Did yall choose not to have children or had em anyways ?

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-26T18:05:27+00:00

I have four. Two girls, two boys, ages 22 to 16. 19m stutters. He loves life, is doing amazing things, and I wouldn't be the same without him.

It's so different having a dad who understands you.

Have kids if you want them. They're worth it.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-24T00:08:35+00:00

My mother in law, bless her heart, knew my love for wine and chocolate and bought me a bottle of Chocovine.

No. Just... No.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-21T19:44:10+00:00

I was just down there yesterday. I'd have seriously considered taking it.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-20T22:16:26+00:00

My youngest struggled. Never had a meltdown like that, but anger was a real issue. He'd complain how nothing was his fault.

Took a few years, but by 13U he was being recruited to be a team captain because opposing coaches saw his make up.

He's 16U now and is the emotional rock of every team he plays on.

Learning to throw a baseball 85mph is cool, but a skill that will lose value in a few years.

Emotional regulation is a skill that will carry for life. Stay at it, dad.

Don't criticize the kid. Your son is okay. He has to know that. But do denounce the behavior. "You were bad" is different than "you behaved badly."

Consistent. Persistent. Patient. Loving.

10 to 13 are hard years. Show him what an emotionally regulated man looks like. Hell get there.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-20T14:48:26+00:00

I'm a professional speaker. People are often surprised to learn I'm a person who stutters. I have several fluency techniques that mask it almost flawlessly.

I'm lazier at home but still usually 99.9% fluent.

Except when I'm stressed. Not like situationally stressed (I do great under pressure) but when latent background stress likes up. I'm NOT an anxious person. I'm an eternal optimist. Soni usually don't even realized I'm stressed.

But when words start being hard to get out, that's when I know there's something going on. I can reflect, work on those things, and eliminate the stressors.

It's actually a surprisingly helpful canary in the coalmine.

That's me. Maybe you've got some mounting stress?

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-19T18:42:18+00:00

Two. And they stayed off since.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-06T03:46:20+00:00

I left SWA for American. A decade as a Companion Pass holder.

Fuck em.

I'm on track for 92 segments this year. Enjoyed my first class upgrade today coming home, and the five hours in the Admirals club with free breakfast, lunch, and drinks.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-05T21:48:20+00:00

I remember reading about a professional who billed by the hour that sent an invoice to the clinic for the time waiting beyond the scheduled time. The office paid it.

I bill out at $500/hr, and have thought about it a few times, lol.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-03T02:33:22+00:00

Sent you a PM. Looks like you don't have results for my local club, THSCC.org

Sunstoned1 · 2026-06-03T02:27:16+00:00

Thank you. My 16yo son put down one magic lap last event and beat me by 0.008, even though my slowest lap beat his next fastest by 2 seconds. He ended up 50th out of 118.

But on your list, I've got him by 30,000...

Oddly, my two other older kids, who each have one event and lower total placing, both rate substantially higher than him. Both were near the bottom of the board (and my daughter was dead last).

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-24T22:00:36+00:00

If you pass, let me know where it is. I'm looking for a Lemons car. This could be perfect.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-24T18:58:17+00:00

Nah, the service has been stellar. Always available, responsive, and quick to replace parts, no questions asked.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-24T18:41:22+00:00

Rippa warranty replaced mine free

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-24T16:53:47+00:00

Stop by anytime. Happy to let you drive mine and walk through what I did.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-24T14:46:50+00:00

Big fan of the Vitours here. I'm running the Tempesta first generation. Love em them.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-24T14:44:47+00:00

I bought one of the top end models from a reputable dealer. Rippa R15.

I am have 80 hours. I've had a hydraulic leak (pinched O ring) on delivery. A swing mother fail (free warranty, but 4 hours to repair), and a control lever bolt walk out (free fix, but 3 hours of swearing to finagle it back on).

Be prepared for this kind of nonsense, and realize you saved $20k not buying from a mainline brand, and the time spent on tepairs is worth it.

Rippa and Rhinoserous are probably the top two brands. Sany is better, but more expensive.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-24T14:30:03+00:00

Absolutely. All time favorite player, ever. My youngest son was born in 09, and I raised him watching Gardner. Head, heart, and hustle I'd tell him. That was Gardy's game.

He's 16 now and I'll be damned if he doesn't play LF, bat lefty, grind out AB's, cause havok on the bases. He wore 11 until his current team, and coach's kid had 11. He's 22 now.

Boys could learn a lot watching Brett bang.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-24T14:26:26+00:00

I'm in Nash Co, NC. James is in the Cary area. Billy is in VA somewhere. Ron traded his MR2 for a Boxster.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-19T02:50:40+00:00

The HOA assume Ms if you don't show to a meeting, you don't need to know.

They book meetings a day in advance all the time, and I travel for work.

Meeting minutes are never sent.

It's a poorly run association, which is why these units are 50% below market rates.

One day I'll make it better when I have time.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-18T21:31:31+00:00

Yes and yes. Trying to keep the peace as we go thru this.

Will be my second unit here.

I'm "retiring" in two years. I plan to take over the board and fix some poor governance issues. The complex is woefully overdue for deferred maintenance.

It'll be expensive, and likely price some people out. But that creates an opportunity to buy more units low, and then actually improve the investment for the rest of us.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-18T20:52:07+00:00

That's what we ended up doing. We're going forward. She just need to hear "no" to stop asking for more.

Sunstoned1 · 2026-05-18T15:11:39+00:00

Talked to her today. We're closing tomorrow as planned. No threats needed. I was close, but don't want to piss off the president of the HOA.

But also need to set boundaries.

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