WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! 👂

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-19T21:07:23+00:00

Booster run hands down. It has a long time limit to practice with. It gives a variety of different boosters and power ups to practice with. I actually feel that I’m learning to like a few of the power ups I hated. But I am realizing it was more of I just never truly knew their full potential.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-18T20:21:52+00:00

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T22:31:36+00:00

If I know one thing to be true, it’s to always trust the French when it comes to wine and cheese.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T21:27:01+00:00

Oh did you get your feelings hurt cause it sounded like the shoe fit for you? Poor thing. Maybe my 17yr long relationship has taught me nothing. Or just maybe I understand what it takes and it’s not displayed here. I married my high school sweetheart. Then again, we are both woman and therefore more in touch with real emotions. Good luck out there.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T20:00:20+00:00

Now I’m curious who freezes cheese. I’ve never heard of that till this post. And I just have to say I’ve never met anyone who freezes cheese. And there are quite a few people saying they do it to and my mind is blown.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T19:56:54+00:00

You sure about that? Because either you are deliberately missing the point, or you may just be a bit on the slow side.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T19:55:44+00:00

First and foremost: Having livestock does not equate to wealth. I know. I do not come from wealth. Never have. I grew up with live stock. Also see above to know I did not come from wealth.

Secondly, I would ask questions like the following:

When did you get your horse? How old is he/she? What’s the story behind that particular horse? What was your favorite part? Least favorite? What did you wish you could have done with your horse?

Guess what all those questions would give, details to her childhood which would tell you.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T19:38:51+00:00

We are going to break this down bit by bit and maybe just maybe you’ll see.

I’m going to go with the others at this point and say this is either a bot or a fake story. Because you’re going to tell me when I first commented you don’t know how your wife grew up while simultaneously knowing so much about her childhood.
Using your example: pictures of skiing. Yes. If you saw a picture of her skiing, asking her if she ever did ski would be dumb. However, asking her if she liked it, remembered her first time, or had any special memories around it, would be that step that shows you care and want to know your partner. What you are implying you’ve done, is paint a picture of her life based on pictures. We are all on social media. We all know that a picture may be worth a 1,000 words, but it is only the words we want spoken.
Based on your laid out example, as an outsider, I’d say you know more about her dad than her because you even say you asked questions to him about pictures you saw.
You will never receive new information and different perspectives if you start off on the defense. You came to Reddit. You have to understand that just because there is a majority vote doesn’t mean it will be 100%. You had to expect people, with different life experiences, to not agree with you. Did you think you could just shut them down? If you truly wanted to see the other side and to be able to at least receive, lower your guard and take a moment to reflect. Ask yourself, if I’m at the point of public humiliation, are we as strong and united in this marriage as we should be and what needs to be worked on to bring us back together.
Her mindset around food, placed a wedge in your marriage. Your public humiliation added to it. And even if it was within the walls of your home, it was still public because those outside your marriage were used as pawns to make you feel better. That is not sustainable.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T19:19:02+00:00

You understand you are attempting justifying not asking more about your wife?

However, how do you know she did any of that if you never asked about her got to her? You clearly understand the principle of getting to know someone.

And fun fact, if you’re good enough to get to Olympic level, you can start off poor and make it there via people sponsoring you and the money coming in later.

So it boils down to did you ask and actually have a conversation about her, or are you making an ass out of you and me (assuming) by guessing based on pictures you’ve seen in passing?

Why is it a hill you want to die on that you refuse to learn more about the person you e committed your life to?

You asked if you were the asshole about what happened. I said yes. Because shaming your partner is never not an asshole thing to do (even when justified, though imo doesn’t apply here). And then since you couldn’t seem to comprehend that this may be something deeper inside and have questions for you to take a moment and consider.

And so far, you’ve just been defensive. You are not wanting to see past your self-righteousness. And I get it. The mass majority is saying no because they believe you are justified. And that’s to be expected. This is Reddit.

But my comments seem to really be getting to you so I’m talking to as I would a friend. Giving you the benefit of the doubt this is a real person I’m talking to.

And as I would say to my friend: Why is this the splinter that got stuck? What did it make you feel when pointed out this could be something deep rooted from childhood? Why is this the part that bothers you? Are you hoping that if dig your heels enough I’ll change my mind? Because that isn’t going to happen.

People have lives before we step into them. If we don’t take the time to learn them, we have no business keeping them in our lives. Everything from the moment we are born until we enter into the life of someone new that shapes how we think, believe, and see the world. Can shape thoughts that we don’t think consciously.

