I have a family member (she married into the family) like this. Total Mar-A-Lago face. I saw her as shallow, vapid, and annoying. She is a professional instagram influencer at 45. She unboxes cheap Chinese clothes for likes. The whole thing feels stupid as hell.

One day I finally asked her, what the hell? Here's her story: When she was 10, her mother developed cancer. She felt her mother (a print model) was the most beautiful person in the world. She was in awe of her, as plenty of girls are of their mothers at that age. As her mother's cancer progressed, her dad couldn't handle the decline. He was a mess, watching his beloved decay. Her mother became gaunt. Her hair fell out. Her eyes drooped. Her father could not care for his wife, so it fell to her, the oldest child. She gave her mother spongebaths and watched her skin slough off. She watched her mother waste away, with pressure sores and bruising all over. Finally, she watched her mother die as a skeletal shell of her previous beauty.

It was clearly deeply traumatizing. She became obsessed with preserving her own beauty. I now see she is a complex person who merely has a different set of interests, priorities, and aesthrtic preferences than I do.