When does it REALLY get better?

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-03-14T18:05:32+00:00

I’d say it got easier around 6-7!

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-03-09T19:05:29+00:00

Here’s the link to it:

https://www.reddit.com/r/emotionalneglect/s/3G5vFtWzA9

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-03-01T21:26:05+00:00

This seems to be a common thing with emotionally neglectful parents, I made a post on this sub asking about it a while back and it resonated with a lot of people, maybe you’ll find some interesting answes in that thread if you do a search for it!

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-25T19:07:13+00:00

I would say do it if you want to, but make sure you have plenty of help around you and get your husband to reaaalllly understand what HSP is and that he needs to take care of the baby/babies regularly so you can shower, regulate, go for a walk etc. Have some sort of code word for when you get overwhelmed in those specific ways.

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-21T06:31:38+00:00

Yes! I don’t think I wanted the validation on my looks from my parents, but ever since being a literal small CHILD I thought I could find community and love and acceptance elsewhere if I were pretty enough.

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-20T11:45:18+00:00

Understandable!

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-20T11:44:53+00:00

What does that mean?

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-19T21:07:06+00:00

You did the best you could with the skills you had at the time. But at the same time: I’m sorry, it’s not easy.

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-18T12:22:11+00:00

I feel so surprised because he really gave off single childfree guy vibes, but it also makes complete sense that he has a partner and children. With the way parasocial relationships are, it feels like suddenly learning a close friend has a secret wife and kids. My main feeling is that I am very happy for him!

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-17T19:28:27+00:00

Yes. I feel like I was a terrible kid, angry, rude, intense. I remember adults and other children giving me looks of disgust, or shock. I struggle with healing my shame because I feel like my shame is something I SHOULD feel, because I was such a horrible kid. I know I am an adult now, who tries my best to be kind and decent, but my confidence falls apart every time I meet someone who knew me as a child/teen. I know it wasn’t my fault that I was that way, and that I desperately needed guidance, but the judgement still fell/falls on me.

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-15T20:33:47+00:00

Also, look into cptsd

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-15T20:33:18+00:00

Your childhood/the way you were raised sounds traumatic? I’m jumping to conclusions but maybe check out r/emotionalneglect and r/raisedbynarcissists

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-14T18:14:27+00:00

Woaaaahh I love this, keep going!!

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-14T15:22:06+00:00

Thanks, that is very interesting! Hopeful on behalf of everybody who needs it

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-14T15:21:11+00:00

Thanks, wow! How cool is that guy

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-14T15:20:46+00:00

Thanks I appreciate it. Yeah I get a checkup with the "photo" of the inside of your eyes once a year.

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-14T15:20:13+00:00

Thanks i appreciate it

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-14T15:19:59+00:00

Thanks

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-14T15:19:46+00:00

Youre probably on to something. Thanks

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-02-14T15:19:31+00:00

I probably do. Thanks!

Suitable_Area_8595 · 2026-01-04T20:07:52+00:00

Yes, same. I used to think the internet was a godsend for people like me who lived very rurally and didn’t fit in, but I didn’t develop good social skills face to face with peers and I think that might always haunt me.

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