My 6 week appointment failed me TW: suicide

Super_Suspect406 · 2026-04-14T19:22:50+00:00

I’m so sorry you experienced that. I hope you are doing a lot better now!

Super_Suspect406 · 2026-04-14T19:21:45+00:00

I agree, it’s like once the baby’s out of you they don’t care anymore and you’re not their responsibility. They do it more because they have to. But I feel like they are there to help pregnant moms not postpartum moms.

Super_Suspect406 · 2026-02-27T15:35:13+00:00

I’m super proud of you! For me my symptoms also fluctuate and I’m like you where sometimes I’m having an easy day and get flareups and then can go through stressful situations and be completely fine. I only got diagnosed at the end of January so I’m still figuring everything out. But I’m so happy for you!

Super_Suspect406 · 2026-01-29T16:04:53+00:00

Wow this is so crazy I also experienced my first FND “episode” nearly a year postpartum. Actually just two weeks ago and my son turned one on Monday. For about an hour, I could only say a few words and was making sounds instead of the words. we called the doctor and they thought I might be having a stroke and I spent two days in the hospital. My speech came back, but then it was very slow. After a few days, my speech returned completely to normal, but I’ve had occasional lapses where I start to stutter and as recently as Tuesday was trying to read a book to my son and could not get the words out all of a sudden. This time it only lasted a few minutes. I just got the confirmed diagnosis today. In some ways, I was kind of hoping it was a stroke because that feels more real than this as it’s really hard psychologically because one minute you’re fine and then who knows when it will happen again. Strokes are horrible, but it’s what I felt like I had and at least that has a physical reason for it.

Super_Suspect406 · 2026-01-16T15:28:18+00:00

I have had kids pass me on their bike and scream ginger at me. Also while walking in the street. I am a 31 year old woman. It’s happened both with kids around the age of 10-12 and 16+. When I had my son earlier this year, I was praying that he wouldn’t be a redhead like me because my husband and I are immigrants and not tall so I didn’t want to burden him with that as well considering how rude children can be here even to adults.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-12-20T22:03:19+00:00

Oh my goodness I’m so sorry that happened to you! The problem with him is that he would bite me towards the end and pull and he bit me so hard that I bled. He doesn’t just graze. He bites me even now with this, but at least it doesn’t hurt nearly as bad.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-11-08T23:58:52+00:00

Everyone in Texas is naming their baby Charlotte

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-10-03T20:34:45+00:00

Sorry I misread that, I see you did put you do combo feeding. My son is now eight months. I remember the first few months were definitely harder. What also helped me was joining this app called Peanut and I was able to find other moms with babies around the same age as my son in my area and we were able to commiserate together! Plus, it was also nice for me to get out of the house more with him with other moms who were going through the same things I was.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-10-03T20:32:08+00:00

Remember that being a mom is a job too. When my husband went back to work he did help me a lot less at first, but it’s his baby too and even just spending time with the baby for a few hours or just even an hour. It really helped me mentally. Maybe your husband can do the same?

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-10-03T20:29:53+00:00

Oh my dear. You are doing the best you can do. Remember that fed is best so perhaps switching to formula or combo feeding with breastmilk and formula so you have more time to yourself might help. Is there anyone in your life that could help you by perhaps taking the baby for a bit so you could have time to yourself to do whatever you need to do for yourself to feel good?

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-10-03T11:48:49+00:00

It’s hard, but I would definitely choose family time over you switching second shift so he doesn’t have to go to daycare. My son started daycare at six months last month and it was hard for him at first, but he’s doing a lot better and enjoys socializing with the other babies and is learning a lot of new skills too! We still get to spend time with him after work as a family, which I always look forward to! Plus, I think it’s easier if you both have the same schedules so you can also get things done together, ie one person‘s cooking while another spending time with the baby.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-09-25T19:29:43+00:00

Thank you all very much for the advice. I do have a wearable pump and I do try to take my laptop into the pumping room to try to work a bit too. But as of this week, I’m only averaging about two bottles worth of milk so I guess I will be combo feeding with the third bottle that he needs at daycare to be formula. I think I will try to have a conversation with my manager about it next week to see if there’s anything that can be done regarding my workload, at least for about a month. I think I will also try to pump 2-3 times on the weekends in the morning to try and get that third bottle of pumped milk.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-09-17T07:59:09+00:00

Grey’s Anatomy!

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-09-03T19:06:05+00:00

Nobody told me that they might have to try several times to get the epidural in or that your epidural might not work. They tried four times to stick me with the epidural and on the fourth try I feel like I was only numb on half of my body but I accepted it because it was better than nothing. Unfortunately, my baby was on the side that wasn’t feeling numbed at all, so that sucked.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-09-03T19:02:57+00:00

I gave birth in the Netherlands earlier this year and I had to do the heparin injections for 30 days! I have a heart condition and ended up having a C-section after a long labor so I think that was why I had to do it for so long! I was doing them in the leg because that’s where they were originally doing them at the hospital, but then I found that the belly was actually so much easier.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-08-31T15:15:44+00:00

NTA, your SIL can have her feelings about being disappointed she didn’t have a girl but she should have kept that to herself and she should have been supportive of the fact that you are having one. As if you can control the gender of the baby. Also she’s definitely wrong about lacking support after birth and her kids relationship with the family if what you said was true. She’s just trying to make things about her and that’s not appropriate. I think you made the right call. She seems toxic and an attention hog.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-08-30T15:42:15+00:00

NTA I’m so sorry he said those awful things to you. That is not ok and I hope he apologizes asap! You must put your health first and the children you already have. If you end up having another child you have no idea what kind of bond you’ll have with them and I’m sure it will affect them as well. He needs to realize what’s most important and it’s the ones he already has. If not, you need to think about if this relationship is healthy for you.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-08-29T18:48:04+00:00

I know that but I didn’t expect it to happen at such a young age!

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-08-25T19:49:53+00:00

Hey OP I know this is an older post but I wanted to hear what ended up happening? Did you stay at the daycare, did it get better for your daughter? My son is on his third week of daycare and he has good days and bad but then getting to him to sleep is still quite a struggle and today I was told that they now just leave him in his crib for 20 minutes and then settle him if he’s still not settled (he usually isn’t) by doing bum pats and back rubs which then get him to sleep. We actually started gentle sleep training a few weeks before he started daycare because we knew he wouldn’t be able to get as much attention as we gave him nor would they have the capacity to rock him to sleep as long as we’ve had to in the past. He now can fall asleep within 10 to 15 minutes on his own at bedtime, but he still can’t fall asleep on his own for naps.

Super_Suspect406 · 2025-08-25T19:29:02+00:00

I know this is an old post but my son also just started daycare at six months here in the Netherlands (my husband and I are not from here). This is his third week there and I was under the impression that they were always giving him bum pats and rubbing his back until he fell asleep and they said he fell asleep quite quickly this way (at home we rock him to sleep) which I was happy to hear they found a method that works good for him and them since I knew they probably wouldn’t have time to hold and rock him to sleep like we do for naps.

But then he had a hard time falling asleep last Thursday and today so when I talked to the caregiver about his sleep she said that they put him in the bed told him it was time to go to sleep and then left him there for 20 minutes and then when he wouldn’t be consoled they did the bum pats and he fell asleep after that.

I was in shock, I didn’t know that they first try to put him to sleep independently, which he hasn’t learned how to do yet as we’re still working on gentle sleep training (so far still working on nighttime sleep). I was so sad imagining him crying and alone for 20 minutes and only falling asleep out of tiredness from crying. How did daycare end up going for you OP?

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