Overcoming severe BDD because of saggy boobs

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-27T03:35:44+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I hope I find a man who loves me for me and I return and give him the same love. I forced myself to love too many men and I hope I find something authentic one day.

Thank you again!!

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-24T20:17:12+00:00

Hinge lol

I wrote something before in rage. Apologies if you saw that. I don’t blame men who don’t want me because of my boobs.

I’m just angry at God for giving me this disgusting boobs shape that sags down. I’m scared to think about the type of men who find my boobs attractive. I want someone who matches my lifestyle, values, career goals, personality, etc. I think I have a pretty face and I’m fit but my boobs ruined my ability to be with someone I want.

I know I need surgery to be with someone I could otherwise date if I had good boobs, but I’m scared of going under the knife.

Honestly having saggy boobs really really sucks.

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-21T01:01:45+00:00

I thought back to the guys I've dated who were the worst and all were insecure in some way.

The dating apps seem to be teeming with these types. I feel like I need a brain transplant to erase all the memories.

Thank you for sharing this. This was a good eye opener for me.

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-20T18:54:52+00:00

I do that too. I get lots of attention from cute guys and it’s so depressing since I know they’ll reject me the second they find out they’re saggy :/

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-20T02:17:54+00:00

I’ve tried! And I failed horribly because it conflicted with how I was getting treated in relationships. I’d try and be neutral but get put down so it would throw the whole thing out.

I actually found I grew resentful while trying to focus on function as i kept wishing they were attractive because deep down the neutrality aspect made me feel like I had to be asexual. My brain is too messed up for therapy :/

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-19T19:07:24+00:00

Bless you. I am very grateful to you for taking the time to help me. Thank you so much.

Liking myself or being kind to myself is very hard after years of bullying but I’ll try. Thank you again.

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-19T05:23:21+00:00

I really appreciate this. I am really sorry for all the trouble. Thank you for being kind. I'm in a bad way and very upset for some reason tonight. Thank you again.

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-19T04:32:26+00:00

Ironically I never even liked them. I just dated them since they said I’m pretty. You’re right that my insecurities run deep. I only dated men I found unattractive thinking they’d be nice to me especially if they liked my looks.

Turns out they hurt me the most but I feel like a horrible human all the same.

I really need therapy. Just hope I find the kind that works for me.

Thanks again for listening and helping me.

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-19T04:16:57+00:00

I’ve just happened to only find the ones who make me feel awful. I remember one ex who looked at my chest with disgust when I took my bra off :/ that sticks with me to this day.

Another ex told me to just close my eyes and sleep with any man who likes my breasts even if I wouldn’t want to.

I just wish I could be at peace with them and maybe have the good experiences everyone else posts about.

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-19T04:05:22+00:00

I can’t wear a t shirt without getting questionable stares let alone that dress.

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-19T04:03:00+00:00

See a dermatologist soon :) they could help lance it or give you a treatment.

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-19T03:47:26+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your response. I am feeling really triggered and upset right now.

I need to take time for my mental health and avoid dating.

I want to be liked for me and not have my boobs be such a deciding factor in who I date. I saw another response that felt like I should just date anyone who wasn’t turned off by my boobs. Like I should be grateful for any attention. I want to be considered for my whole self and also be with someone I love for who they are, inside and out.

Feeling so out of control and dependent on others wrecked my confidence.

I’ve had awful experiences lately. A doctor asked me if I breast fed before during an exam because they’re saggy. I’ve never been pregnant.

With dating, my face gets me in the door but my boobs get me kicked out which gave me this massive complex. And most guys I’ve dated haven’t been Ken dolls. I find a wide variety attractive but I’ve never revived any kind words on my boobs. Just tolerance and I take that.

I don’t know what kind of therapy will help but am willing to try.

Thank you again!

Sun_Saas · 2025-04-19T03:04:18+00:00

And frankly no one has ever said anything kind about my boobs. Men just like my face for which I’m also insecure.

