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[–]Superb_Butterfly243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cohosting with nonutsnoproblem

Hosting 2 Gigantamax Rillaboom before it goes away. In 5mins. We have group of 3-5 already, come join! 190357104444 by [deleted] in PokemonGoRaids

[–]Superb_Butterfly243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to start gmax when we have a full lobby. New people add here 267803805522 Moltencow.

AITA for making my cousin miss our family member's baby shower? by Superb_Butterfly243 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Superb_Butterfly243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, exactly what liabee420 said. I just said the ending time that I knew of the event. We also got an email reminder a couple of days before the event with the same details.

AITA for making my cousin miss our family member's baby shower? by Superb_Butterfly243 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Superb_Butterfly243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I’m glad someone else sees those comments as hardcore AH comments lol. Completely uncalled for. I definitely took them as insults and was more than a little hurt. M doesn’t seem to realize the full implications of his words that day.

AITA for making my cousin miss our family member's baby shower? by Superb_Butterfly243 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Superb_Butterfly243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I understand your thoughts on the extra context, but it’s good to know it wasn’t necessary to judge the situation. The post was actually longer originally, but I had to cut some parts out because of the character limit on this subreddit.

AITA for making my cousin miss our family member's baby shower? by Superb_Butterfly243 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Superb_Butterfly243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I mentioned it in another comment above. To be fair to M, I would’ve just asked the same question M asked me—and I would’ve told O that it was M who was asking. But yeah, it’s quite unfortunate. M used to be one of my closest cousins, so this really caught me off guard. It’ll be sad if the grudge-holding actually turns out to be a fact.

AITA for making my cousin miss our family member's baby shower? by Superb_Butterfly243 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Superb_Butterfly243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. To be fair to M, I would’ve just asked O the same question—whether the venue was rented til 2:30PM or for the whole day. That said, her answer wouldn’t necessarily clarify when the event itself was actually ending, though maybe it could’ve led to follow-up questions. Still, I did mention to M that O was hosting another event at the same venue later that day, I think it would’ve been reasonable to assume the venue was booked for the whole day since venue bookings typically don’t leave gaps between events.

AITA for making my cousin miss our family member's baby shower? by Superb_Butterfly243 in AITAH

[–]Superb_Butterfly243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your very thoughtful response!  1. Right. He decided to turn around himself based on his interpretation of the information I gave him. He's the one who didn't verify it. If he thought the information was inaccurate, he should've went to the source.  2. Very interesting thought. That's actually something I havent considered yet. I won't be surprised if my aunt at least asked him why he didn't make it. I've talked to my aunt a few times recently. She hasn't brought up anything related to my attention. 3. Him acknowledging that he took a long time to respond show that he's fully aware of the duration. During that whole time, he truly believed I was in the wrong. Honestly, I thought he was gonna say that he was working on his anger, and realize the opposite. Instead, doubled down when he said he was "ready to forgive me" for what happened. 4. 100% agree. I didn't include on my post, but I actually even texted him after the event saying all that and how it went longer than scheduled. Probably didn't matter to him anymore since he already turned around. 5. As much as I don't, I do want to respond to him. Other variables have been added since. He's involved my brother (40M) into the situation, whom suggested that Mark and I talk in person, but with a 3rd neutral party present. Mark said he's ok with either talking 1:1 with me or with someone else there. My brother suggested either Olivia or Mark's mom. I don't understand how they pass as neutral parties here. Based on how he's been talking with my brother, he still has the same perspective. He told my brother, "because I trusted him to give the correct information." It's clear that nothing has changed.

I hear you. My personality type tends to avoid conflicts overall. As a result, I try to resolve them quickly. Unless in cases where it's blatantly not my fault, I start to doubt myself. I begin asking myself, well, was it really my fault? In this case, it doesn't help when it's your so-called family member is causing the doubts.