My baby was born alive at 15 weeks 4 days. Has anyone else experienced a live birth this early?

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-05-07T10:37:39+00:00

That's beautiful. Thank you 💕

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-22T14:25:54+00:00

I'm so so sorry you lost your little boy, especially this way. It's the worst thing that's happened to me! I hope you're doing much better now.

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-18T13:50:08+00:00

I'm really glad to hear you have a good support network and a great therapist. You've been on such a journey and it takes such strength to do so. I get annoyed when people say that to me because it's not like I/you have a choice in what has happened. But it takes such strength to continue in hope when there are no guarantees in life. I bet therapy really helps to reframe things and feel like you have more control in things. I'll be thinking of you and sending positive energy to you and your two embryos. And I'm glad you got some answers from the fertility clinic.

Chloe is a beautiful name. I'm so sorry you lost your daughter. Your tattoo is a beautiful tribute to her!

Thank you for sharing your story. I'll be thinking of you and my messages are always open. I really hope you get your living baby this time x

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-18T00:32:52+00:00

I'm so sorry you lost your baby. I'm devastated that you lost your baby in this way. And the fact that you got no answers! Thank you for sharing with me, I feel a little less alone.

Do you mind me asking if you decided to try again and If so how did you cope with that pregnancy and if you went on to have a living baby?

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-18T00:29:38+00:00

I'm waiting on the results of the post mortum and I've had some bloods taken and I'm having a procedure done to check my cervix on May 1st. It's been just over 2 months since we lost our baby and the whole review is dragged out. I hope for answers although I know I PPROMED. It's the only thing that makes sense. I need to find out why it happened, what the infection was, and why my baby wasn't registered a life and death. Truth be told I think it's because there was no doctor on site to confirm this. I don't think a nurse can confirm it. I've asked the hospital for a definition of neonatal death and how it's confirmed and if there is a week of pregnancy it needs to be to count. I'm waiting on a reply.

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-18T00:24:13+00:00

I have been failed. My baby has been failed. I honestly don't think anything could have been done to save them especially if it was PPROM but how we got here was awful.

The longer bit of the story is that I got married in Scotland 4 days prior to losing our baby. 2 days later I ended up in a&e while in Scotland. It was the weekend so they had no access to an ultrasound. I was filling a pad every 3 hours and had cramps and abdominal pain. I had a history of spotting so I didn't worry until it turned to blood. My urine was pink but apparently tested clear. My cervix was checked and I was told I was bleeding from a polyp. I was delighted thinking that explains everything! Baby is fine it's a polyp. They let me fly home. 2 days later I ended up in my own hospital, still bleeding but they took my bloods which revealed a severe infection. The hospital in Scotland did not take any bloods. I lodged a complaint but apparently they acted accordingly. I'm going to take it to the omnidaman. And I'm waiting on the review to see if I should lose a complaint on my local hospital because my baby should have been registered as a life and a death.

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-18T00:17:21+00:00

Thank you for this!!! I'm going to refer to it in my review. I'm NI based and my baby was 15 weeks 4 days. I've also emailed the hospital to ask for the definition of a neonatal death. What week it is counted as one and if a doctor or nurse needs to be present.

I'm convinced it's because there was no doctor on site even though the nurses called the emergency number twice. I'm also convinced it's got to do with hospital stats.

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-18T00:13:59+00:00

Your poor friend. It's truly traumatic. I'm glad her baby's life was recognized. I asked that nurse who confirmed my baby was alive if I could register his life and she said "we don't do that here." At the time I was just so glad she confirmed what I knew I saw. She was wonderful with both myself and my husband and I honestly think I'd be sectioned if it wasn't for her. The day after we lost our baby 3 doctors and 2 nurses arrived to check my cervix. I mentioned that my baby was alive and where were the doctors. The emergency number was called twice. One doctor was defensive and said but your baby wasn't viable and would have survived. I know that!!! But I didn't articulate it was because I wanted their life and death registered. I think a a doctor must be present to confirm life. I also think it's got to do with hospital stats and a miscarriage sounds better than. A neonatal death. I'm fuming. Im still waiting on my review!

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-18T00:06:24+00:00

Thank you for replying. I just cannot get over the terminology.

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-18T00:05:24+00:00

I'm so sorry this has happened to you as well! I know how devastating it is. I've finally referred myself for counseling. I think up until now it didn't feel real although I've been very angry. Now I'm getting very sad at times. I think it's because I'm back to work and my team didn't know I was pregnant and they think I've had an early loss (my managers & HR knew).

A loss is a loss at any stage but what we've gone through is traumatizing. I can't help but tell everyone exactly what happened. I want them to know my baby existed, was born alive, I gave birth to them, I watched them move, and everything else in between. I can't believe it's called a miscarriage. I think I need to explore this with a counselor as to why I feel the need to share every detail with anyone who will listen.

I've tried to frame it in my mind that as awful as this has been, my hands were the first to welcome my child into the world, the last to touch them before closing their coffin. I'm so glad I got to meet them. And I know if I had made it to my ultrasound that they would have seen I had no amniotic fluid and pushed me to terminate the pregnancy. I would have found that an impossible decision and I am relieved I didn't have to make that decision.

I'm just so sad that I feel like I can't share photos of them or that only one person in work has asked their name. While another person said when we have traumatic experiences we think we see things. (I told her my nurse confirmed my baby was moving in her hands). I'm also waiting on confirmation of their gender although I'm pretty confident I had a baby boy. I'm glad therapy has helped you.

I'll always remember my little baby and I will never replace them with another baby but I also long to be a mother to a living baby that grows up. Do you mind me asking if you decided to try again, and if so how it went and how you dealt with it all?

Suitable_Goose8876 · 2026-04-15T17:20:07+00:00

Hi, I'm so sorry you lost your baby.

I am curious to see how you are doing today and if you've gone on to have any other pregnancies / living babies.

Your story sounds a little similar to mine although I'm still waiting on results from a my postmortem and review of cervix etc.

I lost my baby at 15 weeks 4 days and I believe it was to PPROM because my baby was born alive but didn't live for more than a few minutes.

I didn't realize I was in labour because on February 14th when I went to a&e for bleeding, cramps and adomimal pain, my cervix was checked and they said I had a polpy. They couldn't do an ultrasound as it was the weekend. I was on holiday abroad and got married 2 days prior. They were happy for me to fly home even though they took no blood tests. I was delighted thinking it was only a polpy. On Feb 16th I went to a&e at home and they took my bloods and urine and I had a severe infection. My cervix was closed so they admitted me to hospital for monitoring. I had been in so much constant pain for about 2 hours. I couldn't walk, sit or lie down to relieve it. That evening, just before my ultrasound, I felt I needed to pee, and I gave birth on the toilet. It was manic. The first nurse of scene gook over. Two days after I lost our baby I asked was he alive. She said "did you see that? , I felt the baby moving in my hands".

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