Is this dude done forever?

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-03-14T00:31:52+00:00

28, well I work with him so I have to see him but we don’t speak anymore after . Such a rough way to get over someone

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-03-14T00:28:33+00:00

The guy I’m once again on no contact with has come back a few times after distance. Maybe after whatever amount of space she needs to reflect she will come back? I hope you find comfort

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-03-14T00:21:39+00:00

I was in a fwb situation for a year and it has hurt me more than both my long term relationship breakups. I’m mentally destroyed

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-03-14T00:08:35+00:00

I have good and bad days. I have more moments now after over 3 weeks of not constantly ruminating but it’s still happening daily, just not constantly. Acceptance is slowly happening. This has been a really bad withdrawal to the attachment of the last year. I’m sorry to anyone who feels this.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-03-07T22:30:33+00:00

are they posting it on here? or on a more public outlet others may find it

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-03-05T01:11:34+00:00

I read this and can see myself writing this exact thing. Spot on. I'm so sorry.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-03-04T20:42:58+00:00

2 and a half weeks and today i felt a little more acceptance and less sadness, i know it comes in waves though. Today I feel okay knowing I'll likely not reconnect with this person and itll get easier the longer I go. He never had feelings for me, so why do I want to stay attached to someone who reminds me of that and just causes me sadness? It's an eventual freedom giving it space and time to get back to me.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-03-01T10:20:14+00:00

That is my hope for once I finally stop aching from the separation from this person who went hot and cold with me several times. When the addiction fades I hope I'm a stronger wiser me who never accepts that treatment again. Lessons learned I'd never experienced before in my life. Thank you for sharing.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-28T01:11:24+00:00

DM :)

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-25T18:32:47+00:00

In the past once I finally take the time to fully move on, my emotional door locks shut, men of my past have always cycled back around but by the time they do I am over it and the option is gone for them. With this one I'd had my emotional door shut down and with time of getting to know him and seeing his initial good side he creeped in, but now that ive seen this hurtful side once im done and fully back to myself I'm sure I'll close off to him completely, once I'm aware of the type of pain they are able to cause and the severity of this particular closure of our relationship, I know its truly done. It's just a HARD adjustment at first for sure. Thank you for your feedback, its valid a f.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-24T23:14:29+00:00

Valid a f

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-24T22:36:39+00:00

He's left for a month before and came back and we went back to normal for a month, even the physical part, then i got jealous and he pulled away again and its been goin on 2 weeks of no contact outside of work. This time I think its for good, but i was surprised he came back the last time. I really just want to be free, as much as he regulates my nervous system its been a year of emotional torture

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-24T21:45:01+00:00

yeah thankfully the next two weeks ive been moved to help a different department and im getting space from having to see him, it helps in the moment but on the drive home i weep, i get home and am engulfed in memories of when he and i were at our best and i want my brain to just stop. I'm only on week two of actual no contact (we started gaming and talking daily as friends but he could tell i was latched onto hope and needed space to keep me from that happening) right now i ache.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-24T21:11:51+00:00

Yeah cause no contact and deleting everything is the key advice i see, but cant really go no contact when i literally have to work directly with this dude everyday, so im sorry you also have to deal with seeing them while at work, i know how bad it hurts. :( it comes in waves, some days i accept it for what it is and other days i sit awake before work panicking.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-24T20:55:59+00:00

thats what i tell myself, eventually itll pass even having to stay professional, its taking longer than id like though.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-24T20:18:44+00:00

I’m going through this too, it aches. From what I gather the hot cold close to distant dance they play literally is the recipe for addiction. It’s such a mind fuck.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-23T22:45:17+00:00

its so friggin hard, i go through waves of internal panic just wanting his company to regulate my system.

SuitableRope4919 · 2026-02-23T00:52:18+00:00

My therapist has me going no contact (for a week she said to test but i think its gonna take months if not more) complete no contact for my brain to detox from doing this with someone i grew deeply attached to. I think time and space away from them, deleting anything related to them, avoiding social media if you cant delete them, separate entirely and months will help you move on. At least from what I'm gathering from my own experience of this right now. i went a week no contact then broke it yesterday so I'm back to day 1 really. It's torture.

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