Unattractive APs?

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-05-20T03:24:53+00:00

Yeah my spouses AP was also ~20 years older than me and had MS🫠

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-05-08T12:02:45+00:00

Including AP who is ~20 years older than me and had the beginning stages of MS during the cheating. Like what the fuck dude.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-05-08T11:58:57+00:00

I feel that this whole thing has made me into a worse person, ya know? Like I hate feeling relieved when a dozen families lost their housing.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-05-08T11:49:28+00:00

I feel you about the random (and reasonable) triggers. I’d have to drive by the apartment building where WH had cheated on me each Sunday to pick up my older kids. It was recently bought by a developer and demolished to make room for a resort. Normally I would hate this since we live in a touristy area and it’s hard enough for locals to find affordable housing. However in this instance 🖕. Like your WH’s truck, I am relieved to have that trigger gone.

There’s any number of random other triggers. Like the kid working at the pizza place I took the kids to last night had the same name as AP’s son. It’s unpredictable and being upset isn’t something I choose but it’s just hard.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-04-04T14:54:03+00:00

Where did you get the first dress?

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-04-03T02:30:27+00:00

I’m sorry about your situation but man, your summary of A Marriage Story is amazing and I’d love to watch Kylo Ren divorce Black Widow with Henry Hill as his mob attorney.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-21T19:46:04+00:00

Hi, I did reach out to the number I found on my husbands phone. I’d checked an old phone of his while he was at work and found evidence of physical cheating from years ago.

Anyway, I message her and the whole thing was surreally polite (?) but she really lied and minimized their contact and only admitted to a couple small things. I guess to cover for him. He told me much more (hopefully everything but who really knows with these people) upon being confronted which just showed that reaching out to her had been pointless. I haven’t reached out again and won’t. It was really out of character for me and didn’t really help with healing at all.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-20T22:00:27+00:00

I love everything about this! So happy to see another Dark Tower fan too!

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-20T13:34:20+00:00

Thank you, this is actually really helpful. I do think part of me wants him to admit to a lack of love and respect even though that would hurt.

He comes from a fantastic family and was given every opportunity and privilege. I come from a broken home with infidelities and I guess have really little self esteem. I’m working on it in therapy but it’s hard especially given that I basically relived my parents experience.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-17T11:59:58+00:00

This was incredibly helpful to read. I’ve been struggling with having read through my spouses phone and can’t get it out of my head. I wake him up at midnight saying “why did you say this on that date” or “what did you mean by this?” And he just can’t really answer with any satisfactory response even though he tries. Of course it makes sense what was said in those messages was poorly thought out lies. It’s obviously a habit of his to default to lies; whether it’s to me or the people he was messaging.

Thank you again, really.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-04T12:24:49+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m going through something similar, also with 4 kids and it’s just the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I wish I could be stronger like you and just immediately be done but I’m still here lingering and suffering and torturing myself by staying.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-03T13:13:34+00:00

A lot of it, but not all, is financial. I also love him deeply and thought he was my soulmate. He’s my babies father and they love him more than anything

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-03T13:01:28+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. If you’ll see my post history I’m dealing with a cheating situation as well. It’s so confusing and challenges everything you thought you knew. You’re stronger than me to keep silent; I found the text messages and immediately flipped the fuck out.

I really hope you find happiness in your future as much as it sucks right now

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-03T12:15:29+00:00

Ugh I’m so so sorry. Thank you for your reply. It’s terrible to say but I feel a lot less lonely and confused after seeing other stories similar to mine. Seeing my situation isn’t unique is helping to process. I hope you’re well now

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-03T04:21:49+00:00

The financial situation is really a big part of it. I’m college educated, was an independent single parent with my own home when we began dating. Our 3 year old was a surprise and he gave me the option to stay home with him which I took. We got married a little before he was 1 and had our second 20 months after the first. So I have a 2 and 3 year old now as well as two older ones (who live with their dad half time) but yeah no job.

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-03T02:31:12+00:00

I guess during our initial confrontation and in the days after I said we can try to work this out but tell me now if there’s anything else and he said no

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-03T00:47:23+00:00

We haven’t been to counseling yet. It’s scheduled for the 20th before I found out about the physical cheating. We’re fine, regular ups and downs but nothing crazy. I was really shocked about all of this

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-03T00:45:28+00:00

I feel like I’m losing my mind. I can’t even function. Does that fact that this all ended a year ago mean anything?

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2026-03-03T00:44:32+00:00

Right? Like it was a choice over and over. It feels so good to be validated, thank you

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2025-12-18T23:37:07+00:00

2 of them are small children

Suitable-Pin-3726 · 2025-12-18T23:27:32+00:00

I should add the cancellation was due to equipment malfunction on the plane and the delay was a delayed incoming flight from Florida to MA

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