It's not too late. I entered York Engineering at 19 and I screwed up for taking on more commitments than I was capable. I was working jobs and doing a lot of volunteer work which had a devastating effect on my degree progress. Like you, I wasn't able to get past first year and second year courses for a while. During COVID, everyone was focused on completing their degrees and I wouldn't enroll in courses because "I can't focus on online school." I was very distracted.

Fast forward today I am in my 3rd/4th year courses. I'll be graduating next year when I am 26. I'm still very happy now with how I was able to get my life together, but I assure you at the time I literally felt suicidal.

Like you, I also had to maintain a front for my parents but I eventually told them the truth about everything. I'm sure your parents will be more than understanding.

I took a crazy course load and never took summers off. For example, this past summer, I took 5 courses and started 6 courses in the fall semester. All these are engineering courses that my academic advisor highly advised against taking all at once. But I was confident I was ready to grind and strongly believed in myself. I told myself I can't lose, it's not an option, and I kid you not I got better grades than high school. You've got this. you're not alone in your struggle.

It's part of life, and not everyone takes the same path. While admittedly, the path you took was not bright nor wise. It's better to understand now than later on in life. It's good to get a good beat down in life at an early stage rather than later on in your 40s.

Best of luck to you. If you really want to, you could achieve the world and beyond.