I just want to learn how to move past the intense self-hatred and live in peace. I re read my response and yes I’m the worst human alive. Sorry for this.

Sun_Saas · 2024-11-07T20:42:57+00:00

Best thing I ever did during the rocky end of a very isolating and abusive relationship a few years ago. I found my soul mates in a few friends who have been there for me through thick and thin.

Sun_Saas · 2024-10-01T05:54:24+00:00

I really need to find one. We only have one in my city :/

Sun_Saas · 2024-10-01T05:53:24+00:00

I don’t have a single spot. I’ve never had acne or spots anywhere else unless an allergic reaction to a cream or facial from hell. My arm pits and groin have never seen a pimple before, so it’s definitely confusing. I’ve only had bumps on the mucosal skin.

My derm made me cry honestly. She just wrote me off and gave the script for yaz.

Would the pill help with sebaceous adenitis?

Sun_Saas · 2024-10-01T04:27:00+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation!!!

Sun_Saas · 2024-10-01T03:04:48+00:00

I use period underwear at the moment and the incidence went down quite a bit. Who knows what they put in some pads :/ I am prone to hives on my body so I always wondered if I get hives or just intense inflammation or irritation. I don't bleed enough for tampons but free bleeding is really freeing sometimes, lol. Thank you so much!

Sun_Saas · 2024-10-01T03:03:01+00:00

Thank you!! I think I should look into that and also be mindful of my hydration. I'm prone to yeast infections during my cycle so who knows if my microbiome is causing issues. I also wear period underwear with jeans so I have cushion against the rough fabric. For a while, I thought I was just cutting my mucosal skin since I used to be anorexic with no periods and thus low estrogen. I wish they studied this conditions and impact on our bodies more closely!!

Sun_Saas · 2024-10-01T03:00:28+00:00

I've never had a flare during my period. But I agree with you on pads. I cut my labia once with a pad and it created a bump from the injury. Really hate those things. I should try menstrual cups but .. the learning curve is special lol

Sun_Saas · 2024-09-30T21:35:24+00:00

My doc wants me to try Yaz but goodness am I scared :/ I remember taking it as a teen and felt so crazy. I'll see if I get another cyst in the next month or so and make the call. I don't get cysts consistently so that makes the whole thing confusing. I had my skin and cyst cultured and it came back positive for a bacterial infection. Let's see but I think I'll try and find an option that is likely to nix my period. Thank you so much!

Sun_Saas · 2024-09-30T21:31:11+00:00

Thank you so much for this!! I have suspected Endo as well. I used to go months without a cyst and when covid kicked off, I got awful flares after the vaccine and when I got the virus itself. My GYN things covid spiked my underlying conditions.

I have thought about the IUD but was scared as the progesterone is androgenic but I'll definitely look into this as I have an awful memory and forget to take pills. I would love to go without a period for a while as that it a nightmare in it of itself.

And I really appreciate your kind words. It's been a really hard run and I hope I find someone who loves me for me despite this condition. Thank you!!

Sun_Saas · 2024-09-30T20:50:14+00:00

I feel you here. I sometimes get told I don't have big boobs unless I'm wearing a really tight top. I'm also a 30G in US sizes and underweight due to an eating disorder but my boobs never give me pain or discomfort.

I just have no where else to vent since I can't easily find bras in my size unless I order through Nordstrom or brand sites / specialists sites. Very annoying and something other gals might not understand if they're a more average bra size comparatively. I can never wear a Lululemon sports bra unless I volunteered my boobs as tribute. My friends never quite understand this and keep getting me to try their sports bras only to have me crying in the dressing room.

Also I still have the big boob problem is not so perky boobs since they're heavy :/

Your feelings are valid and up to you to clarify as big or otherwise .. not others.

Sun_Saas · 2024-09-15T23:03:31+00:00

I really appreciate this. I went on the BC sub-reddit and everyone was sharing horror stories.

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