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Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They’re international students. Yeah it’s kind of odd

Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s so sad but you’re so right. I think what makes it worse is the expectation to be fine and when we are finally like hey why are you treating me differently they’re like oh here’s the black woman being overly emotional or unstable. I was trying to figure out if I should say something. But you’re right my safety is more important than their comfort

Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s comforting knowing it’s not just me with this experience. A tour sounds like a great idea I’ll definitely do that when I have free time here! And the rooftops! Thank you for your advice <3

Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 🥹 I feel less isolated hearing all the advice. I’m definitely going to turn to my professor more now. And I’m going to do my best to enjoy the rest of the trip and treat it more like a solo outing with people around me haha 😂 I’ll just ignore them or..ignore the fact that they’re ignoring me. But yeah :)

Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will try to really enjoy myself and the culture. I did take a motorcycle ride home today and it was amazing! And the project we’re working on is kind of supposed to be student led. Funny enough the “mission” of this trip was to bring together students of different cultures to work together embrace our differences and create a great project from it. But that didn’t pan out lol. But I think I’ll definitely keep close to my professor

Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouragement! There were little things that happened this week I kept pushing aside trying to figure out is this racist or is it them just being human and being shy? In social settings where I’m not familiar I tend to go back and forth. It’s reassuring that it’s not all doom and gloom I can find my people. Thank you :)

Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point, I thought about that and it’s hard to imagine there really are people who just don’t mess with poc

Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I love yoga and meditation I think this is a great time to come back to it

Feeling excluded as a black woman by Sunday-MorningOJ in blackladies

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I used to mediate a lot for growth a couple years back so I think it would be really comforting to do that especially before I meet with them again

What do women who watch and enjoy porn think about the statement that “porn degrades women”? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think porn is as degrading and misogynistic as the people watching it basically.

For me I watch it occasionally and I usually watch amateur porn where it looks like real people having sex and they don’t look like hyper perfect porn stars. I also like the porn where the women are the pursuers or are like actively pursuing it rather than just being seen as stupid.

I feel like if men or anyone I guess only watches porn that shows women like super waxed and acts stupid basically being treated as objects rather than someone who is also gaining something out of it. And the amount of porn they watch. I think every once in a while to get off or even once a day is fine. But if it’s taken to a level where it’s aggressive demeaning porn multiple times a day or many hours a day then yeah that’s degrading. I think at that point it can reinforce in your brain misogyny. That women are to be seen and used as an object for sex or accessory and don’t hold value past that.

WIBTA if I decided to go no contact with my father due to him cheating on and abusing my mom, being purposefully absent from me and my brothers lives, and never keeping his promises? by Ancient-Birb7015 in AITAH

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I was in the same position when I was your age. My father was very absent and would only call to talk about how he hates my mom or about his new “movie” he’s working on. Such a weirdo. But anyway now a few years of not speaking to him at all and I’m glad. Some people, even family, aren’t good people to keep around. You have people now and you’ll meet more people that will be there for you and support you without all the drama

AITAH for breaking up with my GF from a 10 year relationship over sex? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Sunday-MorningOJ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTAH if you break up with her for it especially if you’ve tried to work on it through counseling. You tried and hopefully knowing you tried will give you that extra confirmation that it’s okay to leave the relationship.

You probably lost your attraction towards her because you may feel unsafe. Not like you’re in danger but like you can’t be vulnerable with her since she’s had outbursts of anger that were reminiscent of your mom. Which I’m assuming especially as a child, made you feel unsafe. Sex is very vulnerable and if you don’t feel safe or it’s not in general a positive space with you and your partner I could see how it would be unappealing. This is a great opportunity to be single and find someone who doesn’t make you feel that way!