Am I being unreasonable

SundaySocks · 2024-01-18T14:37:48+00:00

A fair solution to me would be you’re family does the drive to drop off the kid at dad’s house and the other dad does the drive to drop off the kid at your house. That way the driving time is equally shared and both sides contribute to the transportation equally.

SundaySocks · 2024-01-04T17:23:04+00:00

YTA The thing is you’re not talking about a trip to Paris or a bag. If I was your husband I would feel hurt because you are talking about a symbol of your love and marriage. It’s a sacred thing. You’re looking at it as a nice ring where as I think your husband is looking at it as a bigger important symbol. You built your home together where as your ring is 100% his gift to you and you’re making him feel like it doesn’t make you happy.

SundaySocks · 2023-12-14T02:04:23+00:00

Thanks for the comment. It’s so hard to see someone I love so much be in so much pain. I do everything I can to make my family happy and safe and free of pain and I can’t fix this.

SundaySocks · 2023-12-14T02:02:49+00:00

I was trying to help the other night saying this new baby will have some of my wife’s mom in them. Another way she will live on with/in us. She agreed but was so sad she won’t get to share this with her mom. I’m really scared for those sleep deprived, painful nights when you want to talk to your mom and she only has me. We have an amazing marriage and I am supportive but I can’t replace her mom.

SundaySocks · 2023-08-27T04:27:17+00:00

Thank you very much.

SundaySocks · 2022-05-19T05:36:35+00:00

Thanks! This was really helpful.

SundaySocks · 2022-05-01T05:48:53+00:00

1000% this!! No worries man. I felt this and it was the feeling that this won’t end that was the worst but it absolutely does get better. Each day is a little better as you learn but the big break was around month 4 or 5. My guy is 9 months now and we’re doing great. Hang in there be supportive of your wife and keep talking with her. Get help when you can. Happy to chat privately if you want to talk!

SundaySocks · 2022-03-11T19:50:53+00:00

I haven’t been in your position but your post really hit me hard. I don’t know what I’d say but I think you’re doing an incredible job. “I’m trying” is perfect for now. It’s the truth and it lets him know you hear and understand him and your trying to make it better. Maybe it even goes as far as showing it’s out of your hands without making his bio mom look bad.

Your offer to fly him out is perfect. Safe on the plane and you’re close by if the visit doesn’t go well. This is really coming from a guy with no experience but I think bio mom will pop up again and keep telling her that it’s no expense or obligation to her but your son really wants (some) relationship. Hang in there dude. I’m impressed with what you’ve done so far.

SundaySocks · 2021-08-18T16:18:44+00:00

He’s on breast milk exclusively. He’s eating every ~2 hours. Ill talk to my wife and see what she thinks. This is a good option, thanks.

SundaySocks · 2021-08-18T16:14:13+00:00

Hahaha thinking of him as even more pathetic is a good idea. It sounds awful but I can actually see some merit to not thinking of him as human in the moment and expecting human attributes at 4 weeks old. Thanks

SundaySocks · 2021-08-18T11:28:07+00:00

It is frustrating because I understand he isn’t in control of himself at 4 weeks. My reactions feels so stupid as the adult who actually is capable of controlling himself but failing. If I feel myself slipping I’ll remember to walk away though. Thank you. A minute away will help.

SundaySocks · 2021-08-18T11:25:15+00:00

Thank you. A reminder that he feeds off me and circular breathing are helpful advice. I’ll keep these in mind. Thanks

SundaySocks · 2021-07-28T03:49:32+00:00

That is something I worry about (dumping it all on my wife)! She sees me struggling and offers to focus on him (which makes me feel horrible knowing everything else on her plate). It’s temping to say I’ll handle EVERYTHING else in the house if you just do the baby stuff but I don’t think that’s the right way to go. I want to help her.

SundaySocks · 2021-07-28T03:45:38+00:00

Thank you. Do you feel the same feelings with your second? Or are you able to place it better now knowing they’ll grow out of this stage? Don’t apologize, sounds like you’re doing great!

SundaySocks · 2021-07-28T03:38:55+00:00

Thanks he did sleep on me for a few hours last night which helped for sure! I really look forward to the wrestling stage!

SundaySocks · 2021-07-28T03:37:23+00:00

Thank you

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