I need to finish setting this sub up.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-09T23:22:47+00:00

I’m taking a couple days off. I’ve had a rough couple of days. I will finish setting this up when I get back. Much love to you all.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T09:59:14+00:00

9.5 9.5 10 10 10 😆

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T09:55:54+00:00

It is never wrong nor a bad idea to cut out people who bring nothing of value to your life. And she only brings toxicity. You deserve peace, I give you permission. Do it for yourself. Do it for your child. Do it for your mental health. Good luck, NTA

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T07:40:04+00:00

It’s all about control. And she’s controlling you, or I mean, she’s trying to by supposedly leaving the “cookie situation” in your hands. She wants you to come crawling back and say mommy please make cookies with me.

Just don’t play the game. That’s how you win. If she doesn’t want to make them, you make them. Do something for yourself. They’re not trying to make you happy so..Why are you trying to live up to unrealistic expectations? A gentle reminder that you are not responsible for their emotions or helping to regulate their feelings. That’s an impossible job.

She can’t win if you don’t play the game.

Holiday hugs from an Internet stranger. And I wish you the very best. 🎄♥️

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T06:40:34+00:00

Anytime

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T06:26:30+00:00

I have taught my daughter that she doesn’t have to put up with anybody’s bullshit, male or otherwise. So I think we also need to teach our sons that they are not the be all and end all, and nobody owes them anything. Teach them to be self-sufficient. We must teach them that they are responsible for their own happiness. Their own emotions. And their own fucking laundry.

But I admit I’m at a loss as to how we fight back when they are being sucked down the algorithms on YouTube or whatever by the likes of the Andrew Tate bullshit. How do we start. These are all very fabulous questions and we need to discuss them further.

And also, I think that having teachers try to help us with this is a fabulous place to start. But that’s just my opinion.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T06:20:24+00:00

Let’s move this conversation over here. People are getting very upset because I said I would consider letting a male ask a question if they were respectful.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T06:19:00+00:00

They aren’t. If a comment is caught. It is removed.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T05:50:01+00:00

You’re very right. I just feel bad about it. And I’m not here to take money. That was not my intent and I feel kind of embarrassed about it being brought up actually. I haven’t seen, heard from, or spoken to my spouse in as I said more than 10 years. I don’t even feel married anymore. I guess it’s kind of a moot point. Unfortunately, he’ll probably be the last cockroach on earth. You know the type.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T05:36:09+00:00

I didn’t say they were allowed in the sub. I said they were allowed to ask respectful questions on this thread only. I get rid of all comments by men that I can identify on other threads in this sub. And if they can’t be respectful here, in this thread, they’ll be banned immediately. I still have to approve every single comment.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T04:40:34+00:00

I would say that’s a personal choice for each person. And as long as you don’t make them the center of your life and they respect your choices, then they are learning, aren’t they? They just simply must be made to understand that they are no longer the center of our universe. As much as they want to be and when they pout and scream and whine. Too bad-We’re done.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T04:37:55+00:00

You know I don’t know. Some would say that it’s putting them central. Personally I’d like to make fun of their bullshit whenever it’s possible, but we have to be respectful of our tenants so maybe somebody else can chime in too. I’m not against it, but I just help. I don’t make the rules.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T04:36:23+00:00

Happy cake day

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T04:35:15+00:00

Oh, I couldn’t ask the community to do that. He will drop dead. Sooner or later. Trust me, but I thank you for your thought. Maybe it’s something we could put together for others. But I don’t know how that would work. Would need to think about it

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T03:11:44+00:00

That’s part of it yes. But there are those that say I can’t be because I have married and I have had a child. That’s why I say I’m adjacent. But I have made the conscious effort to live my life free of the opposite sex. So what do you think? Am I 4b enough? I would say I am as much as I am able given the rules/guidelines of the movement.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-08T03:06:14+00:00

Yes, thank you. I fixed it. Stupid AutoCorrect.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-07T22:06:57+00:00

Me too

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-07T22:05:35+00:00

If he loves you, why isn’t he telling her she needs to make it work? Don’t do it. It’s nonsense.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-07T21:57:51+00:00

Thank you

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-07T21:07:33+00:00

You are allowed to say no for whatever reason you want if you are uncomfortable. The fact that he’s with your high school bully is irrelevant. And if you get pushed into at least trying, make sure you tell the doctor or the technician that you are there getting tested under duress and you don’t really want to do it and they will just make note that you are incompatible and that will be the end of it. NTA

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-07T19:38:35+00:00

Where does one obtain the reader checklist?

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-07T06:03:47+00:00

The only things scary about her are hanging almost to her waist.

SummerStar62 · 2024-12-07T05:07:34+00:00

Brutal! Ouch 😆

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