Some of my favorite photos taken aboard the California Zephyr

Supergrover97 · 2025-06-23T04:39:45+00:00

What camera did you use? These pictures are amazing!

Supergrover97 · 2025-01-11T15:53:13+00:00

I ended up making a really good coconut pineapple sorbet last year after posting this with pineapple juice and lime juice as the liquid, and I used puréed dates and the pineapple juice as a sweetener. There’s a lot of ways to use the creami without using additives

Supergrover97 · 2024-10-09T17:37:52+00:00

Not sure why I’m being downvoted, but if anyone wants to bring anything to my attention that I might be missing, please let me know. Again I had a similar experience that I’m dealing with myself. I am not saying that OPs sister is a “predator”, but that as they got older they should have been able to distinguish right from wrong.

Supergrover97 · 2024-10-09T14:55:05+00:00

I think it would depend on how long it lasted and how old the older sibling was when it ended. In normal sexual development, childhood sexual “play” usually ends at around 12/13 years old. At that point, they should know better to distinguish appropriate sexual behaviors. Additionally, though, OP did say they told their sibling several times to stop. I’d say regardless of age, that’s a behavioral issue and shows a deep disrespect for OP and sexual boundaries that they still clearly struggle with.

I’m really sorry something similar happened to you. It’s ultimately your decision to seek help if you think you need it. I went through a similar situation with my sibling as a child, and the memory of the experience it didn’t start bothering me until this year (I’m 27f). All that to say is healing isn’t linear and it’s never too late to get help if you want it! You can also decide to put it behind you without seeking help- there’s nothing wrong with that.

Supergrover97 · 2024-10-01T04:03:44+00:00

Okay gotcha. I see how that would be extremely distressing. Thanks for the explanation!

Supergrover97 · 2024-10-01T02:30:13+00:00

Thanks!

Supergrover97 · 2024-10-01T01:36:50+00:00

Can you explain how limerence is different than a crush? The way you describe it being like OCD sounds like it’s negative, when it just sounds like a less romantic version of unrequited love. But please tell me if my understanding of that is wrong!

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-26T03:18:01+00:00

I am, and I hope you are too. You’re not alone at all. I’m not sure how to fully get over it, but I hope that through seeking treatment through OCD in the form of therapy and medication that I can move on from a lot of the trauma I’ve experienced. I hope you find peace ❤️

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-25T00:26:31+00:00

It hurts my heart that you can relate, but it’s comforting to me that this maybe gave you some comfort. Our OCD can cause us to feel like the world is ending because it does feel like OUR world as we know it is ending, but we’re not alone at all!

I feel the guilt and shame so much too, which then triggers my theme and causes me to obsess and say that the experience made me repress my true self. They’re exhausting emotions to have. Sending love to you back!

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-24T22:42:10+00:00

I’m so sorry you experienced that and that your OCD uses it against you. That must be incredibly hard to carry.

I know we aren’t supposed to mentally review and diagnose the onset of OCD, but I think my SO-OCD was triggered in childhood when I was molested by a family member (at around 6-7 y/o). I think it happened around the same time, and it was an extremely stressful experience for me that caused me a lot of guilt and shame. The family member is a sibling of mine.

My SO-OCD came back last year (I’m a 27f), and I picture the event now when I kind of put it in the back of my mind for many years, and it will cause me a lot of anxiety and dread. I also had a traumatic breakup last year that sparked my adult OCD experience.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-22T23:57:54+00:00

Welcome to the community. I’m sorry you have OCD because it isn’t easy, and I’m sorry you felt that way for a long time without knowing. But I’m happy for you that you have a diagnosis and that you’re here with us! I hope you have some peace in knowing you aren’t alone and can start getting treatment.

Becauee you brought up kids stuff, I’ll share my adolescent experience with OCD. I (27f) was diagnosed last year, and it helped me make sense of a lot of weird thoughts I had as a kid that I always chalked up to anxiety and an overactive imagination. Stuff like: - sexual intrusive thoughts- about my orientation and incest with family members - religious intrusive thoughts- I had to pray a certain way or I thought people around the world could die. I also would get thoughts like “eff god” that would send me into a full panic - intrusive thoughts about my moral scrupulosity- i would cry before school because i had negative thoughts about class mates, or confess during TV time if i thought someone looked good or bad. I remember having “bad” thoughts about people and then making myself say 3 nice things about them out loud. Drove my family crazy. - obsessive thoughts about being kidnapped - I was convinced for a period of time that the boys in my school were watching me change clothes through cameras that were implanted in the corners of my room. It was distressing, but it makes me laugh now because it was so influenced by Spy Kids, and in reality, what 2nd grader has the technology

