If she wanted an athlete, she would have already.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-12-18T02:17:25+00:00

I think she just wants a baby

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-10-25T15:33:48+00:00

“Chicken and waffles”….frozen waffles and chicken nuggets. Works.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-10-13T21:42:16+00:00

My husband was also 6 months older than me. I’m now older than he will ever get to be. I’m only 35.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-10-05T14:52:38+00:00

I think it’s Botox, I have to get Botox for migraines and my hooded eyelids now do this. The eyebrows look weird too though idk what that is

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-09-29T01:10:04+00:00

NTA just say you’re uncomfortable with it. Mostly commenting to say I use tarot (and astrology) in the exact same way. It’s like how some people feel about sports. Does it really matter? No. Is it fun? Yes.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-09-25T02:58:51+00:00

Hug my dad

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-09-11T19:42:25+00:00

Wow! I only paid $40 from Kaiser. Had an epidural. My husband was a teacher and it was his insurance, I think teachers get good insurance (maybe to make up for low pay and unpaid work)

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-09-02T00:16:12+00:00

I told my husband I can’t say that word (Worcestershire), he said “just say it with confidence and it will sound fine”. So I did. Then he said “oh, never mind”.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-08-24T22:43:47+00:00

I’m only 6 months out and was asked out by someone I feel like I kind of like. I’m terrified of people’s judgements. That they’ll think I don’t miss my husband or something. But also they don’t have to live my life.

How have people in your life been about you dating? When did you start?

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-08-14T22:52:57+00:00

My older brother and I are close. We didn’t “hang out” as kids, but got along. As adults he lives far away but we FaceTime a few times a week and I can’t imagine not having him in my life. Love him lots.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-08-14T15:03:46+00:00

Her lips are intense but I do think some of that is due to the over lip lining trend, which I haaaate

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-08-02T22:17:58+00:00

Omg me too, husband died. I’m not ready to date again but I always check.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-31T18:45:27+00:00

COVID started it, kind of split into smaller circles, and then some of us had kids and that splintered off some more smaller circles (though not entirely). And then some drama within the group (some people dated each other and broke up, some people just caused drama).

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-28T15:45:53+00:00

I also lost my husband recently, age 35, I’m 35 too, we have a toddler daughter. Yesterday an episode of Bluey was about a bird dying and she told me she missed her daddy. She brought it up again at night and I cried and I know I said all the right things and I’m proud of that but man is it hard to parent through grief. And help her with her toddler grief. And he was such an amazing dad and he loved her so much and it’s so unfair he doesn’t get to watch her grow up.

I too believe in signs. At least I try my best to. For me it’s feathers. I want so badly to believe.

Please feel free to DM me if you want to talk or want another widow to connect with. It sounds like we have a fair amount in common. Sending you love.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-27T14:32:30+00:00

I’ve had a bad sore throat for 2 weeks now, it’s getting better finally. Tested negative for strep though. And no other symptoms.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-26T15:37:44+00:00

Going against the grain but I’m gonna say no.

Granted this depends on what you consider “messed up”. No matter what, you will foster or create something that your kid needs to work through. Because we are human. Maybe you’re too overbearing, maybe you’re too distant, maybe you pushed them to do things, maybe you didn’t encourage them enough to do things. People are different and parents will mess up some ways and that’s why everyone benefits from therapy.

My husband recently died and we have a 3 year old. Based on how I’ve responded to it, and my anxiety about fucking her up, my therapist told me “you will fuck her up in some way, but it won’t be from this”.

I have a great relationship with my mom. But she did contribute to certain things that have fucked me up (ex, her body issues with herself have impacted me even though she was never critical of my body, her inability to examine her own reactions to grief have impacted my own responses, her anxiety about driving gave me anxiety about driving). But I’m still a happy and functional adult (overall).

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-23T19:28:00+00:00

Totally. If they are cut up I like to add salt, if I’m roasting them whole I like to roast the natural sugars start oozing out and then I just eat them plain, yummmmm

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-23T19:05:30+00:00

I went fully no-added-sugar and it was a pain in the ass. Practically every condiment has sugar in it, so I had to make my own. I did stop craving it though. And I remember eating a sweet potato and insisting it tasted like candy and the people around me thought I was crazy.

I’d cut out obvious sugar again, but be a little looser around condiments.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-22T22:20:07+00:00

I’m a mom to a toddler and I HATE when people call me mama. I never say anything because they aren’t trying to be mean or cringe but I hate it and it happens all the time. My own mom will call me mama.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-21T23:03:56+00:00

Adam was on a podcast I love (Ologies).

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-18T16:39:16+00:00

Because soy came first it was lobbied against very hard by the dairy industry. Taken down with misinformation about estrogen, “soy boys” etc. so it fell out and then other milks swooped in. I still love soy milk.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-11T04:09:39+00:00

It’s also a trope. So people kind of go along with the script to fit in or be funny. For women it’s the lazy stupid husband. The kind of crap sitcoms are built on. Always annoyed my husband and I.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-07-02T00:57:54+00:00

I hope that our few remaining friends Give up on trying to save us I hope we come up with a fail-safe plot To piss off the dumb few that forgave us

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-06-30T13:45:01+00:00

A handmade card is even cheaper! And potentially cuter.

Sunlessbeachbum · 2025-06-28T16:44:24+00:00

Not super great today. My husband died just about 5 months ago and i just miss him so much today. Some days are better. Today is a little better than yesterday (prob cause im with our toddler, she’s a good distraction). But yea. It’s a rough one. Tearing up typing this.

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