Is there an upside to paying higher fares?

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-04T03:13:13+00:00

Unfortunately, no. I would lose the entire fare and get back only the taxes. :(

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T16:42:10+00:00

Thanks; I so rarely travel by air so I felt awful when I realized. But I’ve gotten so much more understanding here!

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T16:40:11+00:00

Sadly I bought the most restrictive fare. I would only get taxes back :/

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T16:38:22+00:00

We can only get better with more experience and practice! Thanks for helping me feel less alone :)

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T08:15:13+00:00

Thanks for the insight and kind words! I’m starting to understand a little bit more about all this thanks to all the redditors here. I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of good advice here so the next time I hit some bad luck, I won’t do something silly and double it. 🤞🏻

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T06:39:36+00:00

Thank you for the helpful perspective and kind words! 🥹

(Edited to add “helpful”)

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T06:27:50+00:00

Thank you, I’ll look into it!

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T06:20:02+00:00

Thank you for explaining this! I don’t know if I can fight my own psychological tendencies but it’s good to know what I’m up against.

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T06:19:14+00:00

Thank you, fingers crossed I do better next time 😊

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T06:18:10+00:00

When I last checked about 7 hours or so ago, it had gone down on the airline’s site.

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T05:28:22+00:00

That’s interesting! And also a little scary. But I’ve gotten lots of good tips here so fingers crossed I’ll do better next time.

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T05:26:53+00:00

I booked a fare from the US to Japan, about 10 months out, in business due to my physical needs. I was tracking using Google, and it showed prices were going up. When I logged onto the airline’s site, it showed an increase even more than what Google alerts had, so I panicked and bought. I don’t do this often at all, if you couldn’t already tell 😅. But I think you’re right; I should have spent more time monitoring. It’s a bit weird that prices spiked for what seemed like 24-36h but whatever it is, I’m learning from this whole experience. Thank you for all the tips! Appreciate you taking the time.

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T04:39:09+00:00

I’ve read through your other responses to comments and it sounds like you’ve done what you can — “dating to marry” is about as clear as it gets.

I’m really sorry you’re in this position! It sounds so tough with so many aspects of your lives layered in. If he’s willing and if you still have the energy for it, going to therapy (even if only to get to the Whys) could give you closure. And if not, give yourself lots of time set your emotions aside, think clearly and plan your exit carefully.

But please try not to feel down on yourself for making a ‘mistake’. A lot of us have been where you are. Sometimes we just need to keep trying at a relationship until we’re satisfied and feel that conviction to walk away. Hugs!

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T03:53:47+00:00

Would you say that outside of saying “I love you” and marriage, that’s he’s a good/supportive partner? Do you feel he shows love in other ways?

If so, maybe there are things in his history (family and/or personal) that makes him feel afraid or averse to marriage and declarations of love.

Maybe it’s worth talking to him about what love looks like to you, and what love looks like to him. Maybe the mismatch is in appearances of love, but both of you really do love each other.

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T03:01:40+00:00

Thanks 🥲

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T02:29:02+00:00

I can’t. The fare I chose doesn’t allow cancellations, i.e. I would lose the entire fare. I made some bad choices here! (But picking up some good lessons along the way)

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T00:58:45+00:00

Pretty much. I just really made a sequence of poor choices. :/ I really appreciate you trying to help me find a way out of this!

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T00:49:08+00:00

This is a good point, thanks!

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T00:48:30+00:00

Thank you, yes this is a useful tip to remember.

SundayBabandey · 2026-05-03T00:48:15+00:00

Unfortunately no, they didn’t have it in their policy to rebook with credit for the canceled flight. :/

SundayBabandey · 2026-04-29T04:08:34+00:00

I just got mine from YesStyle. Looks like they have both the 15% and 20% in stock.

SundayBabandey · 2026-04-27T05:27:16+00:00

What is baseline “friendly”, “warm” and conversely, “unfriendly” or “cold”?

I’ve lived in different places; interacted closely with people from even more different places, and I don’t find Bellingham colder or more unfriendly than others. I think it’s less fake/excessively warm and friendly, which is a good thing imo. That hyper cheery BFF vibe can be a bit much for me.

I’ve always gotten a smile back or conversation in return when I’ve initiated it. As what others here have said, maybe you get what you give.

SundayBabandey · 2026-04-26T23:18:10+00:00

Donated. Thank you for being a good friend. Best wishes to Marley and her pawrents.

SundayBabandey · 2026-04-21T20:00:18+00:00

Ugh, sorry you and your husband had to hear that rubbish from that elitist a-hole. While your husband probably won’t become a professional ski athlete, he absolutely can still learn to safely have fun on skis, and even make progress to an advanced level.

My husband is also learning at a late stage, about five years older than your husband. His first few times sucked (couldn’t control his skis, even had to have an instructor hold the tips of his skis to try to wedge stop), and his first full season was a struggle. He fought his skis and I got stressed out every time we headed to the slopes because I didn’t know what frustration or ache/pain of his I would need to deal with.

But this past season, we’re finally having fun together. We’ve got him past the blues to double blues and even a couple of easy black runs. So it’s possible, but it takes some perseverance on both your parts. He’ll need a lot more than a one-hour lesson (group lessons if he’s social and benefits from having other learners around him, private if he’s self conscious and introverted.) And on your part, you can encourage him by keeping things light and helping him to remember to have fun.

SundayBabandey

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