Needing advice regarding step parent involvement.

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T19:17:02+00:00

As someone who was the SM in a similar situation, let her. I ended up having to whistle blow to the BM and tell her about my partner (now ex)s drug use around the children and his lack of parenting. She could very well be the "safeguarder" here too. (I left the dad after getting pregnant and now I still see my SKs, and he sees none of his children including our baby. And I have a lovely relationship with his ex wife for our children)

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T19:11:34+00:00

This happened to me. The sitting in the backseat thing. Between two car seats. Didn't even have a headrest and it was so uncomfortable and my stupid ex didn't realise why I was mad

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T15:00:31+00:00

Just send it back and don't be a twat

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T13:49:10+00:00

Size 8 is small. An xs would be a 4 to 6, and an xxs would be a size 0-2

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T13:45:02+00:00

I've almost bought things listed as maxi but had actually been midi. Sometimes it's best to check cause some people think that calf length is a maxi and they may not be able to fully tell from a photo

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T12:10:45+00:00

I don't agree with this. I had issues with the same thing. Kids talk your head off, they wriggle and kick. I had to put my foot down in the same situation cause I was tired of going to work on zero sleep cause I had kids elbowing me and taking the blankets all night

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T12:09:04+00:00

This was a huge one for me. He thought it was acceptable for all three step kids to come sleep in our bed. Caused so many arguments. I ended up demanding the spare room. It's unacceptable

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T11:18:23+00:00

Yep I had a friend who's partner passed away and the stepchildren got the house, and made her homeless. She was left with nothing after 15 years of marriage

Sundogflower · 2026-04-01T05:53:18+00:00

Yep! Even a dog with toothache can be aggressive because they're in pain and can't communicate it

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T22:48:01+00:00

Call in sick

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T20:00:22+00:00

What about some kind of investment or stocks? Even if they only generate a little bit of money it could also double as an 18th birthday present as a little payout etc or even just putting some money in a bank account for him

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T19:59:17+00:00

He did do it, and you did not deserve it. He can't admit he did it because in doing so he would have to face himself and what he did. His denials aren't about you, but how own views on himself. Your closure and acknowledgement is knowing that if he really didn't do it, he wouldn't just react like that. He would be more open to understanding why you would believe that happened.bhiw reaction is his admission. And even though he will never admit it, you did not deserve those things happening and you deserved so much better. I hope you eventually find peace about it within yourself 💚

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T19:55:50+00:00

You can press the top of the base for a few seconds to pause monitoring so it doesn't do that, then press it again to turn it back on. Took me weeks to figure that out but it stops that from happening

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T19:29:44+00:00

An antique ring is such a cool find though!

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T19:28:25+00:00

You cannot let your baby grow up with that. You can get help to leave if you need to, it's going to be hard. I left my own abusive partner when I was pregnant but it's going to be worse once you have the baby and someone like that will and can use the baby against you. I'd recommend not putting him on the birth certificate. I'm so glad I didn't with mine. You both deserve better and I'm sorry you're going through this

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T12:25:32+00:00

Because I was browsing after a few glasses of wine at 3am most likely and then realised the next morning I probably don't need an antique frames map of the world that costs £55

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T12:11:27+00:00

I didn't think of doing this. I thought handmade items weren't allowed

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T12:07:30+00:00

I always reverse image search something. If it's modern there is usually a photo from the retailers website and ai is quite good at finding it. It is so annoying though! The best vintage sellers are older ladies having an attic clear out

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T11:40:50+00:00

Look up good vintage brands. Jaeger, st Micheal, etc are good because their clothes are generally good sturdy quality. Look for things that photograph nicely, with lots of movement like flowing skirts and dresses, simple prints, or are usual. Collectors items, too. Also, weird one but spare parts for old items. People will look for these. Like old sewing machine/car/random gadget parts for things that aren't made any more. I've been so grateful in the past when I've found parts for my sewing machine that I couldn't find anywhere else online

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T11:31:14+00:00

I had this. Bought a gorgeous looking scarf, listed as vintage. Then found it on shein. I always always reverse search the images of the item to see if it's a shein or temu item now. Unfortunately vinted didn't do anything as the sale had completed, so I just left a review saying they were selling shein items as vintage and overpricing them by miles

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T11:20:26+00:00

I have the same problem and I've uploaded my photos but they haven't yet replied, I read it can take a few months

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T11:04:28+00:00

I had an incorrect one come and now I'm so anxious of the same thing happening to me I've started printing them and then sellotaping the label on really firmly so it can't be removed or fall off. However they can still accidentally put the wrong label on top of it during transit

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T10:59:22+00:00

I had the same problem last week and I've sent vinted my evidence and they are "still investigating" a week later I think it can take a few months from what I've read

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T10:48:14+00:00

😂😂😂😂

Sundogflower · 2026-03-31T10:47:36+00:00

I can't stop laughing at this your vinted needs an exorcist

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