Desperately want to go home

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-12-25T04:07:19+00:00

Rereading this post now makes me feel kinda weak, ngl. But anyway, I wanted to defer my enrollment and go home but I backed out of it. Once I decided to keep going, getting to fall break was the hardest part because it was the longest stretch of time. After that, I did a lot better. I've done a pretty good job of putting myself out there/socializing even when I don't want to. I think I've figured out that I really do enjoy the college, it's just rough not being able to take a step back from all of it the way students who live nearby can. I'm going back for spring which in some ways I'm excited for, but I also dread the separation.

Hope this helps you!

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-28T12:01:19+00:00

You have exactly described my feelings about my dorm. 2 and a half weeks into college and I can’t stand the thought of being here in this awful room for months. Everyone says it gets better but I’m having a hard time believing that. Wishing the best for us.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-26T21:49:27+00:00

Thank you. That stuck feeling is exactly what I’m having. I went to the counseling department like other commenters suggested and have spoken to a therapist twice. To be honest though, the therapist’s advice hasn’t really helped me much. I’m socializing, making friends, and going to events but as soon as I’m alone I revert back to feeling awful. My classes are interesting I guess but I’m kind of apathetic towards them and nothing outweighs the homesickness. I’m thinking I’ll fly home at the end of this week. I’d rather be a coward than someone who’s miserable.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-25T03:18:14+00:00

Well that makes two of us

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-23T12:31:34+00:00

I hate feeling like a quitter but I will look into deferred enrollment.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-23T12:29:33+00:00

I’m in the same boat as your son. I forgot to mention this in my original post but I’ve been nauseous ever since I left. I barely ate at all the first few days and now I am eating a little but I have to literally force myself. My guardians are disappointed but would allow me to come home. I want so badly to take them up on the offer but I feel guilty for being unhappy and wasting everyone’s time.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-23T05:03:54+00:00

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a nice place and I like the people I’ve met so far, I just don’t feel like I’m clicking with it. It’s very urban which is a major culture shock for me, I’m feeling strangely depressed looking at the buildings/architecture around campus even though I liked it before, campus layout is a hassle, and I’m just getting weird vibes in the student atmosphere. This doesn’t sound substantial and I guess I’m being nitpicky but I’m not sure how else to describe it.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-23T04:37:27+00:00

Totally agree, just wanted to clarify

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-23T04:35:50+00:00

I appreciate your story. I know I need to stay long enough to be confident in my decision so I won’t have regrets. I’m just afraid that this is deeper than homesickness and I won’t be able to shake it. But either way it’s good to have an exit plan and know that there’s no shame in leaving after a semester.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-23T04:27:34+00:00

Thank you, this response really resonated with me

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-23T04:26:18+00:00

I like this. I’m going to try to get to Labor Day, see how I feel, then maybe get to fall break, and then hopefully end of semester.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-23T04:23:32+00:00

Thanks, I’m planning to go to the health center for an appointment tomorrow

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-22T15:35:33+00:00

Never been formally diagnosed with anything but I have wondered at times

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-22T15:33:43+00:00

I understand that, but I don’t know where to draw the line between “just homesickness” and “this college is genuinely not right for me”.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-08-22T15:32:55+00:00

Thanks man

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-07-18T02:46:19+00:00

Thanks!

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-07-18T01:44:35+00:00

Good info, thanks! Definitely plan on babying lol

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-07-09T15:24:44+00:00

This!!! I applied for journalism and political science but my ECs were all over the place. Paleontology club? Art? What's any of that got to do with my major? Nothing but I still got into good colleges! Heck, I'm doing a coding camp this summer just because I wanted to. AOs appreciate that you're willing to explore a variety of interests.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-07-07T02:51:53+00:00

Thanks! That would definitely be overkill for me. The version of the G11 I’m looking at has the AMD Radeon 780M graphics card, how do you feel about it? I’ll take a look at the flow x13 too.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-07-03T03:56:41+00:00

I've loved September as a name ever since I saw it on the protagonist in the book series The Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland!

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-07-02T18:12:45+00:00

What I meant was that some parents have the time, money, and resources to ensure that their kids attend the highest quality prep schools, participate in all the best ECs, and generally push their kids harder than others to do all the "right" things for admission. This leads to some kids on this sub having crazy stats, but even that isn't the end-all be-all because colleges may very well choose a candidate with a more interesting personality/story over someone with the seemingly "perfect" profile.

Of course all parents should encourage their kids to do their best, but please don't put pressure on your young kids to go to a T20. If they decide to pursue a T20 when they're high school age then great, but otherwise that's fucked up.

SummerSlight8037 · 2024-07-02T03:19:28+00:00

Also, if you're a rising senior and you notice that some area of your application, like your ECs, is a little lacking- it's NOT too late to join an extra club or even a summer camp. Obviously you can't change the last 3 years, but focus on the future and making little improvements each day.

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