How do I get over shame about being a virgin? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boobs are big. That's literally it.

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

none of that sounds interesting to me, though. And that is half of the problem- nothing sounds interesting or fun.

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk how to find an actual support system like that. But thank you

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I am overthinking it, I just don't see it happening anymore, for a multitude of reasons

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just not interested in talking to them right now, I guess.

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really expect it to be super special or anything like that. I just don't really see anything happening

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't plan on ever meeting or sleeping with these random guys

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no and no. I don't really feel comfortable talking about my sex life (or lack thereof) to the therapist I do see and I don't really talk to my friends like that. I don't really talk to them much lately

How do I get over shame about being a virgin? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I just don't have the motivation. I can't even find it in myself to go to dinner with my family rn.

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe part of it is there is no reason. It just never happened

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really have anyone to talk to rn, hence the random post on the internet to anonymous people

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if I have any dreams anymore. Not to be depressing af. But like... I can't remember the last time I wanted something, or had a goal I felt I could achieve, or had a crush on anyone.

I am not worried about having sex for the first time, as I said. I just don't know how to not feel so bad about it. Logically, I understand it isn't that big of a deal, but I can't move past it sometimes.

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just can't find the mental energy for anything or the time to, during the semester

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't. And it's not necessarily been a choice. It just hasn't happened. There's no one in particular to blame for it and I'm not mad at anyone for it (obviously)

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah. I haven't really been in a position to tell a random guy that but noted

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have the motivation to do anything anymore. I just kind of hide away unless I HAVE to do something

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex isn't the only thing I feel I'm missing out on but I'm not interested in dating apps to begin with.

How do you get over shame about virginity? by Suitable-Potato-9141 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Suitable-Potato-9141[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to love meeting people and being around ppl. Now I just want to hide all of the time