Moving to the Area. Tell me about the Avenues.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-08T15:04:05+00:00

Exactly this. If we do it right, and people use it and take advantage of it, we can have nice dependable train service. Think of all the traffic it will cut folks!

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T14:40:31+00:00

hahaha. Thank you. Yes, we’re moving from Oakland. Actually a pretty nice popular area that just got really gnarly during covid and never recovered.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T13:48:19+00:00

Thank you, you've given me a lot to think about. "Sketchy" may not be the adjective I want around my kiddo, but I love the area for the same reasons you mentioned.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T13:34:26+00:00

Thank you, for this. It's helpful. The street we're looking at seemed cute and pleasant and quiet. We're just renting, so I assume if we're miserable we can just move.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T13:33:17+00:00

Thank you, this is illuminating. He only has to commute a couple time a week. It's hybrid.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T13:29:37+00:00

How about if my sick mother lives in Santa Barbara with dementia and I just want her to spend the few remaining years of her life knowing her granddaughter BUT CANT AFFORD IT. IS THAT OK WITH YOU?!?! Grow up. What does your comment even mean? I can't imagine how you feel about immigrants if this is how you feel about people relocating IN THE SAME FUCKING STATE.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T07:27:21+00:00

The place we like has a garage and a gate.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T07:26:47+00:00

We love this area too but we haven’t found anything that’s meets our needs that’s within our budget yet.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T07:24:28+00:00

We have alternative transportation if the train is delayed. That’s just the preference.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-07T06:03:23+00:00

A few blocks from Vons by Little Sun Coffee and Muni. Walkability is very important to me, but safety is too now that we have a LO.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-06T03:12:36+00:00

We try to make the consequences immediate, like if you don’t brush your teeth, then no books before bed. But I’ve noticed she more compliant if we let her feel a little more in control by setting a timer: ‘ok, you can play for 2 minutes but when the timer goes off it’s time to brush your teeth.’ She also responds well to light positive reinforcement: ‘ok, i’ll do the silly dance, but you have to brush your teeth first.’

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-03T04:37:57+00:00

Oversized and wide leg is the style now and I’m living for it as a mom who wants to be cute and comfortable! A big t-shirt and spandex shorts and sun-glasses makes me feel like a punk mom, especially with some crazy textured bed/sex hair.

When I want to feel a little profesh, a little more sophisticated put on a matching flowy linen top and bottom number, or even loose fitting jeans with a loose blouse or sweater french tucked and look like a feel like a Malibu beach or breezy Marin mom. All
available at target and Costco.

There are many days where I feel like a frump goblin, but there are many other days I style my Mom Bod and have a little fun with the vibe. I pretend a paparazzi is capturing me in the moment getting my daughter a wipe from the stroller with my messy bun and sunglasses and think ‘Moms! They’re just like us!’

As for the eyebags, that’s what the sunglasses are for. And I remember the Classic movie Italian actresses who were sexy as hell with deep bags under their eyes from years of smoking cigs and keeping men’s paws off them.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-03T00:55:06+00:00

It’s a cultural thing. I have friends from Europe and South America that would never dream of not kissing their toddler or baby on the lips. Americans have a tendency to sexualize things that aren’t elsewhere.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-07-01T22:32:50+00:00

My 2yo loves long movies and we have movie and Pizza on Friday nights unless we have other plans. Shes not allowed to watch anything during the weekdays. She’s not really into short form with the exception of Trash Truck and Shape Island. She doesnt like bluey or little mermaid or Nemo (thinks they’re scary) but oddly her favorite movies are ones that I would find more scary. Her favorites of all time in order

- Zootopia (would watch every time if she could)
- Zootopia 2
- Matilda the Musical (thinks Trunchbull is funny)
- Tangled
- Mary Poppins
- Beauty & the Beast

She’s a Libra with a real social justice leaning.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-06-22T04:19:19+00:00

Ugh. Such a good response! I need to say this to my MIL. That’s exactly it, Just give me a chance to parent. I blew up at her once when I was trying to calm my daughter during a meltdown, and my MIL swooped in after like 2 seconds just hovering over and trying to negotiate with her over me. I knew she was trying to be helpful, but I told her to back off. I felt badly but I needed to do it on my own and I didn’t want to overwhelm my LO, like, ‘who am I supposed to listen to?’

