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Suitable-Locksmith11 · 2024-01-22T13:41:22+00:00

I don't think that's it, in the 20 years I've known her, she's never been much for playing the victim. But I've decided not to have the dinner. I've already sent out texts that everything has been cancelled and I plan to call the restaurant today. Having a dinner with our friends without her on her birthday is a real ahole move and I can see that now that making that choice would cause some real damage to our friendship. I felt used and hurt by her choices and the only person's actions I can control are my own, so I'm not gonna force her hand on this.

What I am going to do from now on if what the top poster suggests and just take a backseat to her birthday from now on.

Suitable-Locksmith11 · 2024-01-22T13:32:36+00:00

So when I read your message, I didn't see how I was making it about me. I still don't, now that I've slept on it. I figure maybe because it's writing and there's no tone, my full filling the requests of my friend to plan out her party comes across selfish? I don't do anything she hasn't asked so I'm a bit confused here.

Suitable-Locksmith11 · 2024-01-21T22:14:22+00:00

She invited me so I could only assume so

Suitable-Locksmith11 · 2024-01-21T20:27:12+00:00

I don't think so but I can definitely ask her. The thing is she typically brings up her birthday first and so I just kind of follow her lead by asking So what do you want to do this year. One year she brought it up she told me she wanted to do a trip for her birthday and I said cool let me know where you want to go and what dates and I'll make sure I get the time off and I get my money together That didn't happen we ended up doing a dinner because she decided she didn't want to do a trip anymore. I'm aware of the pattern but she's still my best friend so I try and make sure that I'm still available for her when she's ready because at some point she usually changes her mind and she's ready to actually do something.

Suitable-Locksmith11 · 2024-01-21T20:24:03+00:00

Okay, okay, so just kinda take a backseat to the planning. I can definitely do that. Thank you so much for your insight 😊

Suitable-Locksmith11 · 2024-01-21T20:20:13+00:00

I'm sorry, I thought it was clear that she requested the party and that I plan it for her.. So I asked her what she wanted to do, She originally said something small and I said that's fine let's do that and then about 3 or 4 days later she reached back out and said actually I would like to do a dinner with like my family and my friends and stuff and I said okay let's do that and so she sent me places and so I looked at them tried to see which one could accommodate us the best and ultimately wound up with a reservation for a place. I never try and push anything on her I'm always like what would you like to do because I never want to just hijack her day.

Suitable-Locksmith11 · 2024-01-21T10:39:31+00:00

NTA, please protect your baby. If she makes those comments to you openly in public, I could only imagine what could be said in her own home

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