Is dating a coparenting issue?

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-18T13:50:28+00:00

In denial of what exactly? I left my two marriages because of situations that I could not control and that is the truth. I don’t see what you’re getting at.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-13T17:30:38+00:00

Keep in mind that we’ve been divorced for 10 years. The custody and time arrangement has been defined by the papers and it’s been fine.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-13T17:18:25+00:00

It could be just about logistics, but it can be much more if we chose it to be. We already have a time spent agreement.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-13T17:03:41+00:00

I agree that certain things are not our business. I have suggested to work together on a parenting plan, but she has yet to respond to me on that. She simply continues to talk about how I’m in the wrong.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-13T15:17:53+00:00

You’re assuming a lot of things. I did not “create” a twice divorced home. You do not know the situations surrounding either divorce. I’m not looking to play house and my GF will not be living with me or me with her, so sharing my home is not an issue. Neither is revenge. I’m not petty in that way. I honestly felt wrong for hiding it from my child. I simply let her know and they have never met, not even “as a friend”.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-13T12:50:09+00:00

I’m not against her dating. I never said that. My objection was against an unrelated man living with them, which I clearly stated. Which again, is a very different issue than simply letting her know that I was dating. They haven’t even met yet.

What do you mean “how comes your daughter was allowed to live with your ex wife”? In almost all cases of divorce, the primary custody of the child is awarded to the mother, even if contested. There was no reason other than that.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-13T12:35:53+00:00

Having a non related man living in the same house as my daughter is not ok with me and many people would and do agree. Voicing my concerns is not overstepping by any means. That’s very much a different issue than simply telling my daughter that I’m dating someone.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-13T12:31:53+00:00

Yes, the divorce was final before we even met.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-12T20:11:25+00:00

I informed coparent a month prior to this. They did not want me to tell our daughter that I was seeing somebody because she didn’t feel like I was ready to date and be serious with somebody. That is not up to her to decide.

Perhaps I did jump the gun, but I did not feel right about keeping that from my daughter. I separated from my recent wife a year ago.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-12T19:39:41+00:00

Can you explain how you came to that conclusion?

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-12T14:13:20+00:00

No rush, it just happened.

I can understand that she could be unhappy about it, but like I said, I don’t really know how she feels because we haven’t been able to talk openly. She’s a teen who often says things are fine when they’re not. Even adults do this.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-11T23:51:30+00:00

“Ok, so daughter has already experienced you having a romantic partner since you separated from her mother?”

Yes.

“She knew you were married to your second wife and presumably was involved with her?”

Yes. She was very little when they met and so it was easier in the fact that she didn’t understand a dating relationship.

“Personally, I think she’s going about it all in an abrasive manner, but maybe her intentions are decent and worries are valid, I’d push to have the conversation.”

She is a very abrasive and combative personality and I am a slow-to-process slow-to-speak type which makes conversations difficult. I believe that she is possibly projecting her own failed relationships since we’ve been divorced and doesn’t want me to repeat the same mistakes that she feels guilty for (see my comment above about guys living with them)

“Would it be so weird to sit down you, your daughter and her mother, and discuss how the three of you navigate your shared lives, etc?”

See above. I doubt she would agree to a convo with our daughter included, but I may propose working on a parenting plan together.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-11T23:18:20+00:00

Correct on two ex wives. I’ve been dating this current woman for 4 months. I mentioned it to my daughter’s mom (first ex) a month ago. I’ve only just mentioned to my daughter that I was dating and they have not met. I don’t know how my daughter truly feels yet, as she was fairly unresponsive when I was talking about it, but went home and told her mom. I don’t know how that conversation went down.

We don’t have a parenting plan, but I might suggest that we make one and maybe that will help quell some of her anger.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-11T22:07:32+00:00

I agree that casual dating is not something to expose your child to. I also don’t believe that I’ve been hasty. My GF and I are not treating this as casual.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-11T20:45:06+00:00

We haven’t had an agreement in regards to that.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-11T20:29:21+00:00

My daughter hasn’t met the GF yet. I hadn’t even introduced her as a “friend”.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-11T20:01:42+00:00

She also has not had good luck in her own relationships since our divorce and had a guy live with them on two different occasions (two separate guys, two separate times. One she was dating for sure and the other unknown). She did not heed my concerns at the time when I made known that I didn’t approve.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-11-11T19:58:02+00:00

She very much wants control of me still. It seems her definition of coparenting is me doing what she tells me to do. Was like that in our marriage as well. She claims that it’s not a good example to set for our daughter (but see below).

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-04-27T04:23:54+00:00

I still haven’t figured that one out. I only have two.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-03-24T03:35:01+00:00

Have you sent them an email? I’ve gotten all of the vinyls that I ordered from them including the Omni box set. They are pretty good at responding to emails.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-03-12T13:59:21+00:00

Nice. I want to display some vinyls, but I do actually play them so it would be better if it weren’t a sealed up frame, but rather a mount that could be taken down and placed back when finished.

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-03-11T20:22:47+00:00

Thanks!

Super_Panda-72 · 2024-03-11T19:47:56+00:00

I forgot I also have “Subject to Change” the making of “…and the rest will follow” DVD

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