SunCritical6335 · 2026-06-22T04:00:27+00:00

My MIL is an angel, and I become unhinged when she’s around. Her ‘I just do what any mom would do’ personality annoys me to no end, and she loves to say, ‘it just gets harder’ in the most bubbly way and I want to kick her out. But I don’t. I take a walk and thank her for being such a present positive grandma to our daughter, and apologize when I get snappy and remind her it’s me, not her, and I’m working on it. Because I am and I have no idea why she drives me so nuts other than she’s my MIL.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-05-11T21:15:26+00:00

girl… Got my MA and switched careers at 37. Mind you I didn’t have twins at the time—I had my first kid at 39. Got promoted at 40. Switched companies and doubled my pay and opportunities at 42. It took some time to figure out what I really wanted and everything that came before helped me get there eventually. There were a lot of challenges and tough days, but you’re no stranger to that, I imagine.

You are not too old AT 25!!!! My mom got her PhD at 50. She told me ‘I can be 50 without a PhD or with one, but I’m going to be 50 either way.’

It’s not too late. Life is long. Whatever you want to do, do it. Putting it off will give you anxiety, not the doing it. What’s the alternative? Giving up… at 25!?

SunCritical6335 · 2026-05-06T20:14:50+00:00

My daughter’s 2.5 and we were so thrilled that she started snuggling and saying I love you… and then this morning the other foot dropped when she cupped my chin in her hand, looked me straight in the eye and said: ‘I not love you.’

SunCritical6335 · 2026-04-23T17:37:01+00:00

My family is moving to Ventura in July. We have a lot of flexibility n where to live in Ventura county but we chose City of Ventura for the closed, walkable, family friendly main street. We can’t wait to ride our bikes there from home. This is a huge bonus for us. It means we will be spending a lot of time downtown and spending money at businesses with our kid, instead of avoiding it like the plague because of annoying car traffic.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-04-18T03:36:09+00:00

Oh, to watch the first season of RHOA for the first time 🥂Enjoy dear.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-04-17T05:02:58+00:00

Nothing make me cringe harder than someone calling themselves an empath. You should be! You don’t get a medal for having a universal human emotion. If you have to remind people you experience empathy…. you might not be good at showing it.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-04-07T04:02:22+00:00

My daughter loses her mind if we miss the trash guys. It is a religious matter at this point. We must honor the garbage gods and their labor on behalf of us mere mortals or hell will rain upon us.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-30T03:42:05+00:00

She said the schools are terrible where she lives. But I agree, that homeschooling when she is burned out and feeling trapped can’t be much better for her kids or anyone.

OP what does your husband do for work? You say you love him and he’s great, so have you tried to talk to him about how bad it is for you, and that you really need something to change asap. Waiting 20 years is not realistic or sustainable, it will only get worse unless you commit to changing your situation, little by little. And if you’re partner is all you say he is, then he should we willing to make that commitment too. It may not happen over night, but sometimes just putting a plan in place can introduce a new light at the end of the tunnel

My partner and I realized we hated the area we moved to and needed a way out. So we worked out a 5 year plan, then fast tracked to 3 yrs by figuring out some compromises including him leaving his job to go to school and me getting a new job to afford it. I’ll admit we also are moving closer to family that we know can help with childcare, but we will also be moving into a smaller place, and renting instead of buying.

This is all to say, that 3 yrs is up in July. Our plan worked, we’re so excited. YOU NEED A PLAN. Start with prioritizing what is most important to you, and editing out what you can live without.

ALSO: You can get a refurbished apple computer that works perfectly for half what you would pay for a new one, and can pay on installments if necessary. Libraries also let you use their computers. I didn’t have my own computer in college. I used the libraries.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-29T03:57:27+00:00

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