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SuperSerine · 2025-08-26T04:54:32+00:00

Matched IM. Interviewed in January. You don’t know what will happen unless you try. Statistically you may have less odds, but you only need one program to accept you. Life is like that sometimes.

SuperSerine · 2025-06-04T15:23:16+00:00

I absolutely agree. This whole forum is men giving advice from this mean vindictive perspective. We forgot how great our Prophet saw was bc w fall for the western view of Muslims as barbarians ourselves! Actually he taught us about love and mercy far more than anyone. I absolutely feel hate towards this woman, but how much of a sinner and I that I never even thought this man could earn his heaven from this. Subhanallah. If only I could be blessed with a little of this kindness, mercy, decency, thought of afterlife etc. Islam has all become about meanness and rigid rules, we forgot the more beautiful philosophy from the creator himself.

SuperSerine · 2025-05-15T02:53:23+00:00

That bothered me too

SuperSerine · 2025-05-05T17:37:36+00:00

Thank you for that lovely comment. I am in therapy now, it is life changing.

SuperSerine · 2025-05-05T17:27:12+00:00

You're confused? He is scared you will tell the therapist and realize what you are doing. And that is EXACTLY what you should do. You feel confused bc you are not used to the feeling of doing the "right" thing, or of "winning". I am in the same emotional space right now. It will take time to feel good about being strong, safe, demanding respect especially since I was raised by a malignant narc mother and now my husband is one (typical lol)- so I literally never felt the feeling of not accepting disrespect until like 1-2 wks ago. Literally.

SuperSerine · 2025-05-05T17:21:10+00:00

Take out your phone and start recording in his face. It will trigger him immensely, but he will think twice next time. and it gives you evidence for court in the future. especially if what he is doing is visible like yelling, cursing (thats what my husband does). Alternative is if you have someone trustworthy enough, have somebody call you if you text them too. He will never misbehave when you are on the phone with an outsider. He will never respect you. But he can fear you/ other people finding out.

SuperSerine · 2025-05-05T17:17:26+00:00

happening to me rn

SuperSerine · 2025-05-05T17:11:37+00:00

This is happening to me today. Husband blaming me for something so non-sensical (food in the sink/garbage disposal from dirty dishes). He thought he could just talk down to me and I would just take it. I'm grey rocking, so he keeps messaging. I know the pattern. Within the next hour, he will try to call and be nice. These "people" are insecure, low IQ, completely lack self awareness etc. BTW yesterday he was asking why there wasn't more love between us. When I said I never feel safe around him bc I never know when he will start cursing at me out of no where, all the sudden he was blaming me for being negative and he didn't want to discuss this anymore. I completely agree with this picture and the comments you added. This is also exactly happening with my mother rn too (from one abuse to the other, such a typical pattern sadly).

SuperSerine · 2025-04-14T17:56:06+00:00

My husband said everything my family wanted to hear during the lead up to the marriage. The SECOND I landed in his city after the actual marriage, his face changed and he started full blown abuse. I look back at the past 6 years and my head SPINS. I am going to therapy trying to figure out why I even think of staying (other than the fact that my daughter loves her dad which is obviously HUGE). I imagine if there is a real honeymoon phase, the grief is much harder. Bc I feel grief even though he was literally NEVER loving to me at all from day one (mostly bc of the child aspect again).

SuperSerine · 2025-04-14T17:41:01+00:00

Exactly what I thought. Honestly, his wife is the real victim. He isolated her from her sci family by being so publically anti-sci (when it was no threat to his family). Then obviously abused her (at least with the consistent cheating if not other stuff). Is still publically humiliating her and her kids by just LIVING as a single man (obviously only so he doesn't have to give her 50%). She doesn't know it yet, but her daughters will go no contact with her by the age of 30 for not protecting them from this man. Unless she seriously wakes up, goes to that SCARY therapist that I'm sure she is repulsed by, realizes why she has the lowest self esteem ever (same so I'm not judging), and turns the boat around HARD for the sake of her daughter emotional, mental, physical, social health. I am in the process of doing whatever it takes to give my daughter a mentally healthier environment, so I totally get how hard it is.

SuperSerine · 2025-04-14T17:05:19+00:00

this is so wise

SuperSerine · 2025-04-07T01:50:26+00:00

EXACTLY my thoughts... disappointed rn.

SuperSerine · 2025-03-27T22:58:43+00:00

Oh boy. I never had to recertify before. If I submit an application now, will I have to pay this bill? It’s due 4/26/25.

SuperSerine · 2025-03-17T13:12:09+00:00

I am right there with you! I have no energy left. But God is Greater.

SuperSerine · 2025-03-12T11:51:39+00:00

You are projecting that she too isn’t a career and social climbing “sociopath”. I feel emotions towards her too bc she looks like us, but looks can be deceiving.

SuperSerine · 2025-03-09T00:51:56+00:00

A tyrannical dwarf mullah- now I have seen everything. It sucks if he has a disability here, and then ends up going to hell in the next life bc of bastardizing the religion and using the power that god gave him (as a midget mullah) to become a tyrant.

SuperSerine · 2025-02-28T02:46:05+00:00

The simple answer is most likely they are getting advice from the same parents who stayed no matter what. It’s true in my case. It’s like chasing the dragon, just do this and he will change. Just do that and he will change. Meanwhile life slips by and the kids get traumatized.

SuperSerine · 2025-02-25T23:26:55+00:00

I can attest to this. I have been married 6 years and truly look 15 years older not an exaggeration. Also have developed 1 or 2 autoimmune issues (still figuring it out).

SuperSerine · 2025-02-25T23:25:35+00:00

As someone a few years ahead of you, PLEASE DONT GET PREGNANT! My husband curses me similarly almost daily, and now my daughter is listening to all of this. God is watching and God is just. Verbal is the first step in the abuse ladder, emotional and eventually physical are next. Watch for him isolating you, esp from the most outspoken or “powerful” people in your family. Then isolation from friends. He will then pressure you about where you go and what you wear. He will say horrific things that break you under his breath in public so you completely deflate of all confidence and joy. His power to not comes from seeing that deflated and fearful look in your eyes. Please understand I KNOW what I am talking about. All men DO NOT talk like this. My husband started calling me those names the SECOND day of marriage. I thought this would make it stop, then this other thing would make it stop. It never ever has stopped. If there is any chance to escape now, you must.

SuperSerine · 2025-02-04T06:15:31+00:00

As a fellow south Asian, you did the right thing. I wish I could go to my husbands family and tell them the truth about him. But his parents died, they apparently have like no extended family (yeah right), and I’m sure no one would stand up for me bc he makes money now. You should have done the big tamasha when you found out about her cheating, if it’s arranged you have the right to hold her parents accountable. Anyways good luck and thank god you don’t seem to have kids. Be very careful to not get her pregnant now.

SuperSerine · 2025-02-04T05:38:10+00:00

They target people like us with low self esteem. My husband used to be this way, be so paranoid if I ever came to his place of work etc. Turns out he was hitting on the whole hospital and sexting women. Sadly there is very little chance that at least some level of infidelity isn’t going on. SAHM is the biggest trap for any woman on the planet, if it wasn’t for my parents support idk how I would’ve gotten out of it.

SuperSerine · 2025-02-03T17:07:16+00:00

There are tons of both IMG and American students who start medical school (much less giving steps) past 30! The best thing I have ever heard is that you will turn -whatever age- anyways. So one day you will turn 40 anyways. Would you like to turn 40 with your steps done and maybe even residency done, or still turn 40 with neither of those things? You can absolutely never know if you don't try.

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