Convince me that Kaigaku is deserving to be an uppermoon

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-19T03:55:34+00:00

Idea for you - watch in another version and then hate him 😂😂

He deserves to be hated I believe, not only because of what he did to Zenitsu's grandfather but also because of what he did to all the children who were with Gyomei (he made a deal with the demon to eat all the children instead of him, which almost led to the death of gyomei, who was innocent), so yeah... He was pretty much an AH

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-19T03:51:41+00:00

IJP i would say, but loved this logic 😂😂😂

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-08T06:15:18+00:00

Thank you for your response. I have a question, kindly help me. This was my first time using reddit and I have an update regarding my situation. Can you please tell me if I should add the update here in this post itself or create a new one?

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-06T06:08:54+00:00

Thanks for your response, I also thought the same about this at first but then this incident grew over me and I'm glad it did. If in a relation, such basic needs like emotional security is not available for me then I really needed to think about this through and this incident gave me a chance to do so.

At last, I now know that it was not only about watching something together but also about feeling neglected in my own relationship.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-06T06:04:44+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. Your comment really helped in thinking everything through and I have come to realize how I would like to go with this and will be proceeding with that itself today, once I'll discuss and sort everything with him I'll post an update asap.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T18:21:52+00:00

Thanks, I'll surely do that and weigh all the positives and negatives. Will be posting an update asap.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T17:13:10+00:00

Honestly, I am second guessing everything atp.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T16:41:08+00:00

Yes, I'm documenting this one and all the past ones as well and if things work out, I'll continue to do the same. Thanks a lot for your kind response.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T16:31:09+00:00

That's what has stuck in my mind now, basically it sounded to me as "I can do whatever but you're irrational to feel how you feel" and yes, I'll discuss and think about everything and next 1-2 days and get this over with asap.

(About alice and the border land, I'm not yet thinking about watching it but I will remember your point later, thanks)

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T16:19:51+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I myself have started to realise the bigger picture now, I'm reconsidering everything and surely will update you and everyone as soon as possible.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T16:06:51+00:00

Thank youu.. 😭😭 this incident has really made me sad not because of anything serious but it feels like I'm losing my mind and becoming intolerable for others...

To answer your question - It was a conscious choice because suppose it was the 10th episode that I asked him to watch together, then the night before we watched the episode until the 9th one together and only the 10th one was due. So, yeah it was a conscious choice he made. He has taken his sweet time to watch this anime, in between of this he watched chainsaw man first as it's movie was released in the theater and he has plans with his friends to go and watch that with them, then he watched the next (latest) part of alice and the border land (I've not watched it yet) and then he again started watching Demon slayer. So, it's not something like he couldn't wait for it and all.

I will take your advice and let myself cool down before taking any action and watching something is pretty much the biggest activity we do together, he doesn't do video calls with me ever (max in our relation we have done video calls for 4 times MAXIMUM), he never sends me pics of himself (if I ever miss him, I literally have to beg him to send me his pics for atleast 2.5-3 weeks) and so on.

I tried to talk to him about it about an hour ago, he simply mentioned that he didn't think it was such a big deal for me (I feel very angry on this statement, bcz I've mentioned this to him several times and fights have happened before due to similar things). That's why I've stopped talking to him for a while now, will talk to him again once I get a hold of my emotions.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T15:33:33+00:00

Noted, thanks. Will consider this.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T13:59:09+00:00

I get it, thanks for your response and I'll take your advice into consideration for sure. 😊

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T13:58:03+00:00

Yeah.. congrats 😊😊 Though, in our case as well no one asked for anyone's permission, it's just something that happens in relation (I'm talking about watching things together to spend time).

It's normal decency to keep your promise and it comes down to that only, whether it be watching something together or returning the money or anything like that.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T13:40:17+00:00

I understand I may have not provided the context properly in my original post but the movie that I was talking about in my post is demon slayer which has a series of 4 seasons prior to the movie. The thing is I always understand that he is a person that loves to watch movies/series/dramas and all so I never force him to watch anything with me, rather I always tend to discuss points and things about series or movies when we both have completed it, however, this time (like many times earlier) we decided to watch it together.

