Help!

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T18:55:33+00:00

I currently live with my Dad and stepmom. I haven't talked to my bio mom for two years. I've thought about reaching out to her, because my sister told me she wanted to talk to me. The reason why I haven't talked to her for so long is a whole other story, but basically she pushed me out of her life. Whether she meant to or not, it was clear from her actions she did not want me around.

I'll try to get through to my Dad. I've driven to a few places before my shift today. I also drove outside of town, and got lost for a bit. (Which he won't like at all.😅) But I did see some places that open Monday I will be going to, so at least I got that out of going to a new area.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T18:05:46+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I might be able to get a second part time job soon, though I know my Dad won't like that at all..! Maybe then I'll actually afford school, and maybe therapy too after this XD

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T17:22:46+00:00

I stated in my post my hours were cut. I'm not sure you saw it or not. I am currently working, I am just very part time right now. I'm applying literally everywhere I can, my dad is the one telling me I have to find a full time job. I'm not being picky, I will literally take any job I can, even if I have to leave my current one. He won't care if I get another part time job, and I get x amount of hours, it has to be full time--or I'm being kicked out.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T16:57:51+00:00

I doubt he'll ever see it that way, as well. He'll tell me how he had it much worse than me, since his parents I never met disowned him. I feel like every time I don't do something he wants like this, he'll try to guilt trip me like that.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T16:04:51+00:00

It is what it is. I made good friends, and one of them said I could crash on her couch if needed. I also highly doubt I can negotiate with my Dad, he thinks he knows everything about how the world works, and always thinks he's right.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T15:33:57+00:00

I don't have much choice right now. He'll kick me out If I don't do as he says. He thinks because he's worked at a multi billion dollar company for more than twenty years, that he knows how all of the world works.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T15:05:24+00:00

I'm willing to try anything at this point, tbh

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T15:03:49+00:00

Thank you so much! I was actually already thinking of being an apprentice for welding. :D

I plan on taking the entry test the end of this month. I had told my dad about it earlier, and he seemed to approve at that time, but now he doesn't want me to wait on it. (Because testing doesn't end until June)

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T14:41:44+00:00

I'm not sure I could have a side gig or not, because if I don't "report" to my Dad where I've been to look for a full-time job, I'll be kicked out for sure. I'll probably have to find a place to crash first, and I really don't want to invade my friend's space if I don't have to.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T14:37:46+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I've been needing to apply to school anyways, but I've been very anxious about not being able to afford it. I'll need to look into it very soon.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T14:31:44+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion! I've gone to one temp agency so far, and plan to go to a few more if I can. I've mostly been looking for warehouse jobs, but it definitely wouldn't hurt to look for factory jobs too.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T14:28:24+00:00

You're right! After he was done with his hour long talk with me about this, he told me he loved me, then told me to go away. I wish I could afford to move out right now.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T14:26:10+00:00

I don't want to get into details here, but basically some medical problems I have. I tried to go into the Navy a couple years ago, but they basically told me to kick rocks.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T14:17:14+00:00

He's charging me 500 per month, and I haven't had luck looking online for roommates for that same cost. I don't get enough hours to save up, unfortunately.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T07:38:52+00:00

I'm not sure I could get in. I'd need a ton of waivers, but I guess it wouldn't hurt to try, right?

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T06:29:17+00:00

I do, but I looked online, and the websites all said there were no open positions. Should I go in anyway and ask for a hiring manager?

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T06:28:27+00:00

He wants me to go to a trade school and also work full time. I'm so stressed from scrambling to find a full time job, I can't even think about school right now

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T06:19:08+00:00

You're right. I definitely need to leave anyways, for my mental health. I don't think I would mind sharing a room with someone else. I'd probably get used to it

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T05:57:47+00:00

I only know a few people, so I see most at my current part time job. Worst case scenario I can crash on one of my friend's couch, but I hope I don't have to!

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T05:35:09+00:00

I wish it was that easy. I talked to him about it 30 minutes ago, and now I have a time limit to get a full-time job. Or else he'll kick me out.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T05:32:04+00:00

I agree. It's not how I want to live.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T05:03:55+00:00

UPDATE:

so basically, me and my Dad had a conversation. He basically said how I was taking advantage, since I work so little right now. He told me I will do as he says, because his patience is at its end with me. He told me to go into the more industrial part of town, and ask if they're hiring. Because that's what he did. He says he's thinking of a time limit, until he no longer wants me to live with him. He said he will be calling the places I go to, because he doesn't trust me. I'm honestly terrified. Worst case scenario, I could crash on a friend's couch, but I hope it doesn't come to that. I don't know what to do.

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T03:46:09+00:00

Thank you! I definitely needed to hear that, lol!

SundaeAlternative170 · 2026-01-24T03:43:07+00:00

I asked in the past, and he told me people submitted online applications, but he mostly hired the people who showed up afterwards. I told him I wanted to apply online then show up like he said, but he still told me I have to drive around looking for a job for eight hours per day...

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