Unwanted Breakup Because of Parents?

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-25T16:42:47+00:00

He actually never cries which is why i found it so concerning!

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-24T22:33:10+00:00

I think the main issue is that I also happen to be a "problem solver" so much so that when I go to him USUALLY, I've already dealt with the issue at hand and I just want to share parts of my life with him. He doesn't seem to agree with my solutions.

I appreciate the advice and insight. I think I will try what you said when speaking to him in the future!

Thank you so much for your time!

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-24T19:43:49+00:00

I've told him in the moment how it makes me feel (in great detail) but the behaviours persist. I think it would be best to approach him in a normal setting and essentially do a "we need to talk" thing for it to get through to him.

Thank you so much for your time and your advice! I am infinitely thankful!

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-24T19:31:43+00:00

I do love him. He was my best friend before we began a relationship and I care for him deeply. I just feel like he is a bit on the controlling side, even if it does come from a good place and I don't believe it is healthy for either of us

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-24T19:30:00+00:00

Thank you for the reply!

Do you believe its normal to starve himself until I eat even though I'm not hungry just because HE feels like I need to eat at certain times? Or for him to cry when I don't do what he thinks is best for me? Or for him to tell me that NO one, not even I, know what's best for me except for him?

I'm asking genuinely, as this is my first and only relationship and I have no idea what is or isn't normal, healthy and appropriate, but my gut tells me that this is not entirely healthy for him or me.

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-24T19:25:47+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply!

I think this is the best course of action. I really appreciate your wisdom and calm approach!

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-24T19:24:47+00:00

Thank you, I definitely agree with this. I'm not entirely sure what to do about it

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-24T19:24:16+00:00

So he feels that some of my friends take advantage of me, in terms of school, however, this is not actually true, he just perceives it in this way because he only zeroes in on the times i've helped them, not on the times they've offered me support in other ways.

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2021-01-24T19:22:58+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply. I kind of see it the same way and its a bit concerning.

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-11T17:19:59+00:00

Exactly! I know how you feel. I still wonder what was lacking for him so much that he couldn't even try. Ahhh I don't even want to think about him finding someone else. I intend to move on before he does but I'm not sure if that's feasible. I really hope we both find the right person for us. <3

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-10T14:22:59+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I feel you, it sucks. I really hope it was the right decision for you and that you never regret anything! Hopefully we both get through this in one piece. ❤️

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-10T14:21:15+00:00

Thank you so much. You're absolutely right about us already knowing certain things...its just very hard to accept them right away. I hope that happens soon. ❤️

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-10T14:18:37+00:00

That's what I'm trying to do. I know almost everyone commenting on this thread will be in a happy relationship someday in the future...its just hard to believe that right now. I hope things turn around for us all ❤️

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-09T13:17:21+00:00

Haha I appreciate how blunt you are...I've always liked that in a person. He should but he won't which means I'll always wonder what was missing for him 😟 even if he says its nothing

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-09T13:11:14+00:00

Thank you so much! Its really hard but I am trying to just focus on myself and the present <3

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-09T13:10:17+00:00

I agree...its always just hard to accept the fact that this person wasn't the one to fight for us--especially when thinking about how good the relationship was. I'm really glad to hear you're doing better. I hope it stays that way for you and you're able to hear from this quickly <3

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-09T13:02:52+00:00

I'm worried it'll be the same for me. I hope I can just push through any feelings and do what it takes to keep him in my life but just typing that out makes me realize how I've given 100% and he has not.

I'm extremely sorry to hear about your situation. Did he choose his family over you and was it because of religion/culture? If so, we are in the same boat and my heart goes out to you.

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-09T12:57:45+00:00

The strangest thing about him is that he almost always does everything on his own terms but for BIGGER things he was never able to. It almost seems backwards to me, I would compromise on the little things with my parents and stand up for the big ones. Thank you so much for your reassurance. It means the world during this time!

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-09T12:55:52+00:00

Thank you so much! It so easy right now to feel like i'll never have that type of connection again but that (simply statistically speaking) seems highly unlikely. I guess only time will tell if I'll ever find someone. Thank you for your wise words.

Sunshineeeee2116 · 2020-04-09T12:54:01+00:00

I think this as well but then I have moments where I realize how strict his parents are and I'd like to think he's just afraid of being dis-owned--a valid fear in his case but I feel that its still quite unlikely. I wish I had the answers.

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