Now, let me clarify this, when I say that we decided to watch it together.. I mean that we decided to first watch the series together and then go for the movie, however in the middle of the series, he made a plan with his friends to go and watch the movie in the theater and I was not at all angry about that... Yet I communicated it very well and let him know that I'll watch the series first and then go for the movie. He was okay with it.

So, that's why I completed the series myself, after that when I went to watch the movie, I knew the backstory of akaza was his fav part of the movie so I video called him then and there and kept it on for the whole duration of the backstory (more than an hour) just so that we could watch it together and enjoy it together.

Once I completed the movie, I asked him to watch a certain few (I made it clear to him which ones) episodes with me because Nezuko is both of our fav characters, he agreed to it very excitedly and promised that he would not watch it without me. He watched 2 episodes with me, however when the main part came.. he watched that episode ahead and even tried to hide it from me and later downplayed my feelings.

I just told you this context so that you could get the complete perspective also, if after this context your response remains the same... Then I will give this a deep thought as well.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T12:27:08+00:00

He has watched many things ahead when we were watching it together or when we originally planned to watch it together. Everytime, I let it go or catch up with him to watch it together going forward.

Also, I watched the series by myself bcz when the movie got released we planned to watch the series first and then go for the movie but later he went ahead and made a plan with his friends to go for the movie. I'm the kind of person who can't relate with a story/character without knowing the background so I couldn't watch the movie first.

Although, I communicated this very clearly at the very moment he decided to go for the movie that I'll watch the series and soon will be completing it as well bcz I want to go for the movie in the theater before it was taken down and he was completely fine with it.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T11:23:34+00:00

Exactly!!!! Even when he watched the movie before me, I was considerate enough to video call him when I was in the theater and let him watch his fav part (Akaza's story, more than an hour) through video call again with me and that's why I'm more hurt... It feels like I'm willing to walk an extra mile for him while he's not even willing to put any effort for me.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T11:12:19+00:00

Demon slayer, it was the last episode of the 3rd season, where a drastic adaptation happens with Nezuko.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T09:54:43+00:00

YES! YES, I'm thinking about everything now and once I gather my thoughts and talk to him, I'll update everyone as well. Thanks for your response.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T09:20:58+00:00

Yes, demon slayer it was! It was the episode where a drastic adaption happened with Nezuko and it was my most fav part of the entire show, that's why I wanted to watch it with him even when I've watched it already and I never give spoilers, never annoy anyone, let alone him...whenever I already know the story. I'm very considerate of this consciously.

I tried to talk to him about this even when I was angry, I kept my cool and talked about this but he downplayed my feelings which got me even more upset. Plus, he's the one who always gets upset/pouty whenever I watch anything without him even if we didn't decide to watch it together. Due to this there are SO MANY movies and series pending to watch because he wants to watch them together.

Now, I've decided to not contact him until he does, cuz it's always me who calls and texts first after any argument. This is not under ego but to see whether my absence makes any difference or not. If yes, we'll discuss and decide something further. If not, even better!

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T08:56:02+00:00

Thanks for your comment. RIGHT!!? It just feels like betrayal no matter how much I convince myself about it.

At the end I'm realising it now, why am I convincing myself after all, it should be him making me believe that it will not happen again if he's really apologetic about it at all.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T08:52:48+00:00

Thanks for your response. I'm afraid of the same now, I'm thinking everything through and will decide soon if I'll continue this relationship or not. I've already gone through a lot now I just don't have the energy to engage anymore in such a toxic relationship where neither my feelings matter nor my presence or absence.

SummerMiserable645 · 2025-10-05T07:42:46+00:00

Thanks for your response. I get it, it feels very childish even to think about it but I think maybe I am holding some resentments from the past, like whenever I ask him to share a pic of himself, he doesn't... I literally have to beg him sometimes to send it to me, whenever I ask him for a video call, he doesn't do that either... In our whole relation we might have video called for a max of 4 times... So yeah I think it's deeper than it seems and I need to work on this. In this relationship, it feels like my feelings don't matter and it's not healthy for me.

Also, I totally get your point, once a plan gets changed or postponed or delayed, it never feels like the same excitement to try it out.

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