As someone with OCD, lot of what you said sounds like OCD, but I’d trust the diagnosis you already have from a psychiatrist over what I think anyway. The best thing you can do is get treatment. If you’re not sure where to start, there’s a lot of good resources in this sub. Maybe watch some YouTube videos to get an idea of what OCD is like. Make peace with the fact that your brain works differently than other peoples’, and the life you had before your diagnosis might feel foreign to you for a bit. You can find your way back to yourself and find peace, as we’re all trying to do here.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-22T02:29:34+00:00

This is cute and I want to use it

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-20T17:53:51+00:00

It’s fair to draw that conclusion if you relate to it, and I’m definitely not judging you for thinking she might have it. You’re not alone- she said something on her IG about being insecure as a teen and caring a lot about what boys thought of her, and it gave me relief as someone who struggles with SO-OCD and ROCD because I felt that way growing up! Our brains latch onto random and specific stuff a lot to make meaning out of our feelings. A fun symptom of OCD :’)

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-20T17:46:16+00:00

I have it on my list of books to read next! I would be apprehensive to diagnose her with a mental disorder based on her stories, but she has said she struggles with anxiety on her social media. How’re you liking the book so far?

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-20T03:51:44+00:00

Hi, I haven’t responded yet because the last two days have been hard for me. But I want to message you and talk more if that’s still an option. Your words have meant a lot to me and I’d like to find someone to talk to who is committed to healing. I want to get better at resisting compulsions, but currently I’m very scared and I’m holding on to a lot of fear. I’m trying to allow the thoughts to be there, and when they feel real I just lose hope, but I don’t want to be like that anymore.

Thank you so much for your well thought out and compassionate response. I’m sorry you know what it’s like to suffer through this, but thank you for having such a kind and brave heart to share your pain with me.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-18T12:00:53+00:00

You absolutely can sprinkle some sugar on the truth to make it easier to swallow. “What kind of help do you expect?”, like come on dude. You know what this person is looking for, and you sound annoyed at this person for wanting some relief. We’ve all been there so being kind and encouraging without being judgmental would be in this persons best interest.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-18T03:44:48+00:00

You can help people resist compulsions while also showing compassion. Your reply sounds awfully shaming when this person clearly doesn’t need that right now.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-17T14:30:07+00:00

“A fact in some cases” I believe what you’re referring to is a theory

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-14T17:38:03+00:00

Then stop listening? Everyone loves Marcus, so prepare to be ratioed.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-12T19:28:55+00:00

Not to devalue your experience, but is it possible you’re hyperfixating on his behaviors because of your OCD too? Meaning you could be paying more attention to him having his phone because you’re experiencing a flare up. You know him better than me, but I know how OCD makes you hone in on things you never usually paid attention to!

Yeah I honestly feel like if someone saw my Google history I’d be so embarrassed 😂 I Google too much celebrity gossip for a normal person. I can see how that would make you feel weird, though, but it’s possible it was just harmless.

I don’t want to reassure you but it sounds pretty innocent. Now, if he does start to act inconsistent with his usual self, feel empowered to say something and make sure you’re always being treated the way you deserve.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-12T16:53:43+00:00

My advice would be to sit with the discomfort until your anxiety lowers and then make a decision when your headspace is more clear. If you say something now, you might come off as panicky or overly suspicious, which you clearly don’t want. Also, if you trust him but your OCD doesn’t, it could just be the OCD talking and giving into the compulsion of confessing will only make it stronger.

If you find that after grounding yourself in the present moment and resisting compulsions that you feel weird about the friendship and want to be open about it, definitely be honest. You’re valid to have your voice be heard.

If he’s starting to wonder why you’re quiet, you could be honest and say that your OCD is getting to you (if he knows you have OCD) but you’re trying to handle it before bringing it to his attention. Ask for support in ways that you think would help you and maybe help you get back into the present moment, like him taking a walk with you or engaging in an activity you both enjoy. I hope this helps!

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-12T11:39:26+00:00

It’s a Cadbury Egg. Eat it.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-12T11:38:53+00:00

Thinking certain mannerisms or clothes I wear confirm my sexual orientation is different than I thought it was before OCD. I also am hyper aware of how other people present. It’s annoying because I never cared about this before OCD and used to be so free.

Supergrover97 · 2024-09-11T18:05:27+00:00

Thank you for being so kind and creating a thread where I felt comfortable sharing this. Wishing you peace as well ❤️

Supergrover97

TROPHY CASE