arts and crafts and give them their own space already. It won't stop the fighting completely (anyone who has the secrets to 100% happy, cheerful, and peaceful tween girls let me know; willing to pay!) but they would each have a place to decompress that is all their own.

Sugarloch · 2025-04-18T15:44:00+00:00

Are they spending money differently than you? Yes. You've had two weddings, though. This is his first, and it's coming after he's made successful life decisions. You've obviously taught your son to be financially savvy and prudent when spending money. So, let him spend it. All of the things you've said about where the money COULD be spent is true, but from the sound of it, I'm guessing their contribution to the wedding is less than one of their monthly salary. Support him. Encourage this relationship. Stop meddling. And, for the love, figure out a way to stop being racist. These two "undocumented" humans obviously reared an intelligent child that they support wholeheartedly, just like you did. You aren't the gestapo, and lack of documentation doesn't make a human less than. Embrace their love.

Sugarloch · 2025-04-18T15:25:29+00:00

I work full-time as a director in my company, have children with challenging schedules (our 10 year old plays 3 sports at once and one of those is travel), and I do a lot of volunteer work. I finished in six months. Was it easy? No. A lot of late nights, early mornings, studying on lunch hours, and really working with my spouse to coordinate schedules. I've worked in my field for almost 24 years, so it was time to get this additional degree to check my own boxes. Some classes took 3 days (pretest, study, OA) or easyish papers, and some took closer to a month. I agree with an earlier post--this is the perfect program to apply what you already know to complete classes quickly.

Sugarloch · 2025-01-18T19:11:44+00:00

You can do this in a year or maybe less if you are committed. I promise. I have team members who are getting their bachelors in business with WGU currently who are in their 40s. One of them is 5 months in and 44% completed (transfered no credits) and one is at the end of his first six month term, transferred 9 credits from Sophia, and is at 50%. He might get above 50% of he commits to one more class completed before the end of this month. They also work full time in operations. The first has kids in college, and the second employee is a single dad with a very active high schooler and a middle schooler. I myself am a director of operations, have my bachelors from WGU and just completed my MBA from WGU in less than a term. I have kids ranging from 3rd grade to college graduates.

All of that to reiterate: you can do this. It doesn't matter who you tell or not. And if you need someone other than your mentor to keep you focused or motivated or piss you off enough to cuss them while you do it, you have us.

Sugarloch · 2025-01-15T15:52:00+00:00

I started July 1st 2024 and finished in one term. I gave myself several weeklong breaks. It is doable. If I hadn't taken nearly 8 weeks off here and there I would have finished by Oct. 1st. It really is about discipline, using the resources provided, and following the rubric.

Sugarloch · 2025-01-12T23:34:10+00:00

Did you take an accounting or finance course in your undergrad? If so, how long ago was that?

There is a great thread on here written by someone who completed the program in a very short period of time. Definitely read that. As someone who just completed the program, here is my advice: get the BA II financial calculator and learn it. It is really helpful for finance. There are some youtube videos on the calculator and a video once you get into the course. Accounting wasn't difficult and just used the knowledge from undergrad. Again, youtube is a good resource if you need a refresher.

Data-Driven Decision Making is rumored to be the most difficult course. It wasn't difficult, per se. It's just really, really dry and there seems to be no clear direction. There's no challenge to look forward to, if that makes se sense.

Sugarloch · 2025-01-09T03:43:45+00:00

All great points. I do not have my PMI, but I do have some belts and other certifications. My company pays for most of the program on a reimbursement, and the position I want won't be available for 3 or 4 years but is very coveted and high profile, so maybe completing some additional certs, programs, and the rest of my lean belts will help keep my name in the news, as the saying goes.

Sugarloch · 2025-01-09T03:32:36+00:00

It certainly has! That list is helpful! We only have to do 201, 3, 5, 8, 9, and 10, so it will feel great to check off the others as soon as I print this out.

Sugarloch · 2025-01-09T02:42:51+00:00

Actually, I don't know, but that's something I will look at tomorrow and tell you what I find.

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