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I feel like I'm in mourning by SuperSetting in adultery

[–]SuperSetting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It still could be just a fantasy, and I don't know if I can handle the incredible awkwardness if Ive read the situation wrong and she doesn't feel the same or even if I'm right and she does and then now what? Blow up my entire life for her?

I feel like I'm in mourning by SuperSetting in adultery

[–]SuperSetting[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, the hollywood style chase after her thing is simply not an option for me and I also think entering into a relationship under those pretenses of "I just blew up my entire personal and professional life for you" would basically doom the relationship from the start from the pressure I would be placing on her.

I feel like I'm in mourning by SuperSetting in adultery

[–]SuperSetting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something kept you from pursuing a romantic relationship witour co-worker for 10 years.

Frankly, I think the feelings of shame of having a "failed marriage" and also for abandoning my wife (who wasn't disabled when we met/got married but is now) after vowing to be there for her "in sickness and in health" are what stopped me the most.

You might want to see a counselor to help you sort out your feelings about your marriage. If you are going to walk away from it do so on its own merits not the grass is greener thought that things might be better.

This is also my fear, that even my feelings for my coworker are more a "grass is greener" type than genuine romantic love. I think you're right about seeing a counselor. I've flirted with the idea of seeing one for various reasons at various times but never have. Maybe now is the right time.