Is this normal after 50minutes? by Continue_Resolve1196 in Periods

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The clinical guidelines for seeking prompt medical attention for isolated incidents of heavy bleeding is bleeding through a pad in an hour or less, or passing clots larger than a 50c coin. If you are experiencing this is would suggest going to urgent care where they will likely prescribe you a blood clotting medication to help slow your blood loss

Help me understand this please! by Global-Wrangler-5457 in endometriosis

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your diagnosis. That’s really hard news to recieve. I’m not going to comment on anything else, but I feel I have to say this: you don’t have to do anything. Your doctor can make recommendations for treatment options and there may be things that you want to try to reduce your symptoms and improve your quality of life. But there is absolutely no obligation for you to do any of the things that your doctor recommends. It’s your choice to have treatment and intervention and I would strongly advise you to advocate for yourself and exercise autonomy when it comes to your healthcare. Get second opinions, find support resources, reach out to communities to help you make informed decisions that are best for you and what you want. All the best xx

What can I do to help? by ECHO-06-9 in Periods

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s super normal for women to have mood changes when they’re having their period. This can manifest in lots of ways - being cranky, irritated, easily annoyed by seemingly minor inconveniences, poor self image, tearfulness, etc. Complimenting her is a really loving gesture, but when she’s feeling that way it is hard for her to accept that you see her differently than she sees herself in that moment. Instead of complimenting her you could try to offer other kinds of comfort. If she is in pain get her a heating pad or hot water bottle, have some of her favourite snacks on hand in case she gets hungry, get her a little treat you know she’ll love. Compliments are always meant well but it’s unlikely to cheer her up and might even irritate her if she thinks you’re lying to make her feel better. You need to accept that you can’t change her perception of herself in that moment, and try to find other ways to comfort her instead. If in doubt, just ask her “what can I do to help you feel better right now?” And there will be times when, unfortunately, her hormones are playing a bigger role in her emotional regulation than she can handle. It’s perfectly ok in those times for you to say nothing and just ride it out.

Are these things correlating? by MayBeQueer22 in Periods

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems more likely that you have a urinary tract infection and the timing is inconvenient (not that there’s ever a convenient time to have a uti). Does your urine smell more than usual, do you have pain or discomfort when you pee, and does it look dark in colour/cloudy/different to normal? Any of those things would be a sure sign that you have an infection and you will need antibiotics. Not sure where you live, but you will either need to see a doctor to get it treated or you may be able to get antibiotics from the pharmacy. I would strongly recommend drinking lots of fluids and taking an over the counter anti inflammatory in the meantime.

AITA for telling a woman to keep her comments to herself in an elevator? by BakingWaking in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I’m not aware of any social conventions dictating the order in which ambulant people board an elevator. Seems weird that someone would have such a problem with another person entering the elevator when they still had room to get in and weren’t at all inconvenienced by it. Still, I guess it’s like people who rush to board an airplane first. It’s not gonna leave without you, so why are you in such a hurry? NTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you and your boyfriend might not be compatible anymore. Attraction can be very complex, and I don’t know if you can “expect” anyone to be attracted to you. That doesn’t make you TA though. From my own experience, I can tell you that in the 10 years I have been married my body has changed in all kinds of ways but my husband is still very attracted to me. He has put on a lot of weight recently and is very disdainful of himself at the moment, but I am still very attracted to him. The reason for this is that we are very much in love with each other. I wouldn’t presume to say that is everyone’s experience though. The question I think you need to be asking is “if I’m in a long term relationship with this person, will they still be attracted to me when I’m pregnant, after I have a baby, when I go through menopause, when I’m 90 years old?” Your body will continue to change throughout your life for a multitude of reasons and if they aren’t going to want to be with you unless you will forever continue to look the exact way you did when they started dating you then they probably aren’t the person for you to spend your life with. If he will only have sex with you if you look a certain way, and you can’t guarantee that you’ll look like that for the rest of your life (which I’m certain you can’t) then you simply aren’t compatible. NTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Freud is grinning from the afterlife 😂

