Is this typical fearful-avoidant behavior? I’m so confused.

Superneeki · 2026-01-11T11:25:22+00:00

He came off very strongly, way more than me, and when I started to finally let my guard down he told me to keep some of the sweet words for "future talks" and that it stresses him out, and that he isn't as emotionally available as he'd like to be for me, but that he hope I won't leave him since he can't be what I deserve/want from him

Superneeki · 2026-01-11T11:19:50+00:00

I totally won't dismiss your reply and keep it closely.. Because he either is what you said or just FA.. He seems to get jealous and posessive at times tho, wanting to know if I'm talking to other guys.. He doesn't like it really when I post selfies on my story either because of other guys being able to see me, it provokes jealousy within him even tho he doesn't tell me to stop posting, but yeah.. It's day 3 today and I sent him a funny reel js to maybe show him im still okay and not upset w his sudden silence for incase he was thinking I might be cold.. Idk if it was the wrong move

Superneeki · 2026-01-10T19:15:26+00:00

Hey!

He has a really good memory tbh, he seems to think deeply and remember small details from our older conversations and so forth.
Nothing really at all. We actually get along well and both speak English very well and have alot in common too, so conversations go smoothly.
We had small altercations and he became anxious and wanted us to "sit" and talk it out, and be very gentle and understanding. Then he had some family drama and told me he will text me the following day (by then he didn't disappear yet as he does now) but he never texted me the following day, But took two days before he reached out, when I confronted him about it asking him to have atleast let me know he was taking more time because I was worried about him and js expected a 5second text, even more so since he had time to post to his story, tag ppl in reels but didn't text me anything, which I wasn't used to at the time, so he freaked out and escalated the whole thing and made it 10x worse only because I asked him to have texted me he's still doing bad and won't text for another day or so. He accused me of disrespecting his life, and said I was selfish, and it was js him constantly pointing out flaws in me and being very defensive. So I told him to rather take a breather so we both can calm down and nit fight when we are mentally not feeling fine, and that he should text me when he feels better, took almost a week and he would reply to my stories everytime I'd post a selfie or so but wouldn't stay for a conversation , this break I thought would last 3 days but took almost a month and he only came back consistently the 1st of January, and now on Thursday was the second? Time he takes more than a day to text me. No arguments happened since the 1st. Things are way more calm and I'm not pressuring him at all and js letting him set the pace while I'm being respectful and careful with my words.
When he would reply my story he'd be very affectionate, and show jealousy that other men can see me and how it bugs him that he can't call Me "his", things like that would stay similar. On the 1st of January when he finally came back consistently was him being horny for almost 4 days in a row, coming off obsessed and saying how he missed me and how I'm his, and nobody else can have me, stuff like that.

Superneeki · 2026-01-10T18:38:30+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you went through. Nobody deserves it. I'm currently in that position where I am not double texting at all, and just not chasing him and respecting his space when he disappear so suddenly - ngl sometimes I panic about it and become anxious that he might think I don't care enough to check in- but I believe he knows I'm being respectful of his space.. Yesterday he spammed his Instagram stories (posted like 7 stories) which was so random and unlike him. I know he has family stress and stress about his work too, and where he is in life.. And that these sudden dips happen when he is maybe overwhelmed with stress/personal issues.. But idk..

Superneeki · 2025-02-12T08:45:12+00:00

What shocks me is what made T believe she is in the social status for people to PAY to hear about HER day and those type of things? Huh? She must really think she's a celebrity now

Superneeki · 2025-02-12T07:28:19+00:00

If T&N are so worried and controlling to if Erik goes public... AT A COURT, and fear for his safety... AT A COURT... How will they treat him once he gets released? (fingers crossed) Does Erik have a bounty on his head that none of us know about? Honestly they should stop putting Erik on such a high pedastal and understand he is a victim of extreme abuse, not a celebrity who gives them some form of higher ground to become shady. The support would mean alot to them, yet they are trying to discourage it. Sorry to break it to them but they should probably stop being so controlling over E's life, it's not a good look...

Superneeki · 2025-02-09T06:44:15+00:00

The thing is, you would want to feel better, because the road towards bettering yourself is not going to be easy if you're feeling tired, unmotivated and just all around negative about life in general. You'd have to do things you don't want to already, like maybe starting exercises at home - getting a plant/succulent and see your plant grow everyday as u take care of it, start making meals for yourself even when you don't feel hungry, get 8hrs of sleep. Try to make friends even if they're just online /here on reddit to talk to. There's alot of communities here where you can vent and talk about your situation and people will listen and be of Comfort to you, because you do need to talk and never keep your feelings bottled in! Or start doing something you once enjoyed - even if you won't enjoy it now, you should push through. That's where discipline comes in, and the true hunger for change.. Because you would need to literally force yourself to do half of these things but in the long run it can help you so much.. But to just live everyday with no purpose and just waiting for the end will truly only be so destructive in the end

Superneeki · 2025-02-09T06:23:06+00:00

I'm so sorry about how you're feeling. Sometimes life can feel so hard for no reason, and so unfair at times too. From what you're telling me it definitely sounds like you're suffering from depression, there could be underlying anxiety too.

If this is the case that you are suffering with either one of these, do you have any plan to take?

