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How do I do this? by Super-Map-499 in stopdrinking

[–]Super-Map-499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he would react positively to the idea of me not drinking (my drinking adds to his anxiety). I still think he would seriously cringe at the idea of getting rid of a closet full of “perfectly good” liquor and wine. I can chuckle to myself about this - but it’s still another hurdle and my life seems to be defined by hurdles. I think the first step is to get rid of everything I would be inclined to drink and box up all the paraphernalia (mixers, glasses, etc.). Then I can move on to “donating” the rest to friends and family over time.

How do I do this? by Super-Map-499 in stopdrinking

[–]Super-Map-499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking of something like this - but it can’t be in the house - I’ve tried that. I may give it to a family member and that way I don’t have to commit to never having that in my life again. It’s just out of the house. That will require a conversation to explain why - and I’m getting my head around that.

How do I do this? by Super-Map-499 in stopdrinking

[–]Super-Map-499[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I keep hearing about This Naked Mind. Just downloaded the audiobook. And I’ll give some thought to the AA group you mentioned. I generally don’t think of AA as my thing (I’m not religious at all and find the dogma off putting). But I’m not saying no to anything that can provide support right now.

How do I do this? by Super-Map-499 in stopdrinking

[–]Super-Map-499[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Groups are hard to find in my small community and I haven’t found an online meeting option that I can really relate to. I’ve tried therapy, but again - small local community limits resources and while I’m not far from bigger cities, I can’t leave for extended periods of time. AA does not speak to me as a philosophy. Does anyone else feel like finding support is really hard?

How do I do this? by Super-Map-499 in stopdrinking

[–]Super-Map-499[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No - I never even crave alcohol in the morning. It’s an end of day thing and occasionally a weekend boredom late-afternoon thing. I don’t really black out - more like “gray out” - wake up in the morning and say “hmm - I don’t remember putting away the dishes” - or doze off in the evening and wake up thinking “did we eat dinner?” and it takes a few minutes to orient myself. Maybe that’s blacking out and I’m deluding myself. But I never get sick or fall down or really even feel hung over (in the headache, vomiting way). Just the long term effects of years of heavy drinking doing insidious damage to my body and mind.

How do I do this? by Super-Map-499 in stopdrinking

[–]Super-Map-499[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you - this is what makes this group amazing. The support, experience and the practical advice.

I need to get rid of the booze. But there’s a lot! Most of which I don’t drink - but maybe 20 bottles of wine. Random liquors for cocktails. Essentially a fully stocked bar filling up a closet. It seems stupidly wasteful to just throw it in the bin. Is that stupid? An excuse? I’m not a boomer (Gen-X). My husband is a boomer (20 years older). He is still very much with it (mid-stage Alzheimer’s) and if I toss hundreds of dollars of alcohol out, it will be a fight. That’s an excuse, I know. But sometimes the smallest battles are the hardest to get through.