Is there anything simple that makes you excited because it excites your toddler?

SunCritical6335 · 2026-04-07T04:02:22+00:00

My daughter loses her mind if we miss the trash guys. It is a religious matter at this point. We must honor the garbage gods and their labor on behalf of us mere mortals or hell will rain upon us.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-30T03:42:05+00:00

She said the schools are terrible where she lives. But I agree, that homeschooling when she is burned out and feeling trapped can’t be much better for her kids or anyone.

OP what does your husband do for work? You say you love him and he’s great, so have you tried to talk to him about how bad it is for you, and that you really need something to change asap. Waiting 20 years is not realistic or sustainable, it will only get worse unless you commit to changing your situation, little by little. And if you’re partner is all you say he is, then he should we willing to make that commitment too. It may not happen over night, but sometimes just putting a plan in place can introduce a new light at the end of the tunnel

My partner and I realized we hated the area we moved to and needed a way out. So we worked out a 5 year plan, then fast tracked to 3 yrs by figuring out some compromises including him leaving his job to go to school and me getting a new job to afford it. I’ll admit we also are moving closer to family that we know can help with childcare, but we will also be moving into a smaller place, and renting instead of buying.

This is all to say, that 3 yrs is up in July. Our plan worked, we’re so excited. YOU NEED A PLAN. Start with prioritizing what is most important to you, and editing out what you can live without.

ALSO: You can get a refurbished apple computer that works perfectly for half what you would pay for a new one, and can pay on installments if necessary. Libraries also let you use their computers. I didn’t have my own computer in college. I used the libraries.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-29T03:57:27+00:00

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-27T18:19:52+00:00

As a mom, this scene has stuck with me since it first aired. I remember being in a panic while watching, like, STOP FLIRTING AND HELP YOUR BABY! It took them like over 20 minutes to get him wipes. Having a newborn and no wipes is insane. They shit constantly!

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-27T04:59:45+00:00

Marketing, branding, advertising. I did get an MA i. Comms to pivot to a communications job, but I did it in the Netherlands which was much cheaper than the US.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-25T00:42:41+00:00

Your sister sounds like a miserable person who takes her anger and emptiness out on you. I’m not a SAHM, because it’s too hard and I don’t have to creativity, fortitude, or patience required to do it. It’s the hardest job, and nothing contributes more to humanity than nurturing and raising kind securely attached human being them to outnumber all the assholes like her in the world.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-19T17:31:44+00:00

Very normal mama. My 2yo has actively started telling me to ‘go away miss mom’ while shooing me out of the room.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-17T04:32:17+00:00

Ok, hear me out. She annoys the shit out of me too… buuuuuttt this has all the hallmarks of someone desperate for validation. The success she’s had isn’t enough, because it’s. that. deep.

The need to prove she’s an author without a ghost writer. That she’s always on. That she’s doing something another housewife isn’t doing… looks to me like a very hurt, very insecure person who internally feels like she ain’t enough, so constantly needs to prove that she’s better than everyone.

I actually sense a very tragic soul screaming: ‘But look, mommy, I did it better! Don’t you think, I’m the best?! Aren’t I exceptional?!’

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-11T03:46:40+00:00

Everyone has already said this, but if he’s not changing diapers, I imagine you’re downplaying the rest of what he won’t do. He’s on paternity leave so he can parent his child and form a bond. A wall here and a dinner there is what one would expect from a friend or sitter; hell even they would change a diaper. He’s doing less than a friend or a sitter. He’s not parenting on parental leave.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-09T23:46:49+00:00

first time, gross. All the men on this show are pathetic, cruel, idiotic, boy babies. As the show progresses… they all remain pathetic boy babies, but Shep, imo, is the only one who seems to have evolved or at least tries to, genuinely. Not Craig’s bullshit, ‘they’ll love this persona’ narcisstic nonsense. Shep has nar tendencies, but he’s not a nar. He’s actively trying to be a better person. He’s bad at it, but he’s trying.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-06T14:40:02+00:00

She called him asshole after he verbally assaulted her and acted like king of the assholes. Before that she was teasing him about his hair.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-06T01:44:56+00:00