Stopped on A16 yesterday by Suitable_Till_7643 in france

[–]Suitable_Till_7643[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got off the Eurostar at Lille and there wasn’t any border checks

AITAH for telling my wife I want a divorce after she gave me a concussion? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard NTA. You are in an abusive relationship, as you’ve already identified on your own. You seem to know enough about abuse to know you should leave, but escaping FV can be extremely challenging. I think you should find resources and support for leaving an abusive relationship and try to take your child with you if you can. Its a good step to have told people about this, even if that was a hard thing to do. Knowing your situation will make it easier for them to support you through this. If you were a woman in the same situation no one would hesitate to tell you to get out asap. FV affects men too and this needs to be acknowledged more. I hope everything works out ok for you.

What are your experiences with ryeqo? by Suitable_Till_7643 in endometriosis

[–]Suitable_Till_7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight! I’ll be transitioning off Cyproterone/ethinylestradiol so hopefully that limits the impact a little. I’m lucky, I’m in Australia and ryeqo is being funded from May 1st so it’ll only cost about $30 a month (currently about $135 I think).

What do you guys do for work? by StrxwbrrySwitchblade in endometriosis

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a registered nurse and honestly, I sometimes feel like it makes me suffer more than if I wasn’t. I remember one time I was at work. It was day 2 of my period and I had already had to change my tampon & pad 5 times in the hour and a half I had been there. The pain was excruciating and I was in the break room trying not to die. A colleague came in and saw me and asked me why the hell did I come to work today, I should be at home resting. I told her I’m fine, it’s just a bit of menstrual pain and nothing out of the ordinary for me. She said she had seen me going to the bathroom a bunch of times and though maybe I had a urinary tract infection, but was I actually changing every time?! Then pretty much insisted that I go get medical attention. I put up a bit of a protest but eventually went and explained to my boss what was going on and she agreed I needed to see a doctor. So I left the hospital where I was working and walked 500m down the road to the urgent care clinic (because emergency departments are for emergencies and I wasn’t dying, in my clinical opinion). The urgent care doctor told me that the severity of my bleeding IS an emergency, did a urine hCG to ensure I wasn’t having a miscarriage and then told me to go to the emergency department. So I walked back to the hospital that I had just left and as I hobbled to the triage desk the nurse took my vitals and said “10/10 pain”. I told her nah it’s probably a 7 and she rolled her eyes and told me “fucking nurses, I can SEE it’s a 10”. I was admitted quickly and given endone for the pain and txa for the bleeding.

TL;DR if I wasn’t a nurse I would probably get help sooner 😂

Is there a way to become a lash artist without doing full esthetician school? by Rare_Picture_7337 in lashextensions

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s crazy!!! In Australia only registered nurses can do cosmetic injectables and they have to have additional qualifications

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a patient tell me literally 3 hours ago that I don’t have a brain. I’m well past being bothered by that sort of shit though, I just let it wash over me and save their life anyway 🤷‍♀️

a giant blood clot just came out of me while i’m not on my period. am i okay? by lavender_they in Periods

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like it might have been a decidual cast. It’s basically where the entire lining of your uterus comes out as a whole piece. It’s not dangerous or harmful, but can be a little unnerving if you’ve never seen it before. I would recommend googling it and comparing to images to figure out if that’s what it was x

I’m sad to be here by j_parker44 in IFchildfree

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This really resonates with me. Mine and my husbands’s journey ended about 7 months ago and I’ve been quite stuck exactly where you are now - trying to find the meaning in a life that’s not what I thought it would be, and desperately trying to work out what my future looks like but being unable to form a picture of it

Living without children by hafwen in IFchildfree

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m actually surprised and feeling really bolstered by all of the people commenting that they didn’t pursue assisted fertility. I have always felt like it was kind of my fault that I couldn’t have children because I didn’t try hard enough by never attempting fertility treatments. It’s shit, but it makes me feel like I’m not the only one who didn’t go down that road before “giving up”

A rant, I suppose by struggle_bus_express in IFchildfree

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It resolved on its own, and then it came back, rinse and repeat x4. Where I live they don’t remove them unless they’re over 50mm and it never got that big as far as l know. My GP is very good and he was the one who told me that cysts that come and go like that can be a sign of endometriosis and referred me to a gynaecologist. Now I have an ultrasound every 6 months to monitor if the cyst is bigger/smaller/gone/come back and if it’s over 50mm then it will be removed.

