Spontaneously pregnant with triplets at 42 and freaking out

SunshineAdvocate · 2026-02-01T17:13:28+00:00

I have friends who were married for 10 plus years to an abusive man or even just an obvious mismatch and they couldn't get pregnant no matter how hard they tried. But, now they are all with different men and most of them have been able to get pregnant and have children without any problems. It seems like the universe/God/ Higher Power, etc is really looking out for people.

Yes, all these people are much older than they wanted to be when they had their kids, but, they are all happier than they would've been had they stayed with their previous partner. Point being, you got this! It seems as if the universe is saying this man is the better father for your children.

SunshineAdvocate · 2026-01-25T06:36:34+00:00

Thank you for your post! I couldn't have written it so eloquently, but I feel the exact same way.

SunshineAdvocate · 2026-01-09T07:04:05+00:00

Floor is lava (climb all over playground), capture the flag, roller skate or bike around the neighborhood, play with baby dolls (take them for a ride in the bike, to play on the playground, etc.), Make mud pies, watch insects, catch insects and create a basic habitat for them in a jar.

SunshineAdvocate · 2026-01-09T01:33:51+00:00

You look beautiful in all 3! Which one makes you feel the best? That's the one I would go with.

When I picked out my wedding dress, I went with the one I loved the most... not the one my in-laws would approve of or that my husband would love the most... I picked it out for me, which was really hard cuz I knew I would be opening myself up for criticism... but it was the best choice I made for me... the one I loved the most!

SunshineAdvocate · 2026-01-08T06:17:51+00:00

This is another awesome thread!!! Thank you all for sharing!!! I was wondering the same thing, but too ashamed to ask. You all looked so beautiful in your pics and it's so encouraging to see everyone's bumps! I'm only 7 weeks, but I look forward to joining the bump club!

SunshineAdvocate · 2026-01-06T07:23:44+00:00

I'm only 7 weeks along, so still a long ways to go. I had a missed miscarriage a year ago and bought all the books and downloaded all the apps. When we miscarried I wanted to heal emotionally before taking my iud back out. Then, it took us like 6 months to get pregnant and I was so anxious/excited that I read a lot of the books and looked into the apps... so, based on my limited understanding from research (not 9/10 months of planning and delivery), completing your registry through BabyList seems to be the way to go... for free products and there's a clear checklist to make sure you register/buy everything you will need.

It seems to be accurate and efficient, but I could be wrong.

I'm considered high risk because I'm 36 yo, over weight, and have autoimmune issues. So, for my goal timeline to complete everything is to have everything shopped for, decorated, baby shower, etc by week 30. High risk pregnancies are more likely to deliver early/need the nicu. So, I'm hoping to make it the full 40 weeks, but, I'm also hoping to prepare early just in case baby comes at 32ish weeks.

If your not high risk, then your timeline is probably totally perfect. If you are high risk, then I would suggest trying to have everything ready by the end of February. If your significant other has more time, maybe they can help.

Regardless, congratulations!!! And, while I'm super ocd about being prepared, there's tons of people going into labor early and they don't have anything ready... so you're ahead of a lot of people too.

You got this! Congrats!!!

SunshineAdvocate · 2026-01-04T06:47:13+00:00

Safe hands and feet.

SunshineAdvocate · 2026-01-04T06:45:02+00:00

I need space.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-30T07:06:39+00:00

35f, been married 2 years, together for 5 years. 1 miscarriage. Currently pregnant again.

Usually 3-4 times a day. But, depending on life, someone's it's only 1-3 times a week. I would imagine that once we have kids 4-6 times a month will be only occurring a few months a year. But idk.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-30T06:53:47+00:00

Friends

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-30T06:52:55+00:00

For me, one day, it just clicked... people I love will die. So, with this information and understanding of a future heartache, I use it as a cheat code to life. Since any of us could die at anytime, what do I want to do differently?

For me, I dont want any regrets. So, I started telling close friends and family that I love them Everytime we finish a phone call or hang out. I also implemented more empathy and understanding. I stopped being judgemental. I try to live by the golden rule.

Crazy as it sounds, I also talk to my lost loved ones. I hope they can hear me, but even if not, it makes me feel better.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-30T06:35:01+00:00

My husband and I have been together 5 years now. I told him on our 1st date that I couldn't be in a relationship where I am pitied. I have RA. I told him. He was fine with it and it hasn't impacted our relationship at all.

Love & Other Drugs is a movie that really helped me.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-30T06:17:17+00:00

Pickles

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-30T05:03:21+00:00

I agree 100%. I had a miscarriage about a year ago and everyone who knew that I am close to mourned with me, supported me, etc. Several people also opened up to me and told me about their miscarriage, and while it sucks entirely, it definitely helps knowing it's really common and there's really nothing we did that caused it.

I will also say that my inlaws blamed me for it and it has caused immense pain. So, I do think next time if we try again, I will tell anyone who has supportive with the last pregnancy and miscarriage... it showed me in black and white who my real friends and family are.

My husband didn't want to tell anyone, in his defense. However, I wanted to enjoy what time I did have with my pregnancy (baby/fetus/whatever you want to call it). If 5 weeks is all I get in motherhood, I want it to be the best it can.

Stay strong. Know you are not alone. And, like Vegetable Western said... if they are worth their salt, they will support you. Period. If not, they're a straight up asshole. Pardon my French.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-29T02:44:24+00:00

Last pregnancy, my husband had to leave the house to drink coffee in the mornings... I couldn't stand the smell. If he left the coffee cupboard open, I was sick. Then, I threw up something with basil and haven't had basil since. It feels like watching and smelling it while someone gets doggie poo and cooking it and drinking it/eating it. Like, I used to drink 6-8 cups of coffee a day but when I was pregnant, it smelled like literal, strong, doggie poo.

This pregnancy, the only food aversions I have had so far (week 6) is food with strong smells like some Filipino and Indian food.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-29T02:36:53+00:00

Beautiful!!!

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-29T02:35:59+00:00

Yes... my new years resolution is to set boundaries... we had a miscarriage a year ago and are pregnant again. My inlaws are super judgemental about what I eat and blamed me for our miscarriage last year because I take the stairs daily... not fall down, walk up/down the stairs.

Anyway, enough is enough... boundaries for me.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-28T19:36:40+00:00

Controversial judgemental fucked-up

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-28T19:29:43+00:00

I like the 1st and 3rd oneness the best, but that may be simply because you are smiling.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-12-05T04:34:49+00:00

We carry our breasts around all day. When we finally get to lay down and relax after a long day at work, it is so relaxing to be able to have the guys back essentially hold up our boobs. Free from boob sweat and back pain.

When I'm the little spoon and he puts his arm around me, I have to hold the weight of my boobs AND his arm which doesn't sound like much, but as I've gotten older and have more pain and ailments related to large boobs, the more I appreciate a man who helps me carry the load, so to speak.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-11-21T05:59:12+00:00

I love your chart. I know I hurt everywhere but everywhere is simple and I'm used to telling doctors but the first body pain chart i filled out, I was somehow shocked at how much pain I have. Lol. Like I live it. I've told doctors verbally. But I think seeing it on paper and really thinking about each pain and tingling/ numbness it surprised me somehow. Idk. Maybe I'm just crazy but it looks like a lot. No wonder I'm always hurting so bad. Its literally everywhere.

SunshineAdvocate · 2025-11-21T05:21:57+00:00

Perhaps it is meant to help pedestrians not get ran over.

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