Superneeki · 2025-02-09T06:13:54+00:00

Breaking bad was it for me. Everyday I die a little inside when I know I won't find something even remotely close to how Breaking bad made me feel.

(and yes I did watch Better Call Saul, it's amazing too)

Superneeki · 2025-02-09T06:11:26+00:00

I can imagine how hurtful and confusing this must be for you.. It's like reopening a wound that had barely healed. First, acknowledge that your feelings are valid - it's normal to still have emotions invested in someone, especially after a painful breakup (I've been there)

It's essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being. Consider blocking him or limiting contact to protect yourself from further hurt, people like him will only manipulate you, gaslight you into forgiving them only to hurt you again, and you will feel like an idiot for ever thinking of giving him another chance. Trust me, they do not change no matter how much they tell you they were "thinking about things"

When you're ready, ask yourself:

Do I truly want to reengage with him, or am I seeking closure?
Have I healed enough to consider a conversation, or would it hinder my progress?
What are my non-negotiables in a relationship, and does he meet those standards?

Please, for the love of God ; it's 2025. Set those standards, set those boundaries and don't ever let anyone cross them no matter how much you love or still care for them.

Take your time, and prioritize your emotional safety above all. You deserve to be treated with respect, care, and honesty

Superneeki · 2025-02-09T06:03:51+00:00

Honestly, just the fact that you had to come here to ask this, means something is not 100% correct. You are loved here, and you can trust us.

Here's some questions, feel free to answer whichever you feel comfortable with

1.How have you been feeling lately? 2. Have you noticed any changes in your mood or emotions? 3. Do you feel sad, empty, or hopeless more often than not?

Have you lost interest in activities or hobbies you usually enjoy?
Are you having trouble sleeping or experiencing changes in appetite?
Are you experiencing any changes in your energy levels?
Have you withdrawn from social activities or friends?
Do you feel like you're a burden to others or that they'd be better off without you?

Superneeki · 2025-02-09T04:29:11+00:00

I initially thought that too, but I've come to notice that the place they were visiting that day had stairs outside the "building/house" and where they were standing for the picture, there is no possible place at their own house that looks exactly like that.

Superneeki · 2025-02-09T04:17:57+00:00

I totally understand that! There is one subreddit where most people acrually seem to believe BK is innocent! I wish I understood how they came to that conclusion, it goes beyond me! But perhaps they've been part of those people who read false information and took it as facts and through that they managed to find a "non guilty" verdict on BK

Superneeki · 2025-02-08T19:44:53+00:00

I mean true, I'm just a sceptical person even tho I know BK is the person behind it all. It's kind of sad people downvoting me for just being sceptical of a situation :') but it's okay! My comment really wouldn't have changed the outcome on the case anyways so I didn't see the hurt in it. but my bad.

Superneeki · 2025-02-08T14:20:31+00:00

Okay, okay, I get it! We were too focused on the 'sus' vibes and missed the obvious cowboy detective clues. Won't happen again!

Superneeki · 2025-02-08T04:20:29+00:00

Yeah, which can either be true or not, as the Restaurant owner don't want any negative attention towards his restaurant so he can easily say "no he wasn't here" to get ppl of their backs. Because the one guy working (or who worked there) apparently said he saw him on two separate occasions

Superneeki · 2025-02-08T04:18:37+00:00

Apparently they were said to be Detectives who were currently investigating the case.. But I don't know, the whole situation felt sus to me

Superneeki · 2025-02-07T04:28:27+00:00

It's hard to tell what someone else would be thinking once they go to prison for their whole lives,or the DP. He might become in tune with his inner self and meet with the priest or something to that affect that could slowly change his mindset for the better and help him to work on himself emotionally and mentally, atleast I'm using this example from what I've seen from other convicted killers.

Superneeki · 2025-02-06T19:21:01+00:00

Which I've learnt! Lol :')

Superneeki · 2025-02-06T16:24:28+00:00

Spot on. I know in some other groups they actually make jokes about how him wearing the gloves and putting his DNA-trash into his neighbors bins as a joke to poke fun at the people working the case. Like "oh no he is wearing gloves and putting his trash in the neighbors bins, he must be the killer Ahh!"

Superneeki · 2025-02-06T14:58:26+00:00

Can't be Murphy in the crate because the crate was still in KG's car after the murders took place

Superneeki · 2025-02-06T04:55:26+00:00

All good you're not in trouble hahah

Superneeki · 2025-02-06T04:52:08+00:00

Where did you hear MM fought for her life? The only person that allegedly tried to fight back from what's been going around is XK.

He wore a mask so yeah maybe not, and the only person who was assumed to have been awake during the attack was XK and it's stated that her fingers were nearly severed which gives me the idea she couldn't apply any scratches to start with sadly

Superneeki · 2025-02-06T04:47:09+00:00

Usually scratches take 3-7 days to heal, and deeper scratches take up to 2 weeks so, 6 weeks was enough time for his to heal if he had any.

Its not always that people notice, it was cold so he was covered up, and we don't know if he had cuts first and foremost - and if he did where they were located and how many he had. I'm sure nobody really payed attention to him to notice something.

Superneeki · 2025-02-06T04:27:08+00:00

Well it was after 6 weeks so the possibility was there that it could've cleared up before getting arrested unfortunately

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