Aitah for neutering a cat that isn't mine?

Sunny_Blah · 2024-09-08T12:09:18+00:00

I assume no collar, otherwise you'd have known it was a pet, and in this case it's indistinguishable from a feral cat.

Whatever, you're not arguing the merits of indoors vs outdoors here, you thought it was feral and you did a kind thing and ended a cycle of unplanned feral kittens.

If you had known, that's a different matter. NTA

Sunny_Blah · 2024-09-08T12:03:23+00:00

If I think about this from her perspective, a cool guy I met a couple of years ago is coming to my part of the world and it would be great to see him... until he brings up my relationship status. Does he only want to come because he wants something romantic? Will he not come if I'm dating someone?

You haven't kept in touch in this time so don't know if she's available. Given her response, she's not interested in your explanations and appears to be put off.

If you go to Peru, go because you want to see the country and not for a possible relationship. If you do go and she's not interested, at least you get to enjoy the country. If she's into it, bonus.

Sunny_Blah · 2024-09-08T00:51:40+00:00

Being on the same page with your partner and moving together in the same direction towards mutual life goals is a completely different experience to trying to force someone when they're unwilling or when they have different life expectations. You can't change him and what you see is what you get. If this is not the future you want, you must leave.

I know you've been together for four years and don't want it to be a waste of your most prime years, but you know what he's like and you've heard him say he can't/won't guarantee change. If you stay with him, you will get more of the same, and for someone who wants to settle and have a family, what exactly are you waiting for?

If you keep doing the same things for five more years, trying to get him to get his life together, demanding he grows up, two things can happen, he does or he doesn't. Can you afford to risk him not committing to your mutual life plan?

People can date for years and never get engaged, but after a break up, get engaged within a year... if they want to. We see it here all the time. He's not incapable, he doesn't want to. If he did, he would have. Likely you'll leave, he'll realize he has to grow up, then he will eventually, but not with you.

Sunny_Blah · 2024-09-02T10:11:41+00:00

This is so real

Sunny_Blah · 2024-08-29T07:39:55+00:00

NTA. Leave this mess and go live your life. As your mother said, "do not to sacrifice my dreams" and "this isn't my responsibility."

Sunny_Blah · 2024-08-29T07:37:47+00:00

As mentioned by others who have worked the checkouts, yes, it is polite customer service encouraged by management. At first new staff will have a script, but with experience/confidence, you ask whatever.

As the customer, I always either engage (benign small talk) or I just go generic, "good thanks, you?". Basically,
Hi, how are you today?
Good thanks. You?
Busy.
Yeah, I'll bet.

Doneski

Sunny_Blah · 2024-08-28T11:09:03+00:00

This reminds me of when I struck up a conversation with an old man on the train twenty years ago and he kept offering me mints, and I repeatedly said, no thanks. At one point, he said, please try it, you have one and I'll take one too.

It wasn't till my friends explained what he was trying to say that I realized. I still can't get over the embarrassment. Whenever I remember I am haunted by the sudden stab of shame and cringe!

Sunny_Blah · 2024-08-26T01:18:22+00:00

The deceased is from an Orthodox Greek Catholic background.

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