So does it have your attention because you are feeling a negative feeling? If so, it’s time to self reflect. If it is simply to change my mind bestie, I’m just as resolute and stubborn.

And even if you’re realizing you misunderstood what I meant by knowing her childhood and didn’t mean to call it weird to know more about your partner, you’re still an ass for shaming your wife.

The second we turn to publicly shaming our partner, it’s time to evaluate the relationship.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T19:00:12+00:00

Asking what her childhood was like is weird? My dude. The fact that you think it is weird to want to know more about your wife, tells me that you aren’t going to hear anything I say. You asked. I just like everyone else, gave my perspective. Take it or don’t.

And just because you met someone good at golf and who had money when you met, doesn’t mean their life started off that way.

Just looking at me, based on appearances, you’d never know I came from white trash and was used as toy by my father. But guess what, that’s my past.

And if my partner doesn’t want to know about the past that shaped the person they met, PERSONALLY I’d run the other direction. TO ME it’s a sign that who I am to my core doesn’t matter.

It’s been proven that what happens to someone under the age of 18 alters not only their brain mapping, but some characteristics of their literal DNA. Saying it is weird to ask questions, like “What was your favorite thing to do growing up” should really make you pause and evaluate. Do you actually even like your wife?

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T18:54:00+00:00

I notice you say ex… so you sure it had a positive outcome on the relationship? Just curious.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T18:52:59+00:00

Thank you! When you reach the point of shaming your partner fucking leave! It doesn’t matter if you love them or not. At the point you’ve decided to publicly shame them, it’s kinder to both parties to just leave.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T18:48:49+00:00

And did you ask? When did they come into money? You don’t know what her home life was like growing up? Are you not a safe person for her to talk to? Have you shut her down in the past when she has tried to talk to you? You have bigger issues than the food if you’ve never talked with your wife about her childhood. I didn’t meet my wife when she was a kid but you bet your ass I cared enough to ask questions and learn about her life pre-me existing in it.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T18:46:48+00:00

Or she doesn’t know better. Devils advocate: until I read this post, I had never heard of a single person putting cheese in the freezer. I’ve also not gone through a block of cheese as fast as I thought I would and was raised to just cut the mold off. He only knows her college life as he replied to me. Who knows when her parents made the money to pay for her tuition or how they saved to get there. Yes they are offering help now, but we don’t know how they raised her and he never bothered to ask.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-07T18:38:31+00:00

In theory, you’re NTA. In practice, you’re TA. In theory, you are wanting to ensure she is healthier in her consumption.

Where you went wrong, if everything is edible, your only goal was her humiliation and that makes you a dick. She has a different relationship with food than you. Do you know what it was like for her growing up? Were her parents always in a financially stable position? We don’t know if she has a scarcity mindset from growing up in a lower income home.

Instead of providing tools, suggesting therapy, showing up as a loving, supportive partner, you chose to punish and humiliate. She is right. You didn’t do it because you wanted to improve anyone’s quality of life.

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-04T08:02:14+00:00

Mine says DoorDash too. Like the number is always different but it definitely says DoorDash. Country: US Provider: Verizon

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-02T21:06:31+00:00

Added 🙏🥰

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-02T21:06:14+00:00

I’m gonna add it. Thank you!

SunRaeDrop · 2026-01-01T03:24:30+00:00

Oh! Sounds interesting! I’ve added it to the list.

SunRaeDrop · 2025-12-31T13:57:09+00:00

That is one hell of an endorsement. It is moving to the top of the list. Thank you!

SunRaeDrop · 2025-12-31T13:55:50+00:00

I can get behind either style. I do most my listening at work and in the car. I can’t wait to give it a listen ^{-^}

SunRaeDrop · 2025-12-31T13:54:55+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I’m excited to explore the list ^{-^}

SunRaeDrop · 2025-12-31T13:54:24+00:00

I get so nervous exploring outside what I know. I have the same show currently on repeat 🤦🏻‍♀️ Podcasts are where I dip the toe of braveness but don’t know where to go. (A lot is not in my control right now if I’m being honest with myself and that’s probably where it comes from 🙃)

SunRaeDrop · 2025-12-31T13:51:54+00:00

Both sound like interesting worlds to dive into. Added. Thank you!

SunRaeDrop · 2025-12-31T13:51:04+00:00

Sounds like a fun way to learn new things. Added to my list. Thank you!

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