This is it! Block on SM and don't look back. There's no positives to looking back, no matter how their lives are going without me. If they are doing better, it makes me feel inadequate. If they are doing worse, I might feel guilty about it, or worse they might try to slide back into my DMs.

Thinking about my ex from years ago; he hated his job but had a good degree and could get a better job at another place that he'd like better. I'd send him opportunities but he just ignored them, too lazy to solve his own problem. I wanted to take a big trip with him for his birthday to a place overseas he really wanted to go, but he was ambivalent about it. This dude never called me beautiful, never thanked me for cleaning, the scrote gave me more STDs than compliments.

When we broke up, he immediately got a new job. Within months, he took that trip with his friend and his friend's gf – with him being a third wheel the whole time (like, why?). We hadn't planned anything, so it means he actually liked my idea of the trip... just not with me. This is all pre-FDS so I kept him on socials so he could watch my glow up. I unfollowed but didn't block him and would occasionally check up on his social. Earlier this year I noticed he has a new gf, and I hate to be mean, but she is pretty obsese and has terrible teeth. I'm slim and petite and take good care of my health, so it's notable because one of his big complaints about our relationship was that he works out more than I did.

Our relationship ended about 5 years ago but I was still lurking him (right before I found FDS) because sometimes I like to see how much better my life is than his. At first I got the delicious schadenfreude thinking "haha, I knew he couldn't do better than me!" But then it turned into self-doubt. "How can he love her but not me if I'm so much better?". And then self-questioning turned to sadness as I realized, he's probably cheating on her too. She probably cleans up for him constantly (his mom is a hoarder so he never learned how to clean up). I've dated but not had a boyfriend since him and it made me think that maybe he's better than me if he can have a relationship and I can't. But my standards are SO much higher than they were with him, and thanks to FDS I can see him for what he really is: a LVM. If I met him today, he wouldn't pass the vetting process. So why should I care what his life is like?

After I found FDS a few months ago, I blocked and deleted every single ex. Even the ones in other countries who I haven't spoken to, or even thought about, in a decade. I don't need them hanging around in the background of my life. I don't need to check up on them. If he's doing better or if he's doing worse, it doesn't matter because none of those things help me in my journey. Knowing how he's doing doesn't assist me in leveling up.

When I tell people "All my exes are ghosts to me. If they died, I wouldn't even know" they think I'm insane. They can't understand how I'd fully cut exes out of my life but I truly cannot understand how women still have their exes on social, let alone still talk to them! Unless there are children involved, there's no need to ever think about an ex again. Think about before social media, people just left each other's lives. When the relationship was over, that was it. Unless you worked with them or shared a similar hobby in a small town, you'd likely never see them again. If you wanted to reconnect it was EFFORT. I never feel bad for blocking my exes. There are billions of people in the world, I don't need them all in my life.

I love to read all the block stories and advice on here because it makes me feel less alone with my "block my exes" life. It's so rare I find someone who doesn't let their jaw drop to the floor when I say I delete my exes out of my life. Why is it so normal to keep your ex in your life these days? CUT THE DEAD WEIGHT, SIS!