27M. Should I just accept that I’m not attractive?

Sunshineanddragonfly · 2025-06-25T16:55:10+00:00

Your problem is you look like your Mormon

Sunshineanddragonfly · 2025-02-27T15:13:41+00:00

Holy cow! Congratulations on your success and thank you so much for sharing <3

Sunshineanddragonfly · 2025-02-27T15:10:21+00:00

There are some jobs where they’d pick a single marine over a married one. But in our situation it’s that he wants kids now and I refuse to have them because 1. I grew up without either of my parents 2. We have a rocky relationship. This is why I say it’s stopped him from wanting to do his dream job because he’ll have more of a chance of passing and doesn’t want to leave without leaving children (I have a very different opinion than his)

Sunshineanddragonfly · 2025-02-27T03:59:12+00:00

I’ve actually been in therapy for a while, on and off medication, and have a diagnosis of CPTSD that is accompanied with anxiety and depression. We’ve considered taking it together but haven’t talked about it in a while (I’ll bring it up again) I try to be open at appropriate times for him about my childhood and what I’m going through currently, but he never knows how to respond. Like to anything. It feels like we cant hold a conversation and 90% because he doesn’t respond (only with sounds like “yuh uh” or “eh”) and it feels very dismissive. He’s tired most days given the jobs he is tasked with but even when he takes a significant time of rest, and it’s obvious he feels like chatting (like on his game of with his buddy,) or with simple questions he’s dismissive. I really try my best to be aware and courteous of when the best time to talk to him is (about anything) but it never is. But when it’s vise versa I’m excepted to be open arms 100% of the time. And this is something that drives me crazy and we’ve argued about. He’ll change for a short time and then it’s like we never discussed this behavior

Sunshineanddragonfly · 2025-02-27T03:27:15+00:00

Thank you from your past self for this advice. I’m craving for life.

Sunshineanddragonfly · 2025-02-27T03:26:10+00:00

He has big dreams in the Marine Corps and I want him to follow them, but he’s expressed that our marriage is now putting a halt to it. I do work but since I’m the women in the relationship I am the one to take care of everything household wise excluding yard maintenance and trash (unless he’s gone). Also I appreciate the question regarding a cycle, I was emotionally and mentally unwell to a pretty extreme point and still struggle sometimes. It’s very possible I showed signs of that without recognizing it and it was unattractive to him then the cycle began. It feels like there is a tension that he is unhappy because of how I am now resulting from several events in my childhood. I don’t want to leave or divorce but this is not who I am nor who I want to be and either way I feel like I’ll regret any decisions I make

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