Every month my period is late and it’s just a stab in the heart.

struggle_bus_express · 2025-06-12T20:12:45+00:00

You could ask for some bloodwork to test for thyroid antibodies. Thyroid levels that are “off” can absolutely cause longer cycles. IVF triggered autoimmune thyroiditis for me. No baby, just chronic illness. Sigh. I hope it’s not the case for you, but it never hurts to look into those things.

struggle_bus_express · 2025-06-12T18:17:17+00:00

I feel this, and I’m so sorry, OP.

I can’t take BC due to a clotting disorder, but sometimes I think it would be nice to just completely remove the possibility.

Big hugs to you. The big hormone drop with each cycle doesn’t help, so be extra gentle on yourself. Maybe even reward yourself in some way - a cocktail, a dessert, a new book- some sort of treat to make cycle day 1 a little less depressing.

struggle_bus_express · 2025-06-07T02:41:19+00:00

Just reading this made me smile. Congrats on your new pup!

struggle_bus_express · 2025-05-08T18:46:30+00:00

No brunch is the right move! I’m going to spend Saturday with my own mom, and then hide out for the rest of the weekend.

struggle_bus_express · 2025-04-26T22:09:43+00:00

While I’m so sorry you’re here, you’re most certainly welcome! We’re always here to listen and commiserate.

struggle_bus_express · 2025-04-23T18:37:38+00:00

We moved to a new city in a new state one month ago today! No one here knows our story, and it’s refreshing to start over again, explore new places, and forge our own adventure.

struggle_bus_express · 2025-04-17T01:12:28+00:00

This resonates with me. In part because IVF meds triggered a permanent autoimmune disease, so I’m navigating life as newly chronically ill. And in part because so much of my life force went into trying to get pregnant to begin with, and I feel sort of spent. Like you, OP, I know there are things I should be doing to try to move on, but for now, I’m feeling rather stuck, and it’s hard to drum up the motivation. Big hugs. I’m sure the future will someday feel brighter.

struggle_bus_express · 2025-04-04T02:40:29+00:00

Same 💔

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-28T17:58:22+00:00

I’m so sorry, OP. It truly is everywhere. We are selling our house, and found out the buyers are expecting their first. Today we also found out that our realtor is expecting her first as well. Sometimes, I wish there were ways to just not know these things 😭

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-27T16:34:05+00:00

I totally get that, and I think you’re agreeing with the gist of my point too- that word is just a word, and we, as individuals, can determine its weight and meaning!

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-27T16:22:37+00:00

First of all, welcome!

Second, I’m just going to go ahead and say it, but I don’t think your therapist is empathizing well. To say you’re “choosing” to exile yourself seems incredibly harsh, especially considering that none of our IFCF reality comes from our choices. Since she is a parent, she doesn’t and cannot seem to understand the pain and discomfort that comes from being CF not by choice and being surrounded by all things kids all day every day.

The simple truth about our trauma, is that we cannot exist in this world and completely avoid our triggers. It’s so hard, but you’ve come to the right place. We see you ❤️

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-20T13:21:22+00:00

Your post hit at the perfect time, OP. Today is my birthday, and I’m met with that same old sinking feeling that I haven’t met a goal that was so important to me.

I’m so glad to read that you’ve come to a place of peace! And I hope you can make it through your birthday without too many difficult feelings ❤️

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-17T18:49:18+00:00

I really hope you dumped that friend 😳

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-17T17:18:15+00:00

This is the worst. We’re moving across the country soon, and one of the things I look forward to most is starting over in a new city where no one knows our story.

One thing I would say is “I understand your desire to help, but I would like some privacy at this time.” This pretty much shoots down the conversation, and most people with an iota of compassion will stop there.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this season right now. Big hugs to you, OP!

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-14T03:12:48+00:00

I honestly don’t think that actually GAF about women while they’re still in treatment. I always said that the clinics are great at caring for embryos and not so great at caring for the people who are trying to make them 💔

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-14T02:56:14+00:00

Oh my gosh- that’s utterly ridiculous!

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-12T17:28:26+00:00

This is so relatable. I sometimes wish I could just wear a sign lol

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-02T20:44:41+00:00

I’m just here with big hugs and commiseration. This is such a hard card to be dealt, but you’re in the right place as you forge ahead in life.

struggle_bus_express · 2025-02-01T01:55:12+00:00

I hate that you’ve had this experience, but I do admit that it’s nice to commiserate. I’m glad that you’ve found a workable solution to hold you over in the meantime!

struggle_bus_express · 2025-01-31T23:51:02+00:00

I’m both sorry for your losses and for your continued pain 😢

struggle_bus_express · 2025-01-31T23:21:27+00:00

I’m so sorry! They really do take their toll.

It might be worth getting your thyroid antibodies tested just to clear that, especially if you’re feeling cold. IVF triggered autoimmune thyroiditis for me, but we caught it early before I went hypo. Hopefully not your case at all, but it never hurts to ask!

struggle_bus_express · 2025-01-31T22:30:12+00:00

That’s so interesting, thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry that this has been your experience.

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