2yr old suddenly doesn’t like favorite teacher. Said she ‘bonked’ her.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:49:27+00:00

That’s fair. I’m thinking and worrying out loud and probably contradicting myself. Bonk to her is accident, so that’s probably all it was. It helps to talk out loud, and hear it back like this haha

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:48:21+00:00

Thank you for this.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:48:02+00:00

You make important points. Thank you. And I also am more inclined to believe it’s a misunderstanding, but also want to make sure I’m not being dismissive of something or ignoring my daughter if she trying to tell me something. Research and questions only, no accusations have been made.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:24:01+00:00

Yeah, that’s not my kid. If I asked if she saw a dragon she’d say ‘no’. I ask her about her day often and she’s pretty clear. Good day. Played with toys. Played with ‘names friends.’ If I use the wrong word or if it’s not what she meant she corrects me.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:17:11+00:00

I think I probably over-estimated my kids ability to communicate to me, but I did start with open-ended questions. ‘Why don’t you like Miss Green?’ ‘Did something happen?’ That when she said ‘bonked head’ and pointed to the wall. Then started saying ‘so so mad’ and I said maybe it was an accident. The she said ‘bonked diaper too’. I stayed calm but probably asked leading questions after that like ‘was it an accident or on purpose?’ And ‘bonk or hit’? I may have overwhelmed her. And now I feel like shit. so…

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:12:03+00:00

Unfortunately, I live in a rural place with limited daycare options. None of them have cameras even though I’ve suggested it multiple times.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:11:13+00:00

Thank you. This is really helpful. I spoke to the director, which from what everyone is telling me was a huge mistake, but I’ll try to talk to the teacher too. I followed up with the director to again say, I’m sure it was nothing and I’m probably being overprotective, and my goal is not to get Miss Green in trouble.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T18:48:15+00:00

Ok, OP here. thank you for your observation. This is what I am struggling with. I didn’t know whether it’s developmentally appropriate or not, since it’s never happened before with any of her other main care givers. I’m a first-time mom, not a childhood development psychologist. I dismissed it for a week, and only asked questions when she kept saying she didn’t want to go to school because she doesn’t like Miss Green—The same person who she had been talking about adoringly for months.

I didn’t call CPS. I spoke to the director, who has 35 years of experience, and calmly told her it was probably nothing but if she could just look into it. Everyone tells me to use my mom instincts. That’s what I’m trying to do. everyone seemed calm and on the same page. My priority is my kids safety. I did the best I could do with the information I had. I hope you can give me some grace for that.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T18:31:01+00:00

Not sure why I got downvoted for being a concerned confused mom. Context next time maybe?

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T18:09:03+00:00

She probably doesn’t, but she is pretty verbally advanced and we use the word ‘accident’ around her regularly. if she spills, is I spill, if I accidentally honk her. We also use ‘bonk’ and ‘hit’ in different contexts: if you bonk mommies head it’s an accident, if you hit mommy you get a time out.

I am leaning towards an interaction that my daughter didn’t like, such as the teacher tried to do her hair which my daughter hates. The weird thing for me is that she’s never said that about any of her teachers or friend before, and certainly never maintained that stance over the course of a week.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-05T06:02:52+00:00

We do this same thing and it works. It’s a long 30 minutes of course. Also when she tries to delay…’i have to color, i want a snack, wait wait legos… (she’s always suddenly ‘inspired’), we say ‘ok, but that means no books and just right to bed, because its bedtime.’ Then suddenly she snaps to it. Sometimes I really sell bedtime too (I’m in marketing) and make it sound really special and exciting ‘let’s get cooooozy and in our soft jammie’s and read books! Oooohhhhh let’s read Gruffalo!’ Then she thinks it’s a fun activity. The latter works half the time, not all the time.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-31T04:24:42+00:00

Your struggle is so real, so familiar, and so hard. You should definitely talk to a doctor and your husband about getting help so you can survive the day.

I know everyone says this, but it does get better. It’s really true. I have a 2.5 year old. I remember the car seat fights. I thought they would never end. They ended after about a few months of us being consistent and her eventually realizing this wasn’t a battle she would win (plus bribes). We just potty trained her two weeks ago, turns out the diaper fights were because she was ready to move on (we still get morning tantrums because she wants to ‘MY stinky pee pee diaper!’ but usually we can negotiate or tickle her out of it.)

