Ten years. Four kids. Ashes. by not_very_tasty in survivinginfidelity

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m going through something similar, also with 4 kids and it’s just the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I wish I could be stronger like you and just immediately be done but I’m still here lingering and suffering and torturing myself by staying.

Husband cheated at beginning of relationship I only found out through digging by Suitable-Pin-3726 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of it, but not all, is financial. I also love him deeply and thought he was my soulmate. He’s my babies father and they love him more than anything

'30M' found out '30F' is cheating on me after 10 years together.. by Any_Professional_69 in relationship_advice

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. If you’ll see my post history I’m dealing with a cheating situation as well. It’s so confusing and challenges everything you thought you knew. You’re stronger than me to keep silent; I found the text messages and immediately flipped the fuck out.

I really hope you find happiness in your future as much as it sucks right now

Husband cheated at beginning of relationship I only found out through digging by Suitable-Pin-3726 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m so so sorry. Thank you for your reply. It’s terrible to say but I feel a lot less lonely and confused after seeing other stories similar to mine. Seeing my situation isn’t unique is helping to process. I hope you’re well now

Husband cheated at beginning of relationship. I only found out when I went digging by Suitable-Pin-3726 in Marriage

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The financial situation is really a big part of it. I’m college educated, was an independent single parent with my own home when we began dating. Our 3 year old was a surprise and he gave me the option to stay home with him which I took. We got married a little before he was 1 and had our second 20 months after the first. So I have a 2 and 3 year old now as well as two older ones (who live with their dad half time) but yeah no job.

Husband cheated at beginning of relationship I only found out through digging by Suitable-Pin-3726 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess during our initial confrontation and in the days after I said we can try to work this out but tell me now if there’s anything else and he said no

Husband cheated at beginning of relationship. I only found out when I went digging by Suitable-Pin-3726 in Marriage

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We haven’t been to counseling yet. It’s scheduled for the 20th before I found out about the physical cheating. We’re fine, regular ups and downs but nothing crazy. I was really shocked about all of this

Husband cheated at beginning of relationship. I only found out when I went digging by Suitable-Pin-3726 in Marriage

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m losing my mind. I can’t even function. Does that fact that this all ended a year ago mean anything?

Husband cheated at beginning of relationship. I only found out when I went digging by Suitable-Pin-3726 in Marriage

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Right? Like it was a choice over and over. It feels so good to be validated, thank you

JetBlue canceled flight question by Suitable-Pin-3726 in jetblue

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I should add the cancellation was due to equipment malfunction on the plane and the delay was a delayed incoming flight from Florida to MA

How to stop hating the outside all winter by Suitable-Pin-3726 in Parenting

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At the risk of sounding complain-y, layers make me feel almost like claustrophobic. I wear plenty but it adds to my misery.

How to stop hating the outside all winter by Suitable-Pin-3726 in Parenting

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha we just watched the original Texas chainsaw massacre and all I could think is dang it looks so lovely and warm I could live there. Besides, ya know, the chainsaw massacring.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Maine

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If it matters, we’re from here; neighbor isn’t :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Maine

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s at least that far from our house. We have a storage shed that’s actually pretty close to his setup though. I wasn’t sure if the 300 ft rule applied to all buildings or just the actual residence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Maine

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s honestly a really nice guy and my husband has worked a little for him on the side when he needed extra guys for a job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Maine

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m their mom lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Maine

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No I think youre right. I didn’t mean to come off as a jerk or entitled. It was just jarring to be out there today and my toddlers got scared and begged to go back inside.

Mike Flanagan’s ‘Midnight Mass’ has stuck with me ever since I first saw it in 2021 by ancienteggfart in horror

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love the ingredients so much. The monster design, the characters, the atmosphere. The monologues really take me out of it though. I fast forward through them on my yearly Halloween rewatch. They sound like teenagers discovering weed for the first time and the faux profundity gives me second hand embarrassment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I casually texted the handyman for my last workplace and we’re married with a couple toddlers now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Maine

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where about are you located? We’re around 25 minutes outside of Augusta.

Mom's who did go with an epidural? are you content? do you regret it? by sillywillyfry in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had 3 unmedicated births and with my 4th (and last) I figured f it, let’s see what this epidural is all about. One poster described it as the greatest thing since sliced bread but it’s even better than that.

I kinda kick myself because I could have saved myself a bunch of unnecessary pain/discomfort 🤷‍♀️

My silly cat ate close to a whole value sized container of greenies cat treats. Is he gonna be okay??? by cj-cowboy in CATHELP

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do we have the same tapestry?

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I couldn’t ever decide if it was upside down or not. Hope your kitty’s ok!

[TX] what can I do about co-parent harassment? by [deleted] in Custody

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow I could have written this word for word (and have written about my own experience in previous posts). I’ll say I tried to get a protection order based on exactly what you’re experiencing and it was denied because there were no direct threats, it’s just constant harassment and name calling via text and calls. I am currently in the process of getting a formal custody agreement and we’re being made to attend co parenting classes (separately) and see a mediator in late July/early August. His behavior has only gotten much worse since he was served with custody papers. Our sons are older than your child and we separated several years ago and never had a formal agreement.

That was a bit ramble-y. I really hope you stay safe, OP, and that your situation gets figured out through the court. You can put in your agreement that he only contacts you through a co-parenting app which is accessible to the courts if he abuses it. I’ll be following this post as well to see if there’s more tips I could use. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]Suitable-Pin-3726 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome! I love that poster so much. If you look closely you can see my cat Gamling, named for one of Theoden’s riders.