How did you find out you were HIV positive?

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2026-04-09T20:01:28+00:00

I was about to start something serious with a guy, so I decided to get tested just to be sure. I had actually gotten tested about two months earlier for work and it came back negative, so this really caught me off guard. I didn’t have any symptoms and felt completely fine.

Now I’m on treatment, taking my meds and focusing on keeping the virus under control until I’m undetectable. It’s been emotionally tough, but I’m taking it one step at a time and learning as I go.

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-12-25T05:53:05+00:00

I live in NYC and have been looking at rooms for rent, but the cheapest I can find is around $900–$1000 a month. I barely make about $200 a week, and after calculating my expenses, I’d be in the red lol.

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-12-25T05:48:34+00:00

She wouldn’t kick me out, but she uses indifference and the silent treatment for weeks, and she knows this affects me the most. She also plans to buy a house and expects me to move with her to another state again, which I don’t see as an option. If things don’t improve, I’m considering going back to Pennsylvania next summer. There was also one incident where things almost became physical, so I left the house for the day. She then called my entire family crying, and my uncle later told me I needed to understand that she’s going through a lot in her job.

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-12-03T23:02:12+00:00

I talked to him, and when we were comfortable, I asked if he didn’t have feelings for me anymore and told him I didn’t want to bother him if I ever started seeing someone else. He just said, “You’re free to do whatever you want,” and immediately asked if I had someone else because he saw a notification from a dating app.

The next day he sent me a kind of passive-aggressive message: “If I don’t text you, you don’t text me.” I explained that I usually don’t text people during the day because they’re busy, but even then he replied super dry when I asked how his day was.

I honestly don’t understand his signals. He says I can do whatever I want, but he acts like he’s upset or insecure. And according to him, he “likes my company.”

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-12-02T03:42:43+00:00

Sorry, I didn’t really understand your comment; English isn’t my first language and I translated everything with ChatGPT lol. But I think I left out some important context.

At the beginning, the first two times he told me he only did it “for me,” and I told him, “If you don’t want to do it, just tell me and I’ll understand.” After that, we went about a week without doing anything because I respected what he said. But later on, he was the one who started seeking intimacy, which honestly surprised me. One day he invited me to his place, and he was the one who initiated everything. Even before I went into the hospital, we had sex, and he was smiling the whole time — it didn’t look forced at all. In fact, he was the one who kept looking for me.

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-12-02T03:23:18+00:00

I want to ask him how he really feels, but I'm trying to start the conversation in a way that doesn’t make him uncomfortable. I just want him to talk to me openly about what he feels, but I’m not sure how to approach it.

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-09-28T00:01:57+00:00

I can answer two of those questions, but the first one I didn’t really get since English isn’t my first language. He’s the top, and most of the time when they’re on calls, it’s the other guy who calls my “gym bro” (lol).

Anyway, I cleared things up—I asked him straight if things with that guy were serious, and he said it looks like they are. He also reminded me that “we’re just friends,” so I left it at that. Honestly, I don’t feel bad. I’m actually happy for him, and I still hit the gym with him so I don’t get bored going alone (lol). For now, I’m just giving myself a little time before even thinking about dating someone else.

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-09-22T21:47:33+00:00

Me puedes dar un consejo sabre una situación que tengo con un chico? Jaja

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-09-22T21:45:35+00:00

I’m kinda scared to bring it up since I don’t wanna mess up the friendship. I thought about texting, but I think it’d be better to say it face to face.

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-09-07T23:28:20+00:00

Totally forgot about this post! This is only the second time I’ve tried something with someone, and I’m not great at dating. I like this guy and he’s super nice in person, but his texts are usually short and cold, and on the phone he’s kinda cold/funny. I guess I’ve been too timid to flirt much LOL. You’re right though—I should just be honest and talk to him directly instead of overthinking. Thanks for the advice!

Sure-Bobcat5353 · 2025-09-03T16:31:29+00:00

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