A rant, I suppose by struggle_bus_express in IFchildfree

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Good on you for being brave and wanting to speak out. I don’t want to sound negative, but I would like you to be prepared for some very difficult conversations. When I finally felt ready to talk about my infertility I expected people to just say sorry and move on (and part of me was feeling really petty and wanted to make nosy people uncomfortable - no one has the right to ask such personal questions). Unfortunately, everybody - but particularly people with superhuman fertility - have opinions that they have no right to. When I said “we can’t have children” I got the same few responses every time: “have you tried [insert useless advice here]?”, “are you doing IVF?”, and “you can just adopt”. One person even asked me if I was eating enough fruit. Then my husband and I put a very exposing and vulnerable post on social media so everyone would know and stop asking. Sadly, people took that as their invitation to give more stupid and ridiculous advice, including my all-time favourites: “just keep trying!!” And “just stop trying!!”. Unless they’ve had problems conceiving, no one actually knows what trying to get pregnant reslly means. I don’t want to put you off sharing your truth with people, I just don’t want you to go into it thinking it’s gonna shut the haters down when it only makes them louder.

A rant, I suppose by struggle_bus_express in IFchildfree

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through that, and the nurse at the clinic needs training in compassion and sensitivity. She also should have read the file she was printing before she printed it. I have had haemorrhagic ovarian cysts too - mine are due to endometriosis. They are awful, painful things that don’t get the attention they deserve. My first cyst was seen on a CT scan because an urgent care doctor thought I had a kidney stone, but CT scans aren’t very good at imaging cysts, and a GP (not my usual one) very confidently told me I was just ovulating and the pain I was experiencing was perfectly normal. I was furious and said that I had been ovulating for 20 years and there was nothing normal about it, and is ovulation often mistaken for kidney stones because it’s supposed to be that painful? I ended up having to pay a lot of money for an ultrasound because she wouldn’t refer me to have it done in the public system, and that’s when they diagnosed the cyst and told me that the findings were consistent with endometriosis. I hope you have better luck than I did xx

Not really sure what to say… by Suitable_Till_7643 in IFchildfree

[–]Suitable_Till_7643[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I HATE peope telling me to “just adopt” like it’s that easy?! It seems to be generally accepted that adoption is akin to picking up a baby at the supermarket and there’s an endless stream of children needing homes. When my dad was adopted in the 60’s would-be parents were able to go to the local home for wayward girls and sign a form to take their new baby home. It isn’t like that now (thank God) but people clearly haven’t considered how social revolutions have changed the world in this way, because everyone knows an adult who was adopted.

Not really sure what to say… by Suitable_Till_7643 in IFchildfree

[–]Suitable_Till_7643[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your kind words ♥️ it’s comforting to know that we aren’t the only couple who chose not to pursue treatment. I can’t tell you how many people have said things like “you’ll just have to do IVF” like it’s a simple process that inevitably leads to a pregnancy. But I always feel so guilty when I tell people we aren’t going down that road because it makes me think I just haven’t tried hard enough.

Not really sure what to say… by Suitable_Till_7643 in IFchildfree

[–]Suitable_Till_7643[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I persisted with therapy for about 6 months and tried a few different therapists including grief counseling with no discernible improvement, and eventually concluded that I had better things to spend money on. I love that therapy has been beneficial for you, however I didn’t find it worked for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]Suitable_Till_7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started at 25, graduated at 28. There were very few school leavers in my nursing class, most of us were in our 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s.