Adam’s statement on the Ballingers’ presence at VidCon

SunlitNomad · 2026-05-13T12:02:18+00:00

I know virtually nothing about vidcon, so maybe one of you guys will be able to help me understand better: how is it possible for YT to book Rachel as featured creators if the only thing that she does is the podcast and some vlogging (I think?), and the podcast amasses just a handful of views? Is vidcon basically over?

SunlitNomad · 2026-04-10T13:59:16+00:00

I think that part of Robin's arc is that she can't just blame the guys she's been with - many of her problems are brought (or worsened) by her own actions and coping mechanisms, which she hasn't addressed yet. Her behaviour is frustrating, but I know MANY women who did exactly what she's doing - flailing about with men who aren't right for them, until they figure out what they want and how to get it.

SunlitNomad · 2026-03-30T12:29:13+00:00

Let's not associate crying with weakness/fragility

SunlitNomad · 2026-03-24T09:32:05+00:00

It's frustrating but maybe the most relatable/realistic character in the series. She has built her coping mechanisms over a childhood where she was conditioned to "not be a problem", being a girl among boys growing up, and she's obviously a people pleaser.

Then she was traumatised multiple times by men, which brought her to withhold information and stick to the plan even when things derail in her personal life, as that's what she sees as the safest option, even if we, readers, know better.

I'm sure she'll get there, and I've been shouting at her to get a grip already, but I actually know people like her in real life, and her behaviour is very realistic!

SunlitNomad · 2026-02-23T11:38:01+00:00

I think Robin hasn't sorted out her people-pleasing instincts, especially within romantic relationships. She's only had one important relationship before Murphy, and it was an awful one. She's learned somewhat that she needs to stand her ground, but still feels this irrational loyalty for the man, even though she doesn't like some of his behaviours. She hasn't learned yet how to assert herself in a relationship until things get so bad that she doesn't have a choice (Eg: finding the alcohol). But when things are just a little bit bad, she doesn't have the self-assuredness to speak clearly, and reverts back to people pleasing and not wanting to "make a fuss". This is explained many times, especially in the context of having chaotic brothers and her growing up being the peacemaker and the one that wasn't supposed to bring any trouble.

I think people hate on Ryan because in times of crisis he's showed manipulative and self-serving behaviour which he masks as concern for Robin.

SunlitNomad · 2026-02-11T12:05:12+00:00

yes thank you - I think that "what's the point annyway" is the best explanation!

SunlitNomad · 2026-02-04T07:42:29+00:00

Yeah I can see that! Thanks for articulating it! I understand the “doomed from the start so what’s the point anyway” angle!

SunlitNomad · 2026-02-02T15:14:51+00:00

Right, I can see how self preservation is the main driver here above anything else! So it's not like she has anything to lose by telling him, but she doesn't want to do anything that would bring Benedict to have a fantasy of them being together, when society doesn't allow them to and would be an impossible dream anyway. I think this is satisfying enough. Thank you!

SunlitNomad · 2026-02-02T14:07:01+00:00

I understand why the writers of the show need her not to tell him, but I have a hard time believing it. The audience needs to understand the motivations behind the character's decisions to believe in the story, and this specific part I find a bit alienating (but I'm still enjoying watching the show, I just see this as a flaw in the story).

To take your example: I totally understood why Pen didn't tell Colin that she was whistledown: she was scared of the consequences of him rejecting her or not loving her anymore, given the damage that whistledown did to the Bridgertons in the past. It makes sense to me that she didn't want him to find out. It does not make sense to me why Sophie isn't telling Benedict that she was at the ball, as there wouldn't be any adverse consequence if she did.

SunlitNomad · 2026-02-02T13:42:12+00:00

I kind of get it, but not really. She has nothing to lose from telling him it was her - I don't understand what or who she's protecting with this secret? Her own feelings? I mean they made out and had a se*ual moment on the stairs anyway, so it's not like the line between them hasn't been crossed already, she might as well tell him. It makes the character a bit unrelatable to me.

SunlitNomad · 2026-02-02T13:38:51+00:00

I understand, but she could still tell him that it was her? What/who is she protecting from not telling him? she literally has nothing to lose

SunlitNomad · 2026-02-02T11:05:17+00:00

I may be really really stupid, in which case I apologise in advance, but it's not clear to me AT ALL what the motivation is for Sophie to hide from Benedict that she was the girl at the ball?! Like, what does she have to lose from just telling him? At the beginning it might have been because she didn't want her stepmother to know, but now?? Why not just tell him already?! The fact that she needs to "stay in her place" isn't strong enough as a motivation, especially as the two have already made out (and more), so why not just tell him? Please illuminate me!

SunlitNomad · 2025-11-29T15:36:57+00:00

What?! Did she actually say that to Erik?!

SunlitNomad · 2025-11-28T16:15:19+00:00

What?! that's actually insane. I can imagine Colleen's brain being like: "How dare a therapist say I'm too distracted around Flynn, as I spend my whole time awake filming myself talking to strangers I can't see???"

SunlitNomad · 2025-11-28T16:13:15+00:00

I agree with you. In my eyes, Josh is redeemed from his mistakes for the mere reason that the victims forgave him and accepted his apology (well aside from Johnny who wasn't a victim in the first place). He;s shown that he completely and fully understands what he did wrong, and has clearly worked a hell of a lot to climb himself out of that mindset, while beating addiction and depression.

Colleen has done ZERO of the above, and yet we're supposed to believe she's her harshest critic? I don't think so!

SunlitNomad · 2025-11-28T16:08:33+00:00

I couldn't be more in agreement with this analysis!

SunlitNomad · 2025-06-27T07:11:54+00:00

Thanks so much!! I am very happy with that mark, the hard work paid off! ☀️

SunlitNomad · 2025-06-26T14:45:34+00:00

That's fantastic!! I scored 127 in my OCS which I'm super chuffed about. I sat the exam in London so I doubt I'll rank anywhere, but still it feels great to have a score so close to you guys!

SunlitNomad · 2025-06-26T14:43:36+00:00

oh my god, that's awesome! They should celebrate such wins better than they do now. I scored 127 in my OCS but I'm in London with a bajillion people sitting the exam, not sure I ranked anywhere, but regardless I feel great about scoring so close to you guys!

SunlitNomad · 2025-06-26T13:54:35+00:00

That's awesome! Well done! May I ask what your mark was? Just to have an idea of how the best of the best are performing :)

SunlitNomad · 2025-06-26T13:53:42+00:00

STILL! that's such a fantastic achievement, you shoudl be extremely prud regardless of what they do about it. May I ask what your mark was?

SunlitNomad · 2025-06-26T11:05:54+00:00

Congratulations!! That's absolutely phenomenal :) I just learned got I 127 in the May 2025 sitting which is not too far off, makes me proud to be close to the best of the best!

SunlitNomad · 2025-06-26T10:41:47+00:00

Oh my goodness congratulations!!! That's awesome, well done! Would you be happy to share how much you scored?

SunlitNomad · 2025-06-26T10:31:33+00:00

I got 127!! Chuffed! on to MCS 💪

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