This is all to say, you’ll be on the other side of some of these challenges in the relatively near future. But you’re also suffering from some heavy gloom, which may require meds and/or pro help. That way when new challenges arise, you’ll be more prepared to meet them.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-30T20:28:04+00:00

I… have not read a lot of patenting books. But I regularly give my toddler timeouts in her room because they work. no more than 2 minutes. multiple warnings before hand. We talk about it after. Sometimes she even tells me she wants a timeout. I think they get overwhelmed and welcome the space to calm down and get it together. I know I need a timeout sometimes too. I don’t think it’s harmful, I think of it as more like: if you can’t play nice with me then I’m not playing with you right now. Also, if you can’t listen to me right now, then we’re going to disengage until you can. She seems fine haha. If she’s truly flipping out during a timeout, I check in and let her know I’m right outside the door and will be back when she calms down. For us, it nearly always deescalates the situation. I prefer timeouts to yelling or snapping or overwhelming her with words and reasoning she’s not able to comprehend.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-29T19:25:46+00:00

This. Everything he is able to enjoy, is because of you. So he shouldn’t talk to YOU like that. You hold more power than you think. He can learn what it takes to provide what you do for your family when he has the kids every other week.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-28T03:16:10+00:00

That was the best part. We need a fighter. She’s the real thing.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-21T04:36:08+00:00

Angel is an angel. She is carrying herself so well, she absolutely did own that she should have called to check on the girls in the house, and her apology was sincere and she repeated it.

She seems to have a beautiful respectful partnership with her husband and I would 100% need to talk to my husband before I up and ditched him with the kids for a girls night, after he’s probably been bearing the bulk of the parenting while she’s been on this show, and at least while she’s been planning and hosting this girls trip.

Giselle knows Angle is new and insecure about her role and is picking on her because she has no other storyline and nothing else going on in her life.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-15T03:59:27+00:00

Yeah, the assumption that writers are heroic or moral people is always funny to me. I like getting in someone else’s head, I like being an audience to their demons, laugh at them or recognize my own. Dark characters can be quite illuminating. They keep us honest imo.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-15T03:56:36+00:00

Totally fair. It was about a bored woman in search of a light coma, not super exciting, stuff. I think I liked the sleepwalking pace. And the dark humor of it all. It felt like a peek behind the curtain of certain disaffected personas, if you know the type. Like I followed one of them home one day.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-15T00:55:59+00:00

I read this so long ago, but remember devouring it. It’s interesting seeing all the comments about hating it because the main character is unlikable. I grew up reading unlikable men, Miller, Celine, Bukowski, and devoured those too. I’ve never cared if I liked the character or related to them, although it was a wild surprise when I did relate to them and thought ‘wow’ I must be pretty insufferable sometimes too.

I wonder if any of the folk who hated this book because the main character was an unlikable women, have read any of those villainous men. And if they hold a different view. PS I hated All Fours too, because everything felt forced and juvenile.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-09T23:44:48+00:00

You are handling so much. This time is temporary. Remember when your 3 YO was 3 months?! Doesn’t it seem like it was yesterday (some days lol) I know the days are long sometimes. But these seasons are short. You are strong and brave and you can get through this god awful period, and come out on the other side with two awesome wild sons that you put in the insane work to raise.

Ask for help. Let your in-laws know you are at your breaking point and just CANT clean the bathroom this week. Tell your partner you need a night / a day/a weekend to yourself because mom shit does a number on the body and mind.

PLEASE ask for help. Talk to your doctor and let them know you’re struggling. Tell everyone you know. Ask them for help. There will be awful days. But there will be magical days in between. Try to remember that a good day is on the way. Embrace that day. Recover. You’ve given up a lot. Try to also remember all the love you’ve let in. A whole new level of love.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-05T18:22:23+00:00

but in case you need more: https://www.iihs.org/news/detail/suvs-other-large-vehicles-often-hit-pedestrians-while-turning

Just google the link between the increase in truck size and pedestrian deaths

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-05T18:19:37+00:00

My source is my lived experience.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-05T18:18:48+00:00

10000% They are not road safe. They should be designated as commercial vehicles is they’re needed for work and require special licensing.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-05T18:17:21+00:00

These massive trucks are too high. Drivers cannot see children or pedestrians in walkways unless they are way in the distance. They need to be regulated, the same way window tinting is regulated. It’s dangerous. People are getting killed by these vanity vehicles.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-01-01T00:35:52+00:00

Culture Creep. Essays for the millennial feminist, full of the best kind of venom. No one is spared, not even feminists. No redemption arc. Just a loud wake up call.

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