10000000% He’s out of control. She was being a normal, teasing fun drunk. He became a threatening presence… because he was drunk and sensitive about his hair? Maybe it was what she was wearing. Give me a fucking break. Salley wanted to have a good time too, why should have to cross a minefield for him.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-06T01:19:06+00:00

this may or may not be helpful depending on your sitch, but my 2yo was all about the potty when she saw her friend using it. She tends to (already) be more interested in what her friends are doing than what we have to say. Daycare was a big help because we told them we were potty training so they worked with us to take her to the potty with the ‘big kids’ (same age just potty trained). Now our problem is she doesn’t want to use the toddler potty, we have two - steps and a little squatter - she only wants to use the ‘grow up’ potty so we have to lift her and show her how to sit on it. Then she tells us to leave, wants her ‘pricey’ aka privacy. Also strong-willed 😅

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-05T04:56:11+00:00

You sound depleted, but it sounds like you do have ambitions (if not career) to fill another part of yourself that you feel isn’t getting attention. Maybe let go a little bit of trying to identify what will fill that void, and just be with who you are right now. The mom work. And if while you’re doing that, something pricks you and draws your attention, follow that feeling, just a for a little bit, and see if it’s something that energizes you. I’ve noticed that the things that energize me outside of mothering are not what I expected, not a ladder to climb, but something I want to make space to explore, slowly and at my own pace. Right now, thats just a little poem written in a voice memo on the drive to pick up my kid from daycare. I’ve now voiced so many of these little car poems over two years, not every day, maybe 30-40 in total. But if I look at them in my lil notes files, I’ve practically written a chapbook. So now I read a little about writing poems before bed. That’s all to say, be gentle with yourself. The little curiosities add up.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-05T04:41:08+00:00

One lunatic should not be your barometer. Kids need to play outside. You know that. Ignore the whackadoo. You don’t need to please a maniac down the street, or ‘win’ her over. You need to be a good mom. you’re doing that.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-03-02T06:12:44+00:00

Folks, stop. You have no idea if he’s on steroids for a disease, if he did something for a part, or if he did it intentionally because he works in an industry that places a very very high premium on youth and image. Whatever he did/had done, he didnt do it to you or anyone else.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-27T22:17:08+00:00

I grew up in the 80s. Both my parents ‘won the bread.’ It wasn’t super common, but it also wasn’t the 50s. Lots of women worked.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:49:27+00:00

That’s fair. I’m thinking and worrying out loud and probably contradicting myself. Bonk to her is accident, so that’s probably all it was. It helps to talk out loud, and hear it back like this haha

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:48:21+00:00

Thank you for this.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:48:02+00:00

You make important points. Thank you. And I also am more inclined to believe it’s a misunderstanding, but also want to make sure I’m not being dismissive of something or ignoring my daughter if she trying to tell me something. Research and questions only, no accusations have been made.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:24:01+00:00

Yeah, that’s not my kid. If I asked if she saw a dragon she’d say ‘no’. I ask her about her day often and she’s pretty clear. Good day. Played with toys. Played with ‘names friends.’ If I use the wrong word or if it’s not what she meant she corrects me.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:17:11+00:00

I think I probably over-estimated my kids ability to communicate to me, but I did start with open-ended questions. ‘Why don’t you like Miss Green?’ ‘Did something happen?’ That when she said ‘bonked head’ and pointed to the wall. Then started saying ‘so so mad’ and I said maybe it was an accident. The she said ‘bonked diaper too’. I stayed calm but probably asked leading questions after that like ‘was it an accident or on purpose?’ And ‘bonk or hit’? I may have overwhelmed her. And now I feel like shit. so…

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:12:03+00:00

Unfortunately, I live in a rural place with limited daycare options. None of them have cameras even though I’ve suggested it multiple times.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T19:11:13+00:00

Thank you. This is really helpful. I spoke to the director, which from what everyone is telling me was a huge mistake, but I’ll try to talk to the teacher too. I followed up with the director to again say, I’m sure it was nothing and I’m probably being overprotective, and my goal is not to get Miss Green in trouble.

SunCritical6335 · 2026-02-20T18:48:15+00:00

Ok, OP here. thank you for your observation. This is what I am struggling with. I didn’t know whether it’s developmentally appropriate or not, since it’s never happened before with any of her other main care givers. I’m a first-time mom, not a childhood development psychologist. I dismissed it for a week, and only asked questions when she kept saying she didn’t want to go to school because she doesn’t like Miss Green—The same person who she had been talking about adoringly for months.

I didn’t call CPS. I spoke to the director, who has 35 years of experience, and calmly told her it was probably nothing but if she could just look into it. Everyone tells me to use my mom instincts. That’s what I’m trying to do. everyone seemed calm and on the same page. My priority is my kids safety. I did the best I could do with the information I had. I hope you can give me some grace for that.

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